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[Distant78]

So me and my FWB are hanging out at Fudruckers with our other two friends when my xW shows up to be seated. I literally froze to death and i'm thinking man she still looks good. So i'm really getting nervous when her waiter walks xW towards me. She sees me and her eyes beam at me as she stops at my table and says, "Hey Michael, I haven't seen you in a while!" She tries to bend down and hug me but my FWB stops her and says, "Uh-uh, don't touch my man, he's mine now." My friends are staring at me, then FWB like they're about to bust out laughing. I almost laughed myself but held my composure. My xW looks at her like she saw a ghost and stands back up to put her hands back in her jeans, then she says to me, "So I see you replaced me huh? I hope she's taking care of you." I sit back further in my seat looking at her dumbfounded and said, "You still got that smart mouth on you. I didn't replace you, I remember you doing that to me, and why are you worried about who I have next to me? Don't you have to take care of YOU'RE kid that you brought into our marriage, or is OM knocking you up again?" My friends and my FWB start laughing loudly and I give one of my friends a high-five as my xW walks away to her seat. Almost as soon as she sat down she started sobbing. Her waitress asked her was she okay and did she wanted her to come back and xW said yes i'm fine i'll order in a few minutes.

 

Serves her right. I hope she keeps crying and wondering about me until she gets her head on straight. After what she did early in our marriage, I know the guilt and embarrassment is tearing her apart. I kind of felt she had the upper-hand in our marriage, my life. Now I feel the exact opposite, and it feels good. Its funny how when a BS moves on the WS feels like ****.

[Woggle]

Don't you just love when karma comes back to bite them.

[Distant78]

Don't you just love when karma comes back to bite them.

 

Hell yea. Ever since I left her my lungs expanded and I can fully breathe. It feels amazing. Before me and FWB had wild sex she told me she was going to make me forget xW.:laugh:Ahh the joys of being free.

[Woggle]

I just don't get why people like her get upset. She has exactly what she wanted so what is she crying about?

[Distant78]

I just don't get why people like her get upset. She has exactly what she wanted so what is she crying about?

 

Guilt. Because of what I said to her was the absolute truth and like all cheaters, they can't stand the truth. Just like the Devil.

[TaraMaiden]

Well done you.

I'm glad that made you feel good.

 

I think however, that it's a shame your dignity's shot to pieces.

 

Really, I do.

[Distant78]

Well done you.

I'm glad that made you feel good.

 

I think however, that it's a shame your dignity's shot to pieces.

 

Really, I do.

 

Ahh Tara, Tara. Once again your immoralistic assumptions have missed the target. My dignity is higher than it has ever been since I left xW. But you are right. It was shot to pieces when I found out about her sexual indiscretions that led to her having her first child by OM. I wish you well in your swinging endeavors.

[Woggle]

It actually sounds like he has reclaimed his dignity.

[Crazy Magnet]

Well done you.

I'm glad that made you feel good.

 

I think however, that it's a shame your dignity's shot to pieces.

 

Really, I do.

 

I tend to agree. You look like an ass now. Not that she doesn't deserve it if she had another man's baby but you could have pulled that off in a much classier way. Besides, that was your battle, not you FWB. She shouldn't have had anything to say at all.

[lso802]

I tend to agree. You look like an ass now. Not that she doesn't deserve it if she had another man's baby but you could have pulled that off in a much classier way. Besides, that was your battle, not you FWB. She shouldn't have had anything to say at all.

 

I agree with this.

[Woggle]

Why is it that this women can betray him and treat him like utter garbage yet when it turns out that life without is not the happiness and bliss she thought it would be he is wrong for rubbing it in her face a little bit?

[tami-chan]

^5!!! good for you, Distant. I hope your FWB doesn't actually think you are her man now....you owe her, you know?

[Rhythmic]

HAHAHAHA people are trying to make the other woman the victim who apparently had some other mans kid during their marriage?

 

Why is a man not allowed a bit of satisfaction after a woman embarrasses the hell out of him by getting pregnant with another man in a marriage but he embarrasses her and all of a sudden he is the *******?

[Distant78]

I tend to agree. You look like an ass now. Not that she doesn't deserve it if she had another man's baby but you could have pulled that off in a much classier way. Besides, that was your battle, not you FWB. She shouldn't have had anything to say at all.

 

LOL!! Pulled what off in a much classier way? I didn't look like an ass she did. I can't control what my FWB says.

 

I know it was my battle, and I came out victorious!!

[Distant78]

^5!!! good for you, Distant. I hope your FWB doesn't actually think you are her man now....you owe her, you know?

 

Ha-ha. Thanks Tami. I know right?

[Woggle]

I have to agree that if the genders were reversed the responses would be quite different.

[Woggle]

If OP was a woman, there'd be posts that would be saying, "Oh don't worry sweetheart, you did the right thing telling that scumbag off." Or, "That's okay honey, you'll find a wonderful man who will treat you right."

 

Yet people accuse me of bringing gender into it.

[LisaLee]

I think people are taking offense because it is such an obvious case of schadenfreude. Such things are better enjoyed in private.

 

I feel embarrassment for the XW, but it does sound like karma slapped her in the face.

[Gallaxia]

Actually Schadenfreude is pleasure derived from the misfortunes of others.

 

OP, while what she did was atrocious and imaginably incredibly painful, why would you continue to (negatively) engage her? Granted, you two were once in love and a "unit", moving on would be more healthy for you and actually hurt her more. Calling her out and embarrassing her in front of people is stooping to her level. It can be hard at times especially when emotions are running high, but hold tight to dignity.

