p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 she disrespected me and I got angry at her actions. then a few days later I dumped her in a final talk. (calmly). but now shes wrote me 2 letters. my question is, what the hell is she trying to pull and achieve??? and what should I interpret this and do in response to this letter??? the first letter can be seen in this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t246157/ then 2 days later she wrote me a second letter(today): For that somebody，that Tom somebody that probably won't even read this: How are you？ The storm they were all talking about only just ended up being some winds and lots of rain in the end. Are you doing well？ So far I've lived two days of life in hell, being half ghost and half human。 This weather is so unpredictble，you should look after yourself well，Remember to always wear adequate clothes，don't try to dress just to look coo. If you end up sick you'll be the one suffering。 Remember to eat regularly，don't always skip meals，thats bad for your health，you are already pretty skinny。 Remember to always to get lots of rest and sleep on time，you are always pretty tired, you are always like able to sleep anywhere and anytime. Remember to don't do stupid and rebellious things that annoys your dad，you'll be the one that ends up paying the price.。 Remember to be happy everyday。although I can't interpret whether you are genuinely happy or not。 Hulucat，that place，I think you would still remember。 Silvia Park，is actually really far。 Those places，I was so spoiled by you before，You took me to go this and this place, and you took me to there，now all had become memories so profound its suffocating. the memories, they exist everywhere Did you finish those candys we bought ？I only just started eating that packet of skittles，its so sour。 Do you still go to that other candy shop? I still haven't finished those plums. We promised each other that we would go to all those places。we promised each other that we'd be together all the way into the future。 You had said to me that you'd never let me leave you。You had said to me that you would be the only person in this city that I could trust and depend on. You had said you would look after me You had said to me that you would tell me a bedtime story each night. You had said so much and so much. As for now, you have not accoomplished all those things so you are prepared to leave？ Is it that too much time was spent bathing in all the happy moments, already forgetting to notice that actually the time has has gone by so fast Is it that we are all wrong that we didn't act in the correct manner to face all this. Sorry that I was too selfish, too concerned with trying to change you into the the way I want you to become and satisfied with, but had forgot to think about whether you'd like it or not. Sorry that I was ways did not think about how you felt. Sorry that no matter how many sorrys I say, things cannot be changed. Sorry that in the end you were still disappointed in me. Its my fault. Maybe, the choice that you've made ，was a good choice for you。 I always wanted too much. Brought so much trouble and inconvenience to your life。 Really, I'm sorry Apologies. From now on there will never be anyone sending you texts asking for you。 From now on there will never be anyone arguing with you over texts.。 There will never be anyone doing things that makes you upset and angry. There will never be anyone dragging you to go to this place and that place. After, "see you next time", was said But then suddenly realised there won't be a next time you need to be good, need to remember to be happy。 although I know in the future we'll never meet again，even though this city is so small。 ［This small scar, will heal quickly。］ By (her name) what the hell is she trying to achieve? make me feel sad? make me feel happy? what? and what should I react to all this????? what would you think if you received this letter? (she posted this to her facebook and I came across it,I think she didnt allow access to this to other people on facebook except me) thanks confused.
MrNate Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 er, ok what? I'm trying to understand what's going on here. How/when did she cheat on you? What was it over? I think I'm getting you mixed up with someone else.
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 She's bat sh*t crazy. Don't do anything except block her email/FB/IM/etc.
dispatch3d Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 She's bat sh*t crazy. Don't do anything except block her email/FB/IM/etc. she's just emotional. That letters a lot better. She actually gives a **** about you instead of herself and realizes she was selfish.
