Women - How Long Can You Tolerate A Man Not Trying to Undress You Before You Give Up?

[Gattica]

Tis true, if you one or both parties aren't being honest about what they are saying.

[Mike B.]

Tis true, if you one or both parties aren't being honest about what they are saying.

 

 

That doesn't have to be the case. You can just be in a situation where there is lot of physical communication and deep topics and more serious topics are not discussed to avoid deep and serious situations. It's common.

[carhill]

I think you read too far into the post. There are no lines to read in between.

So, point out the stop sign instead of giving a perfectly cryptic response, unlike mine, which was crystal clear . Stbx waited nearly three months for me to take her clothes off and we were married ten years.

[Gattica]

That doesn't have to be the case. You can just be in a situation where there is lot of physical communication and deep topics and more serious topics are not discussed to avoid deep and serious situations. It's common.

 

Well, I am only going on my experience and I like to be upfront and forward in certain areas. I am sure what you have stated is true, it just has never been that way for me...thankfully.

[Mike B.]

So, point out the stop sign instead of giving a perfectly cryptic response, unlike mine, which was crystal clear . Stbx waited nearly three months for me to take her clothes off and we were married ten years.

 

 

Lol. Carhill, buddy, you have absolutely some of the best responses on this forum but I must admit, sometimes they can be the most cryptic ones as well so the irony is giving me a good chuckle.

 

I wanted to avoid someone personalizing a response and to just give me their general ideas and thoughts on a generic situation such as I described above. If I added any more detail than I did above then a lot of responses would be all over the place but instead the responses are pretty straightforward which is what I wanted.

 

I didn't want people to be distracted by trying to come up with a solution to a problem. So I think the situation I put forth is fairly clear. A woman is really into a guy and vice versa, things are physical and they are really physically attracted to each other but the guy won't advance things farther sexually. How long is a woman willing to tolerate it? How long before it becomes bothersome generally? After growing up male with many male freinds, I pretty much know how the man would think in this situation.

[K'aycie]

Sorry, no answer for you.

 

As much as I'd like to help a fellow member juggle multiple women, I'm afraid I can't.

[GooseChaser]

I'd like to add that women do appreciate when they can tell that a man likes her for more than just her body. We can handle waiting.

[Imajerk17]

Well why are you waiting?

 

I don't care what the women on here say. I do agree with them that it IS quite bad to come across as sex-starved or horndog. And there is something to be said for getting to know someone first. But in the end, it is our job as men to pick up on the signals she gives us that she is ready and 'run with the ball', so to speak. And if her signals are sort of mixed, we have to at least TRY. Otherwise she'll get a gut impression that you're not masculine enough to seal the deal, or she'll wonder if you're even attracted to her.

 

Look at it this way: She might be (read: probably is) dating someone besides you. Think about what is likely to happen if she and this guy have sex while you and she did not. Even if she was into you more before and you 'have more going for you' and all that. The thing is, sex bonds a girl to a guy, even if it is the wrong guy (read the threads from the women on here!).

Edited September 12, 2010 by Imajerk17

[Star Gazer]

I don't think there's a time period. So long as I feel he craves me, I'm good. I can be the pouncer.

[phineas]

This is hard for me atleast to understand how to do... On one hand I don't want to try to have sex with her to soon and make her feel pressured about it but on the other hand women expect the man to initiate sex and if I don't do it soon enough she might think I'm not that into her and move on. After how long is good to initiate sex with a woman?

 

women KNOW what you want.

Not going for it seems to confuse them.

Some take it personally as a kind of rejection if you don't try to get into their pants.

 

so just go for it. You don't have to succeed, you just have to try so they don't think your not attracted to them.

 

and for the record, i've had more than a few women jump my bones on the 2nd date before I even had a chance to make a move.

[Hopeful30]

Are you kdding?

 

GRAB HIM! If a man respects those boundaries then why should you have to tolerate this?

 

Take things to the next level yourself if you want it so bad. If he doesn't agree with going further, THEN you will know he isn't interested.

 

Its funny how we complain men don't respect us, yet when they don't pressure us into sex, something has to be wrong with them.

 

*sigh*

Edited September 12, 2010 by Hopeful30

[alexlakeman]

OP, why would you wait? R u queer? If you don't f.ck her, someone else will, and she will bond with that guy...

 

Someone else mentioned, "women don't initiate"? LOL, as others have said, "yes they do"...but not every one is the same...

 

a Few g/f's ago earlier this year; third date, going home to drop her off from a night out clubbing, she pulls my johnson out while I was driving and I got a nice bj... obviously we sealed the deal that night.. she didn't give me a chance to get home and do the initial undressing, lol.. it was awsome...

