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irc333 Established Member

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I have to say, I've come across some pretty demanding profiles, there's one I just read that that she said she'll set the standards one WHEN she'll decide to meet in person. She stated that she's not going to RUSh or JUMP into meeting someone, she'll take her time online..next would be the IM and then FINALLY the phone. Yikes

 

She said it all depends on the guy ,and how the GUY makes her feel comfortable towards HIM.

 

She said to keep ALL phones in your CAR and not on your person, if she SEES it, she's gone. (interesting since everyone keeps their communication devices on their person, I just don't answer it)

 

Even weird...in the "First dates" section she has NO fishing, boating (that kind of makes sense) Tiki bars, bike rides,anything water related, movies (that kind of makes sense too)...or anything similar to what was listed, she said she can do those on her own anytime.

 

And I'm thinking "Um....okay.....I guess DINNER is an option or drinks? Hope she doesn't accuse me for taking her to a tiki bar for dinner."

 

I just found it odd the specific hangups she had against certain dating venues...and she does everything in caps in certain areas of the text, and double exclamation pts.

 

Even better, one time I saw a woman list SIX signs of the Zodiac of men that should not EMAIL her AND.....that he HAS be circumsized LOL!!

 

So anyone else here have examples of the kind of men/women who you thought was irrationally demanding in what they're looking for.

 

And I'm not talking about height or physical appearances here, but I'm talking strictly bizarre/irrational demands.

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I find it to be a good vetting process, no matter how nuts it sounds to some people. Saying what they wants albeit limiting various possibilities. Also some people will specifically ask that person not to be into certain things due to a poor experience with an ex. But if what they are not looking for fits the criteria then that person will contact them.

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Good pont lemon...I'm starting to notice this more and more, I'm seeing profiles of what they are NOT looking for in a mate, and sometimes you don't see an inkling of what they ARE looking for.

 

IT's all "Please don't be this" or "Don't email me if you're that!"

 

 

I find it to be a good vetting process, no matter how nuts it sounds to some people. Saying what they wants albeit limiting various possibilities. Also some people will specifically ask that person not to be into certain things due to a poor experience with an ex. But if what they are not looking for fits the criteria then that person will contact them.
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Those are the best. Those make it so easy to weed out. She's definitely too crazy to be relationship material. So if she's hot enough she could be worth it to go through the motions and be a one and done. It almost makes you want to do it out of spite.

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Every profile I've every read put up by a female (sorry, I don't read ones from males) it always states what they WANT from a partner and not what they are willing to offer. It would be so nice and refreshing sometime to hear what the female will bring to the table along with what she may seek.

 

I defense of many of the ladies, I think often they put stuff they don't want after meeting so very many who have the bad qualities they are trying to avoid...or if they may be getting too many responses from old men, men without jobs, married men, etc. It's not easy finding decent people to date, online or in person.

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I saw this "addenum" at the end of a woman's profile, I had to do a double take, I wonder if I mininterpet this:

 

"Very important: I'm looking for a man who likes to make plans for a woman on a REGULAR BASIS, who is creative and thoughtful"

 

Oh really, and what kind of plans is she willing to make for her partner?!

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i saw this "addenum" at the end of a woman's profile, i had to do a double take, i wonder if i mininterpet this:

 

"very important: I'm looking for a man who likes to make plans for a woman on a regular basis, who is creative and thoughtful"

 

oh really, and what kind of plans is she willing to make for her partner?!

 

exactly!!!

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I saw this "addenum" at the end of a woman's profile, I had to do a double take, I wonder if I mininterpet this:

 

"Very important: I'm looking for a man who likes to make plans for a woman on a REGULAR BASIS, who is creative and thoughtful"

 

Oh really, and what kind of plans is she willing to make for her partner?!

 

It's almost pathetic when you have to put that in your profile.

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I actually have found an interesting thing about this, and that is that women often listen personality traits they don't want men to have. BUT, I have found that a lot of men list PHYSICAL traits they don't want women to have.

 

For example, a lot of men say things like "no offense but if you're obese it won't work." Or something similar regarding hair color or tattoos etc.

 

And I think both genders are equally guilty of saying they "don't want drama" (which to me ALWAYS indicates that they are full of drama!)

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I actually have found an interesting thing about this, and that is that women often listen personality traits they don't want men to have. BUT, I have found that a lot of men list PHYSICAL traits they don't want women to have.

 

For example, a lot of men say things like "no offense but if you're obese it won't work." Or something similar regarding hair color or tattoos etc.

 

Changing your physical appearance is a lot, lot easier than changing your personality. Anyone can lose weight, change their hair color and put on some make up overnight. However, it could take years to undo and redo a lifetime of mental wiring.

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So it's ok for men to demand a physical change?

 

I don't get it.

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I actually have found an interesting thing about this, and that is that women often listen personality traits they don't want men to have. BUT, I have found that a lot of men list PHYSICAL traits they don't want women to have.

