elaina Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I think the "bad apples" in a group tend to stick out. The truly great members of both sexes just go about their business being great and no one notices. Totally right (and sometimes it seems that the "bad apples" are more fun to talk about too) Why is that exactly?
brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Totally right (and sometimes it seems that the "bad apples" are more fun to talk about too) Why is that exactly? Because they are more entertaining, and you get to feel better than those being discusssed. Plus they usually have done something outrageous that inspired the talking.
Disillusioned Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 It goes both ways. I'm not fond of most women (and I'm straight) because I've never known one who wasn't mean-spirited. Maybe other men like that in a woman. But Realdoll notwithstanding, I guess I have a needle-in-a-haystack mentality that eventually I'll find the right one... when I'm way past 60 and have no interest in women anymore. They've done a pretty good job of wrecking my trust in them. However I'm not fond of most other men either... they occasionally need a kick in the pants when they start in with the macho BS sex/sports/alcohol thing. If I was a woman, I'd knee 'em in the crotch every time one of 'em tried to get ribald with me.
johan Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 you left me off the list I was on it. I took second billing. It's a little-known fact that getting listed second is actually the best place to be listed. Most people think the first one is the most highly ranked. But that's not always true. Many cultures don't have the American "competitive spirit" and admire the guy more who came in second. For that very reason, I generally appreciate getting listed right after someone else. I'm not the stereotypical American who needs to be first. Second is the best place to be, because there's a bit of headroom. And also you don't have as far down to fall. Yup. Go, second!! Woo hoo!!
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I was on it. I took second billing. It's a little-known fact that getting listed second is actually the best place to be listed. Most people think the first one is the most highly ranked. But that's not always true. Many cultures don't have the American "competitive spirit" and admire the guy more who came in second. For that very reason, I generally appreciate getting listed right after someone else. I'm not the stereotypical American who needs to be first. Second is the best place to be, because there's a bit of headroom. And also you don't have as far down to fall. Yup. Go, second!! Woo hoo!! I was first, what up. :laugh:
johan Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe if you put a little time into it and are extra nice to Shadow, she'll list you second next time. Only one of us can be second, I'm afraid. First isn't so bad, you know. It's not true that no one ever remembers who came in first. Sometimes people do. Hang in there! Better luck next time!
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe if you put a little time into it and are extra nice to Shadow, she'll list you second next time. Only one of us can be second, I'm afraid. First isn't so bad, you know. It's not true that no one ever remembers who came in first. Sometimes people do. Hang in there! Better luck next time! Mmmm, a boy can dream...
MrNate Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Well some people weren't listed at all, so I don't think there should be any complaining. But as far as the OP goes..I guess it's just part of the challenge of finding someone good for you. If it were simple, we would all be paired off by now. That my guess anyway.
Author shadowplay Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 I went to a single sex for most of my life and I was pretty much surrounded by escalated levels of bitchiness the whole time. It's a bit of an unnatural position to be in (that is, being around girls only all the time) but it has definitely made a big contribution to turning me off girls, atleast a bit. I feel like a lot of the time there is an element of competition between women, especially regarding men. Frankly, I can't be bothered with the jealousy and manipulation that often surfaces because of their insecurities and all that crap which they sometimes fall back on to justify their behaviour. I've been out of school for 9 months, and since then, I've realised that I'm far more compatible with men (for the most part). I feel like they are far more approachable and easy to make friends with. For example, if I'm going out with a crowd that I'm not too familiar with, the girls will usually stick together and won't make it easy for me to be let into their 'group'. They'll stick with whom they already know and will be reluctant to let any newcomers in. Guys usually try their best to accomodate and make me feel like I'm part of their possy and I always appreciate that. There was one facebook (yeah I know, ) incident that really strung out to me and made me upset with women. I do a lot of promo work in the summer for some cash and fun in the sun. On one particular event, I got tagged in several photos (none of them were indecent in my opinion). I had a influx of verging on abusive comments from a lot of girls, and some of my 'friends.' None of these comments were from men by the way. After that incident, I deleted my fb because I didn't want to be a part of all that drama. Anyways, I like both men and women. Definitely have a preference towards men though. I think we can agree that the ugliness of both genders multiplies when they get together in herds.