 

Years ago, first date... girl tells me "I work for xyz hotel, let's go get a room".. lol..

 

It happens, not always, but it happens, women are horny too..

 

Again, OP sounds gay if he is not wanting to sleep with her..

[Mike B.]

OP, why would you wait? R u queer? If you don't f.ck her, someone else will, and she will bond with that guy...

 

Someone else mentioned, "women don't initiate"? LOL, as others have said, "yes they do"...but not every one is the same...

 

a Few g/f's ago earlier this year; third date, going home to drop her off from a night out clubbing, she pulls my johnson out while I was driving and I got a nice bj... obviously we sealed the deal that night.. she didn't give me a chance to get home and do the initial undressing, lol.. it was awsome...

 

Years ago, first date... girl tells me "I work for xyz hotel, let's go get a room".. lol..

 

It happens, not always, but it happens, women are horny too..

 

Again, OP sounds gay if he is not wanting to sleep with her..

 

 

After reading enough of your posts, I assume you are some back of the woods rascist, homophobic chump. Keep your nose out of my threads.

[Mike B.]

Sorry, no answer for you.

 

As much as I'd like to help a fellow member juggle multiple women, I'm afraid I can't.

 

 

Again, there is the assumption that this apply to some situation I am currently instead of simply a generic situation in which I was trying to get the general views on how women would look at it.

 

 

As far as juggling multiple women at once, it is called dating and not being in an exclusive relationship. This is a very common in society and nothing is wrong with it. I am being juggled with other men with most of the women I date but I ssume that part is ok with you. That is fine. You have a right to your opinions but I do not see why it was necessary to make a post just to say that you won't give an answer to a post.

[EasyHeart]

women KNOW what you want.

Not going for it seems to confuse them.

Some take it personally as a kind of rejection if you don't try to get into their pants.

I've found that women who are confident and have high self-esteem usually get more interested if you don't try to sleep with them right away, while women with low self-esteem tend to freak out and think something is wrong with them. It's kind of an interesting test.

[Mike B.]

women KNOW what you want.

Not going for it seems to confuse them.

Some take it personally as a kind of rejection if you don't try to get into their pants..

 

 

This is probably the view I leaned most heavily on. Of course it's a general approach.

[K'aycie]

Again, there is the assumption that this apply to some situation I am currently instead of simply a generic situation in which I was trying to get the general views on how women would look at it.

 

 

As far as juggling multiple women at once, it is called dating and not being in an exclusive relationship. This is a very common in society and nothing is wrong with it. I am being juggled with other men with most of the women I date but I ssume that part is ok with you. That is fine. You have a right to your opinions but I do not see why it was necessary to make a post just to say that you won't give an answer to a post.

 

It's not an assumption, you made a thread before this one, indicating otherwise.

 

I assume, the reason for this thread, is in correlation to that. And I assume, that you are sleeping with one of these women, and getting close to that point, with a second one (possibly the third one, not sure). So, this thread, is most likely you wondering how long you can put her off from having sex with you, until she decides to walk.

 

If I am wrong, then please correct me. Otherwise, my point still stands.

[Mike B.]

It's not an assumption, you made a thread before this one, indicating otherwise.

 

I assume, the reason for this thread, is in correlation to that. And I assume, that you are sleeping with one of these women, and getting close to that point, with a second one (possibly the third one, not sure). So, this thread, is most likely you wondering how long you can put her off from having sex with you, until she decides to walk.

 

If I am wrong, then please correct me. Otherwise, my point still stands.

 

 

Actually, you are wrong. A person who I am dating, who is very open with me and I am very open with her, told me of this situation that she had with one of the guys she had recently been dating. We got into a long discussion on men and women view on this sort of scenario and I decided to post it here to see what other members thought.

 

I was hoping to just get people's views on this without having the front door knocked down to get to this sort of detail but maybe it was expecting too much. I do think this is the perfect example of why it is so important not to jump to conclusions.

[bluryy]

How about a girlfriend who doesnt find you attractive on the bed and has zero interest in making out? what about that?

[K'aycie]

Actually, you are wrong. A person who I am dating, who is very open with me and I am very open with her, told me of this situation that she had with one of the guys she had recently been dating. We got into a long discussion on men and women view on this sort of scenario and I decided to post it here to see what other members thought.

 

I was hoping to just get people's views on this without having the front door knocked down to get to this sort of detail but maybe it was expecting too much. I do think this is the perfect example of why it is so important not to jump to conclusions.

 

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