lino Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Rule? Get a grip on reality. There are walkaway husbands and wives. You hear more about wives on here because more men come on here than women because women aren't afraid to talk to people IRL about relationship issues. In real life and where I live, I've heard of many more wives walking out on marriages than husbands. Could have a lot to do with the fact that a husband has a lot more to lose through divorce than a wife. Here the laws are also much more relaxed than in the USA as far as I know so I can only guess that many more wives leave marriage there than over here. I do very much agree that women are much more likely to talk about relationship issues in real life than men. What a sad society we live in where guys are seen as weak for talking about such important and life-changing events as these.
lino Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Never make a woman the centre of your world. Never build your dreams around a woman. Never place all of your happiness on a woman. You need to be the centre of your world, a woman should be an addition, not the main component. Never go for your dream woman, before you have accomplished your dreams, never sell yourself short on anything that you feel you deserve and more importantly want with conviction. Never get a woman just bring you happiness and joy. If you aren't happy on your own, with your job and whatever else, you need to change all this and become happy before you get with a woman. And what if you have achieved your dreams which don't involve a woman but still can't form a serious relationship to save your life? Then what? Even if you are happy with your job, accomplishments and being on your own, a life without any sort of genuine companionship gets pretty boring eventually.
TaraMaiden Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Well geez maybe because he wanted to ask a question regarding his perspective. I didn't know there is always a correct way to ask a ****ing question. By his own admission, Woggle has been heavily biased and prejudiced against women for some time. This is why, bless him, he's going through therapy. To help him reach a state where he manages to view matters with greater equillibrium, and less bias and judgement. It's been a hard struggle for him, but I for one recognise how difficult it is for someone with such a history, to turn their views around, admit their mistakes and make efforts to redress the balance. He's making inroads, but it's not easy. Then people will not pick at you, and herald you as a prime example of how biased and unrealistic your one-sided, swinging statements seem to be. Will they?. Could you show me where, and which 'people' have done that? I don't see any 'people' doing that. I see only 'you' doing that. If it makes you feel better, carry on. It concerns me a lot less than you think.
Sphere Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 And what if you have achieved your dreams which don't involve a woman but still can't form a serious relationship to save your life? Then what? Even if you are happy with your job, accomplishments and being on your own, a life without any sort of genuine companionship gets pretty boring eventually. When you enter this world, you enter it alone and when you leave this world you leave it the same way you entered it. Everything in between is what you make it. I'd sooner die a single man, doing and accomplishing what I set out to do then die a committed man having no life and accomplishing nothing.
Author Woggle Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 In real life and where I live, I've heard of many more wives walking out on marriages than husbands. Could have a lot to do with the fact that a husband has a lot more to lose through divorce than a wife. Here the laws are also much more relaxed than in the USA as far as I know so I can only guess that many more wives leave marriage there than over here. I do very much agree that women are much more likely to talk about relationship issues in real life than men. What a sad society we live in where guys are seen as weak for talking about such important and life-changing events as these. The walkway wife thing is pretty much an epidemic. Not all women are like this but many marriages are breaking up because of it. When I look around I do notice a decent number of happy relationships. Most of my wife's friends are in one and the single ones are good people who don't try to talk her into hating me. Maybe I don't give the good women enough credit but I use this board to vent.
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 The walkway wife thing is pretty much an epidemic. Not all women are like this but many marriages are breaking up because of it. When I look around I do notice a decent number of happy relationships. Most of my wife's friends are in one and the single ones are good people who don't try to talk her into hating me. Maybe I don't give the good women enough credit but I use this board to vent. I don't know...you seem to make it sound like these women are walking away for no reason. I guess you could call me a 'walk away wife' but it's not because I just did it for fun. I worked hard to work out the problems because I did not want my marriages to end. But you need to understand, Woggle, that there are a LOT of demented and dysfunctional people out there and they can behave horribly in relationships. Just because a person is married doesn't mean they have a right to act any way they choose. I doubt that there are many women or men out there who walk away without trying hard to make things work first. You make it seem like someone leaving for any reason is cold-hearted. Sometimes, a person is left with no other choice.
Pyro Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 (edited) In real life and where I live, I've heard of many more wives walking out on marriages than husbands. Could have a lot to do with the fact that a husband has a lot more to lose through divorce than a wife. Here the laws are also much more relaxed than in the USA as far as I know so I can only guess that many more wives leave marriage there than over here. I do very much agree that women are much more likely to talk about relationship issues in real life than men. What a sad society we live in where guys are seen as weak for talking about such important and life-changing events as these. My point was that both genders do it. Woggles exception to the rule comment makes it sound as though the earth stops revolving when its a man who does it. Guys are weak if they let the opinion of those who feel that way affect them in any way and it stops them from expressing what is on their mind. I'd rather get out in the open what is on my mind rather than bottle it up and turn me bitter. Edited September 19, 2010 by Pyro
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