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 For a moment there, I thought it was your mother writing to you. Geez, what's with all the advice about eating and clothing? Does she think you're a complete moron? Uh, quite simply, do not respond to this nonsense. First of all, the letter is ridiculous and secondly, she's just trying to elicit a response. She may be sorry for what she did and may want you back but you have to ask yourself if you want to go down that road again. I wouldn't if I were you. Trying to get past someone cheating is a monumental task. Anyway, she sounds just a little more than deranged, based on that letter. She may be sorry now but if you took her back, she'd just go right back to the same old stuff. Ignore her. It's your definitive statement.
that girl Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Really she didn't cheat on you. Disrespected I can see but she didn't cheat on you. I posted this before but I find it worrying how you sometimes blow this up into a bigger thing that it was. She is an immature drama queen. That is what the Facebook post is. At the same time, I kind of think she is letting you off easy. You both had issues in this relationship. What you need to do is send her a message on Facebook and defriend her. It isn't good for you to be dealing with her drama queen behavior. What you say is "I think it is best for both of us to have a clean break so I am removing you from my Facebook friends list. Even though things didn't work out with us, I wish you the best."
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 OMG, I just now realized this was you pOw3r! What is it with this girl? She never makes a lick of sense when she writes. I hope she's not pursuing a degree in English Lit or anything. haha. The thing is, you don't really know for a fact that she cheated on you. The real issue here was her dumb behavior - causing you to question her actions - and her blatant disrespect for you. I repeat what I said before, if you go back to her, it'll be the same stuff, different day.
leftfordead2 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 This is a first time I read a post break up letter here that strikes me as creepy.
Author p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 I want to make clear that she DID NOT SEND THIS LETTER TO ME DIRECTLY. She put this letter up on her facebook page as a "note". she did not send this to me or email this to me. i simply came across it. i think she thought i would visit her page since i am still her friend on facebook and notice it and then read it. does this make a difference?
dispatch3d Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I want to make clear that she DID NOT SEND THIS LETTER TO ME DIRECTLY. She put this letter up on her facebook page as a "note". she did not send this to me or email this to me. i simply came across it. i think she thought i would visit her page since i am still her friend on facebook and notice it and then read it. does this make a difference? Man she is melodramatic. No wonder you two got along so well.
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I want to make clear that she DID NOT SEND THIS LETTER TO ME DIRECTLY. She put this letter up on her facebook page as a "note". she did not send this to me or email this to me. i simply came across it. Whaaaaattt??? I repeat: bat sh*t crazy. Through in some manipulative drama queen in there too, for good measure.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I want to make clear that she DID NOT SEND THIS LETTER TO ME DIRECTLY. She put this letter up on her facebook page as a "note". she did not send this to me or email this to me. i simply came across it. i think she thought i would visit her page since i am still her friend on facebook and notice it and then read it. does this make a difference? Difference to what? lol power... Dude, you read too much into every last detail. Block her on facebook, cut off all contact with her because you're going to go insane overanalysing everything she says and does. How old is she? I bet you her FB friends are getting a laugh out of her publications of your private life... if they can understand her gibberish. Is English her second language? Yeah, but as Stargazer said, definitely bat**** crazy.
Author p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 Really she didn't cheat on you. Disrespected I can see but she didn't cheat on you. I admit, that she did not actually "cheat cheat" on me as in any sexual. so yes, she didn't cheat on me in that technical sense. but there was a high level of disrespect and what she did would not have been acceptable to any normal boyfriend. if you tell your boyfriend to go home and you stay on at another guy's house, I see that as a huge sign of disrespect. so yes, she didnt cheat on me, but what she had done I believe was more than enough to ruin the relationship. agree? if not please tell me why. I posted this before but I find it worrying how you sometimes blow this up into a bigger thing that it was. I'm not sure what you mean by me blowing this up? Its a letter and I just described it as such. She is an immature drama queen. That is what the Facebook post is. she is a drama queen indeed. every one of our friends knew that months ago. I thought as long as the relationship was happy then there would be little drama. but when it soured obviously she is a big drama queen. At the same time, I kind of think she is letting you off easy. You both had issues in this relationship. she let me off easy? how so? what would you say she'd have done if she didnt let me off easy. What you need to do is send her a message on Facebook and defriend her. It isn't good for you to be dealing with her drama queen behavior. What you say is "I think it is best for both of us to have a clean break so I am removing you from my Facebook friends list. Even though things didn't work out with us, I wish you the best." I will defriend her on facebook. In the end, I have a random feeling that she is trying to make me feel sorry for myself and think I've been used by her. Then she can feel happy about her self that she won the war of power and got the better of me in this relationship and took advantage of me. She has a sense of self-satisfaction that I'm treated badly. do you agree?
USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 W...T...F... That "letter" was so incoherent that I couldn't stand to read more than a few lines...
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Through in... Ugh. What a typo! I meant THROW in... (It's getting late...)
Sabali Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 This is one of those Hoover mindf**** that carhill speaks of so well. Carhill, weigh in, my friend. So this mind screw is working. It has you all worked up and consuming your mind. She is good except she forgot to tell you to always eat your spinach and don't talk with your mouth full. Stop
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 W...T...F... That "letter" was so incoherent that I couldn't stand to read more than a few lines... Did you see that it was a public "note"!??
Author p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 Difference to what? lol power... Dude, you read too much into every last detail. Block her on facebook, cut off all contact with her because you're going to go insane overanalysing everything she says and does. How old is she? I bet you her FB friends are getting a laugh out of her publications of your private life... if they can understand her gibberish. Is English her second language? Yeah, but as Stargazer said, definitely bat**** crazy. Well yes, englisih is her second language. but please disregard all the grammatical and spelling mistakes. I know it doesnt flow so smoothly but I am not fluent in her native language so she wrote this to me in english. but please dont judge on all the grammar mistakes etc etc. she is 19. (everyones been making fun of her saying that shes 12 tho, even me). haha I guess thats true. her public outcries on facebook is the centre of attention getting many comments from different people. I admit I'm going insane of analysing this haha. but i cant help it.
Author p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 Did you see that it was a public "note"!?? it wasn't public. It was a note but she only made it accessible to me. I got a mutual friend of ours to check and he couldnt see the note on her profile.
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Ugh. What a typo! I meant THROW in... (It's getting late...) haha. I'm still laughing about the bat *hit crazy thing you said. :laugh:
Author p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 W...T...F... That "letter" was so incoherent that I couldn't stand to read more than a few lines... please disregard all the grammatical errors etc. if you say the "content" of her letter, as in her telling me to look after myself etc, was incoherent, then thats ok. but please dont judge on the grammar etc. english is her second language.
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 She is good except she forgot to tell you to always eat your spinach and don't talk with your mouth full. I think the drugs might've worn off before she got to that part.
that girl Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I admit, that she did not actually "cheat cheat" on me as in any sexual. I think ending the relationship was the right thing to do, but saying she cheated when she didn't is just blowing things up into something they aren't. It is drama king behavior. she let me off easy? how so? what would you say she'd have done if she didnt let me off easy. You lost a prized posession, you didn't communicate well, you occassionally left her hanging. She is still a crazy drama queen, but she has reasonable ammo aganist you. In the end, I have a random feeling that she is trying to make me feel sorry for myself and think I've been used by her. Then she can feel happy about her self that she won the war of power and got the better of me in this relationship and took advantage of me. She has a sense of self-satisfaction that I'm treated badly. do you agree? I think you are projecting. You think about power a lot, so you assume everyone else does. She is looking for sympathy and I doubt she is trying to hurt you. I would send a nice, short note wishing her well and letting her know you are defriending her. You go to the same school and know people in common, feeding the drama is a bad idea.
USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Did you see that it was a public "note"!?? I promise I'll never be that batsh*t crazy to post mysterious "notes" like that on FB...and if I ever do, you have my permission to slap the living sh*t out of me with a boat paddle...
Author p0w3r Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 This is one of those Hoover mindf**** that carhill speaks of so well. Carhill, weigh in, my friend. So this mind screw is working. It has you all worked up and consuming your mind. She is good except she forgot to tell you to always eat your spinach and don't talk with your mouth full. Stop so you are saying she is trying to screw with my mind? so what do you think is the message she is trying to send me? is she trying to make me feeling guilty or is she trying to make me feel she got the better of me? or what? and why did she tell me about all those things about eating properly, taking care of myself. why?
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