 

For example, a lot of men say things like "no offense but if you're obese it won't work." Or something similar regarding hair color or tattoos etc.

 

And I think both genders are equally guilty of saying they "don't want drama" (which to me ALWAYS indicates that they are full of drama!)

 

Actually I see a lot of women list physical traits they will not accept. Women can get away with it, while men are considered shallow if they say the same thing.

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So it's ok for men to demand a physical change?

 

I don't get it.

 

Name some other physical qualifiers in male profiles besides "don't be fat." I've never seen one, and it isn't exactly hidden knowledge that men generally prefer women who aren't fat.

 

To answer the topic, my favorites in terms of demands are 1) the ones 5'7" and under who want > 6 ft height, and 2) the ones who have the minimum income checked for themselves, are of average attractiveness at best, have 2+ children who live at home, and have the highest income box checked for their preference in a man. Talk about complete overvaluation of oneself in the dating market, hilarious.

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Talk about complete overvaluation of oneself in the dating market, hilarious.

 

The thing is, in the online dating market, these women will still have no problems finding men...it's just part of the imbalance inherent in modern online dating...

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Oh really, and what kind of plans is she willing to make for her partner?!

 

Shes a little princess and has the vagina. Shes just got to show up.

 

No I'm not gender bashing - there are just a lot of those.. especially in OLD. The man to woman ratio is so high that they think they don't have to do anything.

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I usually bypass the "demanding profiles because they don't come off as friendly.

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Name some other physical qualifiers in male profiles besides "don't be fat." I've never seen one, and it isn't exactly hidden knowledge that men generally prefer women who aren't fat.

 

To answer the topic, my favorites in terms of demands are 1) the ones 5'7" and under who want > 6 ft height, and 2) the ones who have the minimum income checked for themselves, are of average attractiveness at best, have 2+ children who live at home, and have the highest income box checked for their preference in a man. Talk about complete overvaluation of oneself in the dating market, hilarious.

 

Hahaha!! I got some angry messages from men on a dating site about that. I didn't check the highest but I did say $75k +. But seriously the only reason I put that is because I make $110k and I don't want to be the breadwinner. Thats fair I think, right? I just didn't list my income on it so mast guys assumed I was gold digging. LOL!!

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I make $110k

 

The ones I am talking about usually have the 35k box checked for themselves. But I have to ask you, if you saw a really cool teacher's profile, or a guy who was a craftsman, mechanic or something, who emailed you, and he made 50k, would that disqualify him if you liked him otherwise?

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The ones I am talking about usually have the 35k box checked for themselves. But I have to ask you, if you saw a really cool teacher's profile, or a guy who was a craftsman, mechanic or something, who emailed you, and he made 50k, would that disqualify him if you liked him otherwise?

 

I guess that depends on his personality. Realistically that would leave me with paying for majority of household and travel expenses, but I wouldn't completely disqualify him. However I think about things like...what if we decided to have a child together. With my income level my kids are used to a very nice lifestyle and if I had to be out of work for pregnancy then that would all change. It's just not realistic. But because I don't list my income on there lots of people are under the assumption that I am that $35k/yr girl looking for a free ride.

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Realistically that would leave me with paying for majority of household and travel expenses

 

I don't understand how that would be the case, as you are doing that now and his income would just be an addition. After all taxes, your income should be about 55-65k, and his would be about 35k.

 

Are you sure it isn't that lots of women have general "free-floating" issues with dating a man who makes less than they do? ;)

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1) I love how the same guys show up in multiple threads using terms like "entitled little princess" and its not gender bashing. and 2) how its assumed that women have it so easy in the dating world.

 

As to profile demands, meh, I figure people have the right to state what they want and what they don't want. There's no real point in wasting a lot of time trying to convince someone to like you or date you when they aren't interested.

 

I have a few "demands" of my own, and I think it would be weird if you claimed to want nothing in a partner. My demands are mostly on the lines of "be self-supporting" and "be respectful of me".

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link those profiles pls?

it is ridiculous. who does she think she is, megan fox

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irc333 Established Member

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how its assumed that women have it so easy in the dating world.

 

Actually, it's easier for women than men in the dating world, tons of women typically have no problem getting dates. Esp with online dating, I hear from female friends how they get 20 emails a day from men.

 

Also, going beyond that, even the law typically sides with women in divorce, law , and custody cases.

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Actually, it's easier for women than men in the dating world, tons of women typically have no problem getting dates. Esp with online dating, I hear from female friends how they get 20 emails a day from men.

 

Also, going beyond that, even the law typically sides with women in divorce, law , and custody cases.

 

I don't know anyone who gets 20 emails a day, and I tend to end up getting harassed by guys who are way too young for me, way too old, or quickly reveal themselves to have other issues.

 

And there is a difference between "getting a date" which is easy if your standards are low enough, and finding someone worth spending a significant portion of your time and attention on.

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