Labster12 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Hi guys, so I am the user who came on here insecure because I am an Indian guy. Not many of us around here in the US and those of us who are around are mainly the highly traditional ones that aren't even allowed to date interracial which is just sad. I always thought that me being an Indian guy would limit me in the dating world and all that stuff. I hear that girls wouldn't approach me because they would think that I will already be getting an arranged marriage and for a while it was kind of true but it changed. Today I recently got back from a date with a girl I am with right now. Anyways I always wanted to ask this question on this site a long time ago and even when I first came on here. In your area, is there like a negative vibe towards Indian guys or do Indian guys have a very rough time with the ladies outside their own race?
D-Lish Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I live in Canada- everyone is ethnic, browns date blacks, blacks date whites, whites date browns...and White dudes are always with asian girls.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 As stupid and cliche as this may sound- you have to love yourslf first before others can truly love you. I remember when I was still in my mid-teens, I hated being Asian. There was something about having single eyelids and having black hair that really made me hate myself; especially since one of my best friends was Dominican girl with white features, I had an inferiority complex standing next to her. Over the years I've dated both Asians and Caucasian. Most of the guys I've dated all told me I'm either beautiful or cute. One even said I looked like a porcelain doll. So I may be racially " different" but I learned that even my race makes me unique. And if this will make you feel better, I knew this Indian guy back in August who was really cute. Although he was more on the skinny side, he exuded confidence and sexiness I never expected from a south Asian guy. We met at a party and the whole night, he danced with the hottest girls of our group, myself included.
Author Labster12 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 one of the main reasons I came to this site http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/race_affects/Reply-By-Race-Male.png
Mutant Debutante Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Well, I only really know two Indian guys in my area, and I never asked them. But they both have girlfriends (actually one is engaged) so it can't be that bad.
Author Labster12 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 LOL you western guys can go to South America or Asia and have a boat load of women coming right after you! Also, I do like Indian women but back then I was more worried about being with a Latina girl. Now I am with another Latina who honestly speaking isn't as attractive as the first one I was with but not as feisty either. Indian guy - Latina girl, small town Arkansas, isn't life just confusing.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'll be sure to interview the next Indian guy I encounter. Me: "so, what's it like to be an Indian?" guy: "what are you, nuts?"
Sphere Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 You're a man possessed aren't you? Where I come from Indian people make up a large proportion of the population and more and more of them are interracially dating or from what I have seen.
USMCHokie Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Gah, it's another zombie Indian thread! :eek:
Author Labster12 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 I mean okay it is like this, I read that statistic and I was thinking about maybe going on the OKCupid forums and asking what is up and what is the matter or how much truth the statistics have to them but man I just can't do it for some odd reason.....
tincanman99 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 dude, you need to let this go or stop talking about it. You are torturing yourself over this. Its not productive and you are causing yourself an enormous amount of anxiety. Accept the following, where I live there is a very large Indian population. Frankly I dont see them dating outside of their ethnic group almost ever. End of story. They are insular and keep to themselves. Not much else to say. Speaking as someone who knows a lot of Indians I can tell you the perception. Keep in mind that I am not saying this is true but this what Americans think: 1. They are foreigners. 2. They have different hygiene habits which are generally repulsive to Americans. 3. They have a different diet with a different odor. Its not necessarily bad but it does smell different. 4. They are super cheap. 5. They keep to themselves in their own communities. 6. Marriages are almost always arranged. 7. Non Indian women are playthings to be used before they go home to marry a woman in Indian. 8. There is blatant racism against non-Indians and a superiority complex particularly among the men. 9. The caste thing is alive and well. I dated and lived with a Desi Indian girl for a year who was born in the US. I cannot begin to relate the huge amount of aggravation she had with her family because I was not Indian. You either need to accept who you are or you are going to drive yourself insane. Do you know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
USMCHokie Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. This also works for the term stupidity.
