I love a girl, but she lost attraction toward me

[Swindler]

How is she going to miss me, if we only met 5 or 6 times, and she lost her attraction.

I think its because she thinks that she got control over the relationship and she thinks that i will do everything to please her, thats what made me look unattractive. At first i usualy had my own opinion and didnt try to always please her or accept her BS, and if there is something i dont like about her i tell her without hesistation, thats why she found me attractive at first. I think its possible to fix things up by proving that i will stay the same as before.

[tylerdurden]

She lost her attraction because you were too available for her.

Girls need a challenge, if you constantly agrees with what she says its a big turn off ..

Act as you did before.

Be less available, try to avoid her as much as you possibly can:It drives girls crazy.

In the mean time focus on other girls.If she really likes you it will drive her nuts, and by then you will have lost interest...

As for your plan its going to blow in your face.Big NO NO.

[Mike B.]

How is she going to miss me, if we only met 5 or 6 times, and she lost her attraction.

I think its because she thinks that she got control over the relationship and she thinks that i will do everything to please her, thats what made me look unattractive. At first i usualy had my own opinion and didnt try to always please her or accept her BS, and if there is something i dont like about her i tell her without hesistation, thats why she found me attractive at first. I think its possible to fix things up by proving that i will stay the same as before.

 

 

You will look unstable if you try to switch up yet again. You don't want to look like you have a multiple personality disorder. Just stop trying to contact her.

[Swindler]

Thats what i am doing right now, it has been 2 weeks, i didnt contact her, i see her online on msn and dont talk to her, yesterday she was online on msn, when i signed in, she instantly signed out, and her friend signed in.

Then her friend started to talk to me, here a part of the convo:

Her : Hi, what are you doing ?

Me : Nothing special. What are you doing ?

Her : We are doing nothing.

Me : who do you mean by we.

Her : me and (the girl i like).

Me : hmm ok.

 

then after a little talk for about 2 min, she signed out, then the girl i like signed in again.

I am pretty much friendly with her friend and sometimes we talk, but she doesnt usualy start the convo.

 

Obviously she was at her house.

 

well, today its the first time that she puts a profile picture on facebook with a boy, all her profile pics contains only her.

Btw, there is a girl that likes me commenting on my picture.

 

What do you think, is there a sign behind this ?

Edited September 19, 2010 by Swindler

[Don Ho]

Bro, you're just plain obsessive. Leave her alone completely and finally. Do not hang even as friends. You're oozing desperation over her. I don't even think you realize why she thinks you're a crazy stalker. NOTHING you do at this point will turn her around. It's too late for that. I'm surprised she's even willing to hang with you even with her friends there. Sorry to serve it up so bluntly, but you got to give her up, forget about it and move on .... so it doesn't end up getting ugly. BTW DELETE her from your FB, MSN and all that, now!!

[Banega100]

Yeah it's over forever at this point. We've all been there. Perhaps not to the same degree though; 'only begged her 3-4 times', but still. You live and learn.

[Sabali]

Bro, you're just plain obsessive. Leave her alone completely and finally. Do not hang even as friends. You're oozing desperation over her. I don't even think you realize why she thinks you're a crazy stalker. NOTHING you do at this point will turn her around. It's too late for that. I'm surprised she's even willing to hang with you even with her friends there. Sorry to serve it up so bluntly, but you got to give her up, forget about it and move on .... so it doesn't end up getting ugly. BTW DELETE her from your FB, MSN and all that, now!!

 

 

Please listen to Don Ho. Not the singer but the poster above. Her putting the guy on her FB profile is her trying to give you a hint because you are being stalkerish and obsessive. Women are real good at dropping hints and being blunt. She has done both methods with you and you are still wondering what's going on.

 

No more acting clueless! You are going to look back on this one day and cringe at your behavior. Reread Don Ho's post, print it, and tape it to your front door, bathroom door, and PC monitor. Post anything else but I swear if you write one more post saying "what do you think this mean" or anything of that nature...

 

We're trying to help you walk away with a shredd of dignity, guy. That shred is spilling through your fingers right now.

[Don Ho]

Well he's way past that and probably appears like a stalker. His best bet is to cut all contact and move on.

[Sabali]

Well he's way past that and probably appears like a stalker. His best bet is to cut all contact and move on.

 

 

Yep. Way, way past that. That's like telling a guy to hit the brakes after he has already smashed the car into a brick wall.

[Don Ho]

James, too late. He already hit the brick wall and hitting the brakes now won't help.

[Sabali]

James, too late. He already hit the brick wall and hitting the brakes now won't help.

 

 

Don, you are the superhero of this thread.

[Don Ho]

Nahhh. I'm just Captain Save a Ho!

[Sabali]

Nahhh. I'm just Captain Save a Ho!

 

 

No, you are being so modest. You deserve much more credit than that.

[dispatch3d]

Bro, you're just plain obsessive. Leave her alone completely and finally. Do not hang even as friends. You're oozing desperation over her. I don't even think you realize why she thinks you're a crazy stalker. NOTHING you do at this point will turn her around. It's too late for that. I'm surprised she's even willing to hang with you even with her friends there. Sorry to serve it up so bluntly, but you got to give her up, forget about it and move on .... so it doesn't end up getting ugly. BTW DELETE her from your FB, MSN and all that, now!!

