tami-chan Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I really feel like this one particular girl is giving me the run-around (I think I'm noticing a pattern with college girls). I started talking to this girl I've seen around campus. She gave me her number the first time we met, and I called the next day to make a date for Thursday night. Like this other girl I was talking about a few weeks ago, she gave me the "Let-me-get-back-to-you," and waits until Thursday night (after I've cleared my schedule in case she was available) to say she's unavailable. I suggested Monday and she said "I might be doing stuff with my friends. I'll call you back." She never called me back. We say hi and she stops to talk to me every time we see each other on campus. She even comes over to me when I'm sitting far away. But she never calls or texts me first on the phone. She never initiates an invitation to hang out. She never suggests an alternative to those canceled dates. I texted her last night asking if she was free tonight. I didn't even ask for a date. I simply texted "Hey, you free after you get out of your club?" No call or text back yet. I just wanna know, is there anything I can do to make this girl commit to a time and a place to meet? Or should I just say "I give up?" Literally, as in actually text the words "I give up" back to her. I think it is rude of her not to tell you straight up she is not interested. At the same time, why do you keep on asking or suggesting that you want to go out with her? Stop-it is like you do not get it-how dense can one be?
Bogo123 Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 That is not true. I've made a girl cry and apologize after telling her off for leading me on. I'm really tempted to do it again. I'm really not happy with the way things turned out with this girl. Why give a guy hope when you're not interested? Why is one date so much to ask? I'm really on the verge of just messaging her, "Wow I give up! You said you wanted to go out, you always come talk to me, but every time I ask you out, you ignore me or don't get back to me. It's really inconsistent and annoying. I don't appreciate being led on. Don't bother talking to me when you see me on campus." Its a sign of desperation and neediness when a guy gets all sensitive that a girl won't go out with him. A confident man with options can just brush it off. But if it makes you feel better, by all means.
brainygirl Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 She isn't interested in going out with you, but for some reason is willing to talk with you when you meet. I can't tell you why she is like that, but she is. It isn't your job to call her out of behavior you feel to be rude. She won't hear it anyway, and she may have what she feels to be a very good reason. (boyfriend, strict parents, religious beliefs that preclude "dating") If I were you, I'd still be courteous to her on campus, but then I don't tend to put members of the opposite sex into two boxes, one labeled: I want to date and get into your pants, and the other labeled: I do not want to date you so you are not worth talking to. But I realize many males do this. Quit pursuing a date though.
dispatch3d Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 give a guy hope? What the **** are you going on about. Give a guy hope about what? What's that even ****ing mean. Give a guy hope. What the hell man. You decided she was kinda cool and suggested lets meet up sometime. She decided to play chase my ****ing tail for an hour. **** that. You moved on her ****ing loss. End of story.
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