Author Labster12 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 but I am nothing like them, my parents ain't nothing like them at all either, so like in what way would that apply to me
USMCHokie Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 but I am nothing like them, my parents ain't nothing like them at all either, so like in what way would that apply to me So if your family is nothing like traditional Indian families, then why is this even an issue for you...? Just pretend you're white...that's what I do...
Author Labster12 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 unfortunately, it is more about how society perceives as other than how we perceive ourselves, oh and PS, I would want to be Black more so than White but then again it be cool to be an Italian or Hispanic, since I get mixed up with that a lot anyways here's my pic, what do you guys think? http://s191.photobucket.com/albums/z237/TheNumber_bucket/?action=view¤t=84843.jpg
Star Gazer Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Allina just MARRIED and Indian guy, and she's a gorgeous Polish girl.
Sphere Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 unfortunately, it is more about how society perceives as other than how we perceive ourselves, oh and PS, I would want to be Black more so than White but then again it be cool to be an Italian or Hispanic, since I get mixed up with that a lot anyways here's my pic, what do you guys think? http://s191.photobucket.com/albums/z237/TheNumber_bucket/?action=view¤t=84843.jpg Are you a Ghetto Gangster?
Author Labster12 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 and if I wear a collar shirt and khaki pants I am a White prep
Sphere Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 and if I wear a collar shirt and khaki pants I am a White prep I'm thinking Ned Flanders.
USMCHokie Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'm thinking Ned Flanders. Which then suddenly made me think Milhouse Van Houten.
SilentVoice Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 So if your family is nothing like traditional Indian families, then why is this even an issue for you...? Just pretend you're white...that's what I do... HAHA! I'm thinking Ned Flanders. HA! unfortunately, it is more about how society perceives as other than how we perceive ourselves, oh and PS, I would want to be Black more so than White but then again it be cool to be an Italian or Hispanic, since I get mixed up with that a lot anyways here's my pic, what do you guys think? http://s191.photobucket.com/albums/z237/TheNumber_bucket/?action=view¤t=84843.jpg I really don't see why you are stressing yourself over the "indian" factor. Well I guess it is where you live that make a difference. My ex was indian but he had all those "traditional" greatness that helped end it.
Bogo123 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 How is this going to help you? If we say indian guys have a tough time, are you going to let that determine your future? It will do one of two things: Deter you and lower your confidence even more, or it will provide a challenge for you to break that barrier by improving your life in every way possible. You really need to stop sweating this so much. Most guys have some type of challenge, whether they're overweight, short, dumb, lazy, etc.
allina Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Allina just MARRIED and Indian guy, and she's a gorgeous Polish girl. Thanks SG Unfortunately, it looks like the OP has some issues with his identity/himself, he has posted this same thread several times :/
tincanman99 Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 unfortunately, it is more about how society perceives as other than how we perceive ourselves, oh and PS, I would want to be Black more so than White but then again it be cool to be an Italian or Hispanic, since I get mixed up with that a lot anyways here's my pic, what do you guys think? http://s191.photobucket.com/albums/z237/TheNumber_bucket/?action=view¤t=84843.jpg But you ARENT Italian or Hispanic. You are Indian - do you get it? Accept yourself and move on. People pick up on self-hate and lack of self confidence without you even speaking. You are who you are. Thats it. Do you want to lie to people and pretend you are something you arent? What happens when they find out you arent Italian or Hispanic and that you lied? Do you parla Italiano or habla Espanol? I am betting its a no. You are an Indian guy, thats it. You are who you are. If you make a big deal out of being Indian than others will too.
tincanman99 Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 So if your family is nothing like traditional Indian families, then why is this even an issue for you...? Just pretend you're white...that's what I do... I will put money on that his family is wrapped super tight. I have yet to encounter an Indian family that isnt. They totally and completely control their kids. Thats how it is. First time he comes how with a girl that isnt Indian they will go bananas. Ask me how I know .
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