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Mike B. Established Member

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Lets say that you are really into a man and he is into you. You have gone out several dates with him and everything is going well but he has still not tried to get sex from you, how long will you tolerate it before you start to lose interest? Just say he still makes out with you but he doesn't really try to take your clothes off or anything?

 

This is of course considering that you are a woman who is sexually active and like sex.

jamesum Established Member

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Usually if the woman finds you hot, she will make it happen herself.

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Usually if the woman finds you hot, she will make it happen herself.

 

Yeah I think I would cut to the chase and make it clear.

 

If I got knocked back I'd probably give up after that.

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You say that both people are definitely into each other. That is good and I would be happy with that. I enjoy making out and other activities that require being dressed as well. They can be just as fun and good for getting to know the person. :) I could go a long time without going so far as to get very undressed. However, if they NEVER show interest in doing things like that, it would be good to find out why.

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As long as we're kissing and being intimate in other ways, I can wait, especially when I'm really interested in getting to know the guy. My ex waited one month after we were dating to sleep with me, and then it was my decision to do so. No pressure from him actually made me want him even more.

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I just wanted to add this to my previous post: often men are so into undressing women they're into that it wouldn't be an issue, however... :p

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Usually if the woman finds you hot, she will make it happen herself.

 

No... Women do not initiate sex, especcially not the first time, they might give hints but they won't initiate it.

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I just wanted to add this to my previous post: often men are so into undressing women they're into that it wouldn't be an issue, however... :p
What if the mans truly into the women but lacks the confidence to take the lead in this subject?
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No... Women do not initiate sex, especcially not the first time, they might give hints but they won't initiate it.

 

No women, none, not ever?? I must be unique! :lmao:

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No women, none, not ever?? I must be unique! :lmao:

 

Well some women maybe initiates it lol :) But the vast majority do not.

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No... Women do not initiate sex, especcially not the first time, they might give hints but they won't initiate it.

 

Wrong:

 

ex and me, on the beach, 3am'ish. Standing flirting in the surf. She unzips my pants and slips her hand in. Sounds like initiation to me.

 

Another ex and me, on the couch, watching tv - she blurts out "Want to have sex?" plain and simple. Shocked the hell out of me though haha.

 

One of my rare ONS - met up, flirted a long while, whispered in my ear "I need you to come to my place NOW so I can rip your clothes off".

 

 

Women do initiate, though it is generally the guy.

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My ex waited one month after we were dating to sleep with me, and then it was my decision to do so. No pressure from him actually made me want him even more.

When I was 19, I had a gf and from the beginning of the relationship I told her that I did not want us to have sex until we had been together for six months (I dunno what got into my head at that time :rolleyes:). And guess what happened? Three weeks into the relationship she started to give all she got to get into my pants. It was really weird and quiet enlightening I have to say. :D

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What if the mans truly into the women but lacks the confidence to take the lead in this subject?

Then if she really wants it, she'll go for it. Otherwise, they just continue to date with the clothes on unless the woman gets tired of waiting and does give up.

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Agree with lilbunny, I would just undress him :laugh:

As to 'how long' - those issues are so individual, it's all in the unique dynamics you have with another human being.

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Then if she really wants it, she'll go for it. Otherwise, they just continue to date with the clothes on unless the woman gets tired of waiting and does give up.

 

This is hard for me atleast to understand how to do... On one hand I don't want to try to have sex with her to soon and make her feel pressured about it but on the other hand women expect the man to initiate sex and if I don't do it soon enough she might think I'm not that into her and move on. After how long is good to initiate sex with a woman?

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I never got the 'take clothes off before having sex' memo ;)

 

OP, assuming you're a guy, look at it this way. She could have sex with ten guys tonight if she wanted to. She's dating you. Go with that. :)

 

Presuming you got the memo, have you discussed birth control?

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I think it is more of a turnon when a man gets to know me and bond with me, without trying to go all the way. it's really more satisfying if you are in a relationship first. The sex is so much better if you have really gotten to know each other and established that you just want to be with each other and no one else.

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Then if she really wants it, she'll go for it. Otherwise, they just continue to date with the clothes on unless the woman gets tired of waiting and does give up.
Sorry but my question was more retorical than an actual question.
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Well some women maybe initiates it lol :) But the vast majority do not.

 

I think you mean, with you they do not initiate.

 

I can think of two examples just in the last couple of months of women I'd never slept with initiating sex w/ me.

 

At my birthday party, a woman I'd never been with grabbed me coming out of the bathroom, pressed herself up against me and said, 'for your birthday you get to come home with me tonight or tomorrow night. Your choice.'

 

In the other instance it was during a second date w/ a woman I met online. She was showing me around her hood. We'd left one bar and were heading for a second. On the way there, she turned and said, "after we have another drink, I'd really like to see you naked."

 

Both of those instances gave me chills to say the least.

 

While I concede I initiate far more often with women I've never been with before, it's not rare for it to happen the other way.

 

In relationships, women initiate with me all the time.

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Or you could just do The Naked Man! and take it from there...

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I've been propositioned before. I've turned down each one, but claiming that women don't initiate sex is BS.

USMCHokie Established Member

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...but claiming that women don't initiate sex is BS.

 

Agreed. Women who are truly interested will initiate sex just as much as a guy would...

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Mike B. Established Member

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I never got the 'take clothes off before having sex' memo ;)

 

OP, assuming you're a guy, look at it this way. She could have sex with ten guys tonight if she wanted to. She's dating you. Go with that. :)

 

Presuming you got the memo, have you discussed birth control?

 

I think you read too far into the post. There are no lines to read in between.

Gattica Established Member

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It is all about communication. If you have open communication...this really isn't an issue.

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Mike B. Established Member

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It is all about communication. If you have open communication...this really isn't an issue.

 

 

That is not always the case.

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