 

And I'd honestly say the same if the gender roles were reversed.

[Distant78]

OP, while what she did was atrocious and imaginably incredibly painful, why would you continue to (negatively) engage her?

 

She said what she had to say, then I said mine. End of story.

 

Granted, you two were once in love and a "unit", moving on would be more healthy for you and actually hurt her more. Calling her out and embarrassing her in front of people is stooping to her level. It can be hard at times especially when emotions are running high, but hold tight to dignity.

 

She called me out first. She said that she hoped my FWB is taking care of me. She was being a smartass. In no way was I stooping to her level by cheating and knocking up someone else's woman. You're right on one thing though, emotions were running high. She deserved it. Her crying is hardly a price to pay for her cuckolding me. Do you know when she came home to our house with her baby in hand she had the nerve to ask me did I want to hold it? She wanted me to hold a baby that wasn't even OURS. She wanted me to hold a baby that she made with a piece of scum from the deep levels of the earth. I couldn't even knock up my own wife. I felt pathetic. When I discovered the baby wasn't even mine I felt I failed my mission as a man. I even felt like I wanted to kill myself. Those days were scary for me. I had to think long and hard about what I wanted to do with our relationship. How about you people tell me how that feels before you come telling me that merely telling her to ***** off was wrong. I enjoyed seeing her cry for feeling guilty for her lousy, skunk-smelling actions and for feeling bad knowing she lost a good man.

[tami-chan]

She said what she had to say, then I said mine. End of story.

 

 

 

She called me out first. She said that she hoped my FWB is taking care of me. She was being a smartass. In no way was I stooping to her level by cheating and knocking up someone else's woman. You're right on one thing though, emotions were running high. She deserved it. Her crying is hardly a price to pay for her cuckolding me. Do you know when she came home to our house with her baby in hand she had the nerve to ask me did I want to hold it? She wanted me to hold a baby that wasn't even OURS. She wanted me to hold a baby that she made with a piece of scum from the deep levels of the earth. I couldn't even knock up my own wife. I felt pathetic. When I discovered the baby wasn't even mine I felt I failed my mission as a man. I even felt like I wanted to kill myself. Those days were scary for me. I had to think long and hard about what I wanted to do with our relationship. How about you people tell me how that feels before you come telling me that merely telling her to ***** off was wrong. I enjoyed seeing her cry for feeling guilty for her lousy, skunk-smelling actions and for feeling bad knowing she lost a good man.

 

Good for you for telling her off-who among the people you care about thinks you lost your dignity by engaging her? I bet, none. So who cares about what the people on the net says? Personally, I wouldn't be as engaged. I would've responded, "yes thank you, she is taking care of me very well Thanks for your concern." Then make a point of dismissing her by turning my attention to my FWB-or continue to eat my food.

[theBrokenMuse]

HAHAHAHA people are trying to make the other woman the victim who apparently had some other mans kid during their marriage?

 

Why is a man not allowed a bit of satisfaction after a woman embarrasses the hell out of him by getting pregnant with another man in a marriage but he embarrasses her and all of a sudden he is the *******?

 

It has nothing to do with it being a man really... it's the 'high road' brigade. It comes from the highly spread meme that refraining from making other people feel bad, even when clearly justified, makes one morally superior.

 

Personally, I place little stock in any concept that states if you don't make any waves and place nice in the sandbox (even if people are dumping their buckets of sand over your head) you get to claim that you have 'dignity' in a self-satisfying air of righteousness... as though that's any sort of real prize. I'd rather raise a little bit of hell - Much more satisfying and can produce results that aren't just propping the ego with self-righteous smack.

Edited September 19, 2010 by theBrokenMuse

[TaraMaiden]

When she cheated on him then had a child by someone else, that's a case of schadenfreude. We as humans enjoy seeing the greatest of the greatest fall in our everyday lives, whether we admit it or not.

No, I certainly don't. Absolutely, unequivocally, definitely not.

 

Does that make me InHuman, Super-Human or just Humane?

 

But yes, karma bytchslapped her in the face.

 

Remember Karma works in all ways.

You got 'bytchslapped in the face' by your karma too then, didn't you?

And you're still bitter....

 

See, people really should investigate what Karma actually is, before supposing it's always bad, and always happens ONLY to other people.

Karma happens to every single human being, regardless.

And there is as much Good karma as there is 'bad'....

 

I wish I was there to actually see it. I probably would've laughed my ass off too with a nice Fuddrucker burger in my hand and a milkshake in the other sitting behind OP watching the scene play out.

 

The more we revel in the misfortunes of others, the longer our progress from our own misfortunes, to complete healing, will be.

[tami-chan]

It has nothing to do with it being a man really... it's the 'high road' brigade. It comes from the highly spread meme that refraining from making other people feel bad, even when clearly justified, makes one morally superior.

 

I agree...those people!

[Distant78]

Good for you for telling her off-who among the people you care about thinks you lost your dignity by engaging her? I bet, none. So who cares about what the people on the net says? Personally, I wouldn't be as engaged. I would've responded, "yes thank you, she is taking care of me very well Thanks for your concern." Then make a point of dismissing her by turning my attention to my FWB-or continue to eat my food.

 

Yea, I know. Maybe I should've ignored her. But it did feel good letting her know what she lost. Sometimes you just can't let people walk over you. Eventually, even the kindest and brightest of human beings have to turn evil for a hot second to let the bullies know they don't run shyt. None of my friends at the table thought I lost my dignity. They were laughing right along with me and FWB.:lmao:Except for my FWB, i've known the rest of my friends for 15 years. They were there from the beginning of my nightmare and with me until the end.