BobSacamento Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Mmmm, a boy can dream... If there is one thing I know about women, you really don't even want to be close to being on that list.
Author shadowplay Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 If there is one thing I know about women, you really don't even want to be close to being on that list. ........ All of those guys are very dateable and hunky. And I know for a fact that they don't have much trouble with women.
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 If there is one thing I know about women, you really don't even want to be close to being on that list. Heh, I'll take my chances...
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Well some people weren't listed at all, so I don't think there should be any complaining. But as far as the OP goes..I guess it's just part of the challenge of finding someone good for you. If it were simple, we would all be paired off by now. That my guess anyway. I listed you Mr. Nate, in my own private head.
witabix Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I think we can agree that the ugliness of both genders multiplies when they get together in herds. There is something Nietzsche-esque about that post.
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I listed you Mr. Nate, in my own private head. I listed you too, Nate. I actually wrote it down, too...on the back of this envelope here on my desk. I think I'm going to frame it and put it up on my wall. Then I'm going to go to Target and buy little heart and Hello Kitty stickers to affix to the frame. No homo.
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I listed you too, Nate. I actually wrote it down, too...on the back of this envelope here on my desk. I think I'm going to frame it and put it up on my wall. Then I'm going to go to Target and buy little heart and Hello Kitty stickers to affix to the frame. No homo. That's...so...homo-erotic.
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I listed you too, Nate. I actually wrote it down, too...on the back of this envelope here on my desk. I think I'm going to frame it and put it up on my wall. Then I'm going to go to Target and buy little heart and Hello Kitty stickers to affix to the frame. No homo. This was fine and good until you said Hello Kitty...again. Make it stop!!! I dunno what the OP's deal is though, really... I really like men.
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 This was fine and good until you said Hello Kitty...again. Make it stop!!! Hahah, I'm going to have to tear apart my bathroom then... That's...so...homo-erotic. Well...I did say no homo...
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Well...I did say no homo... That statement holds no water, it's probably just reverse psychology.
witabix Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Well...I did say no homo... Come on boys, forget the no homo, get naked and get in the tub.
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Come on boys, forget the no homo, get naked and get in the tub. Rub-a-dub each other's cookies.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I like men, I just don't like how most of them approach dating. I hate that a lot will not think twice of completely deceiving a girl to get their sexual needs met. I also hate how once they feel they don't need you anymore, or are getting needs met elsewhere, they will just ignore you without so much as a 1 sentence explanation. They will then label you "crazy" if you try to contact them to get the said explanation. Men can be fun as friends though, as you don't have to deal with any of the above. Even my biggest jerk-o ex was quite an entertaining friend. I also want to give a shout out to few LS men that went out of their way to help me with advice: westrock, Phateless and WintersNightTraveler. And USHMC is a sweetie. I guess Star will find out if he is a homo
gypsy_nicky Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 ........ All of those guys are very dateable and hunky. And I know for a fact that they don't have much trouble with women. and a lot of those men are the ones doing the validation of your shortcomings. If these men were with you irl, you would prolly treat them as emotional blankets cos all they do is agree.
witabix Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Rub-a-dub each other's cookies. Cookies go too soft in warm soapy water...:eek::eek:
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I agree with you, SAC, in that I really don't care for the way most men approach dating. I just got off the phone with a GF who was just dumped this morning, and I didn't care for the way we went about it either. But there are enough good seeds out there to keep the hope alive! Case in point: And USHMC is a sweetie. I guess Star will find out if he is a homo That he is. When I found myself going to him for advice, and loving his responses, I found myself thinking, "Now see, this is the type of guy I'd want to date!" A total catch! He's just GOT to stop with the HK nonsense...
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