Bogo123 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 So ive been on a few dates with this girl I met online. She's got a great personality and is fun to be around. We have another date planned this weekend. The only issue I have is that i'm only partially attracted to her physically. Her online pics only showed her face which is gorgeous, but she's overweight which kinda turns me off. I'm just wondering if I should continue dating her. Has anyone had a similar situation and did your connection and chemistry eventually help you become more attracted physically?
SilentVoice Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Well fat chicks are usually more willing to do more things in bed, so... but I don't know what confuses me more -- you not ending things or the fact that you she only had face pics and didn't see this happening.
threebyfate Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'm not sure what the problem is. If you're not attracted, don't continue dating her. It's not often that as people age, they get thinner.
GooseChaser Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Weight can be lost. You never know, she might start working on that in time. In that case, maybe you would become more attracted to her physically! I guess you'd have to judge how likely it is that that would happen, though.
Gallaxia Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I dunno. I'm in the same boat as you, but it's his haircut I'm not digging. I'm going to try to overlook it and see.
GooseChaser Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Maybe you could ask her out on dates where you two exercise together! You could take her to the gym, take walks through the park or on the beach (if geographically possible), bike... the possibilities are endless! Then you could both become fit together in a supportive, non-pressured environment, and grow in your mutual physical attraction! Active pursuits are often fun ways to spend time with people, too.
Pfiend101 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'm not sure what the problem is. If you're not attracted, don't continue dating her. It's not often that as people age, they get thinner. indeed. Most get fatter
Gallaxia Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Bogo123, is it just a little bit? or like pretty overweight-afraid it could get worse?
tami-chan Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Well fat chicks are usually more willing to do more things in bed, so... really? I thought the opposite because they don't want their bodies too exposed or something. Anyway, OP, are you good-looking? if you are average, get over yourself! If you can't then dump her! what's all these angst?
SteveC80 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Anyway, OP, are you good-looking? if you are average, get over yourself! If you can't then dump her! what's all these angst? WHy shuold he get over himself if hes aveage? If hes average hes better then a fat women,fat is not average
SilentVoice Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 really? I thought the opposite because they don't want their bodies too exposed or something. ? I said willing not capable.. lol.. sigh
tami-chan Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 WHy shuold he get over himself if hes aveage? If hes average hes better then a fat women,fat is not average Because she is "gorgeous with a great personality" who is "overweight" not obese. If he is average, what's his redeeming value? So yeah, he can either get over himself or cut her loose.
SteveC80 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Because she is "gorgeous with a great personality" who is "overweight" not obese. If he is average, what's his redeeming value? So yeah, he can either get over himself or cut her loose. WHats her redeeing value physically ? fat is fat I wouldnt expect a decent looking women to date a really short guy just because he has a nice face
Author Bogo123 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 Well fat chicks are usually more willing to do more things in bed, so... but I don't know what confuses me more -- you not ending things or the fact that you she only had face pics and didn't see this happening. Like I said i'm partially attracted to her, plus she's got a great personality. She had one pic of her from the waist up and you couldn't tell she was overweight at all. I guess you could say she's "bottom heavy" but her body type said "average" Maybe you could ask her out on dates where you two exercise together! You could take her to the gym, take walks through the park or on the beach (if geographically possible), bike... the possibilities are endless! Then you could both become fit together in a supportive, non-pressured environment, and grow in your mutual physical attraction! Active pursuits are often fun ways to spend time with people, too. That's definitely what I will do if we continue dating. Just not sure if she's worth the investment. Plus, they say you should never enter into a relationship in hopes of changing them. Bogo123, is it just a little bit? or like pretty overweight-afraid it could get worse? The good thing is she's pear shaped and so the weight is in the right places = ass, hips, thighs. However, there's TOO much of it, especially the ass I can easily see it get out of hand. Her arms are kinda chunky too. Anyway, OP, are you good-looking? if you are average, get over yourself! If you can't then dump her! what's all these angst? I would say i'm average, but what does that have to do with anything? I still have my standards. I'm attracted to what i'm attracted to.
GooseChaser Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 You could just ask her out on a few active dates, then, and see how they go, and how much interest she shows in them. Hopefully she would enjoy them as much as you, and want more!
Anela Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 WHats her redeeing value physically ? fat is fat I wouldnt expect a decent looking women to date a really short guy just because he has a nice face If she's overweight, she doesn't deserve to be loved?
tami-chan Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I would say i'm average, but what does that have to do with anything? I still have my standards. I'm attracted to what i'm attracted to. You are average but you require somebody above-average-gorgeous face, great personality AND a rockin' body? ...alright~~~ and I thought it was just the women do this... LOL...he has his "standards"...
tami-chan Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 WHats her redeeing value physically ? fat is fat I wouldnt expect a decent looking women to date a really short guy just because he has a nice face why not? ...he is average...she is gorgeous with a great personality...what does he have that you cannot find everywhere else? oh yeah, his "standards".... Point is, if he has his "standards" then he has to adhere to that..or why have a "standard" at all?
USMCHokie Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 I recently dated a girl that I wasn't super attracted to...never again...
Author Bogo123 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 You are average but you require somebody above-average-gorgeous face, great personality AND a rockin' body? ...alright~~~ and I thought it was just the women do this... LOL...he has his "standards"... Basically. I'm a man, we're more visual. Women aren't as picky physically because they're also very attracted to money, power, and fame. Hence, you see fat ugly men with younger more attractive women. How often do you see a good looking man with a fat ugly woman? Not often.
SilentVoice Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Basically. I'm a man, we're more visual. Women aren't as picky physically because they're also very attracted to money, power, and fame. Hence, you see fat ugly men with younger more attractive women. How often do you see a good looking man with a fat ugly woman? Not often. If you say so
D-Lish Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Basically. I'm a man, we're more visual. Women aren't as picky physically because they're also very attracted to money, power, and fame. Hence, you see fat ugly men with younger more attractive women. How often do you see a good looking man with a fat ugly woman? Not often. Women are just as visual- ever been out with a group of women? Young or old, they talk about hot guys. I could never date a guy I wasn't physically attracted to- all the money and power in the world wouldn't change that. Um, I've seen attractive guys with larger women often actually. I've also dated a guy shorter than I because he had an incredibly cute face. Personally Bogo, I don't think you have to apologize for not being physically attracted to certain body shapes. But, I'd let this girl go if you can't see yourself developing an attraction- no use in stringing someone along.
SteveC80 Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 why not? ...he is average...she is gorgeous with a great personality...what does he have that you cannot find everywhere else? oh yeah, his "standards".... Point is, if he has his "standards" then he has to adhere to that..or why have a "standard" at all? She is not "gorgeous" fat is apart of the overall appereance regardless of the face
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