 

easy there, no need to delete her from facebook msn and yadayada. They weren't dating or anything.

[dispatch3d]

and fwiw I would just ignore her. I'm pretty sure when you were a dick you wouldn't have even thought about whether you should or shouldn't reply to some particular thing on her facebook.

 

Ahhh he wasn't being creepy signing into msn fwiw? Probably acted weird while he was being "nice" to "win her over".

[Swindler]

Lol, how is she supposed to know that i am stalking her, she cant even know that i am looking at her facebook profile , i didnt try to comment on anything, neither i talk to her on msn, its just i still got them like anyone else, it has been 2 weeks she didnt hear anything from me. She might even think that i lost interest in her.

 

But whenever you know the probleme, it is possible to find a solution, when the probleme is me acting nice and trying to please her, maybe after ignoring her she might think that i got over her and wont care if she comes back or not. Then in some way i can meet her, then i can start again with the jerk attitude, and act like i dont want her anymore, and that it would be hard to get me again, and become a chalange as i were before.

 

At the end, she is human not a robot, you cant say that its already ended, like you messed up an engine or something, human are more complicated then that, who knows maybe by using the first attitude might attract her again without even her expectation.

 

If i werent her type or she didnt get attracted to me from the first impression before i would lose hope, but i dont think its impossible to get her attraction again like the first, i just need to know what she got attracted to, and obviously the alpha man attitude, she even liked my body and my face, and many more things she told me about, well it wont be that hard to try to pretend that i am not needy or desprate in some way or another. But i am not with the point of ignoring her forever, if she lost attraction she wont regain it or contact me without me working on it, maybe the ignoring phase must be the first part of the plan.

Btw, who else other then her knows that i lost my dignity, honestly as long as she is not interested anymore, why would i care what she thinks about me, after all both ways she wont be interested. And at least i would have tried and relaxed my mind, and knew that it was not in my hands

 

Honestly, she cant read my mind, its only you guys that knows that i still like her and stalking her , i didnt tell anybody in real life. There is no probleme acting desprate or needy on a forum, who knows me

Edited September 19, 2010 by Swindler

[Don Ho]

Deleting her from FB, MSN and so on is for YOUR benefit Bro, so you don't continue to obsess over her. And I HAVE been there, so I know. You have a nice list of rationalizations going on there as to why you should keep trying. The fact is, there is no "going back" or showing you're an "alpha male" or whatever because she is not willing nor is going to give you the opportunity.

 

No, she is not a human robot (again a good rationalization) but when a woman gets to that point, she is DONE. Don't believe me? Go read Jeff Stevens thread about "one woman, one shot, one lifetime". Sorry Bro, as tough as it is to accept, you had your one shot and it's over. Don't believe me? Go ahead and chase her and bang your head on the wall until you've had enough or she files a Restraining Order against you. Come on Bro. Wake up, it's over. Move on.

[Swindler]

Ok, if this is true, then i dont care about getting her again, but my final decision is REVENGE cause i cant stand the fact that she dumped me and made me suffer cause i became nice to her (unfair) and she should pay for my suffering and what will come out of my mouth is really because i want to relax my self and let her pay:

 

I stroked her ego pretty much by following her, so its time to take what i gave her, so i am gonna lower her ego with really dirty words.

 

I will go with my friend to meet his girlfriend and she will be there.

Thats what i am gonna say in front of her :

 

" Who do you think you are, pamela anderson or angelina jolie. Well however you see yourself, i see everybody like cats, but i dont see you like a cat, i see you like my shoe, better like trash and dirt in my eyes, you need 1000 year to at least get to my dick. And no one has the right to feel superior on the other. You are like an animal. You piss, you ****, you get ****ed, you eat. The only difference between you and the animal is that you a piece of meat in your head that weights more then the animal."

 

Then i will tell the reasons i dont want her back are :

"You are used a lot by many guys, and everything that get used too much worth nothing but ****, and is no longer good for using it.

 

for example : A car that get used by many people, its price lower, and by time it gets dangerous to drive it cause it might get you in an accident, its not good any longer, so no body will buy it, so it worth nothing at all, and its better to throw it.

 

Well, you are like this car, many guys used your pussy, and maybe played you and got your heart broken, so now its dangerous to get you or better say use you, cause you are not good for use anymore, and there is a danger that you broke a heart. Better to throw you in the trash, thats where you belong, just like this old ****ed up car, you worth nothing, and no body will pay even 1$ for a girl like you. Only those who are looking for sex only. Obviously, You were born to be ****ed. (because i heard she dated too many guys, and she stayed with her ex for 2 years)."

 

then i will tell her friend in front of her:

" Next time i come here please bring another girl instead of her, she is only a piece of meat that worth nothing, and her presence with us is honestly unnecessary, there is no need for me to make a friend like her, i only make worthy friends, she is good for nothing. Its better to bring 50 kg of cow meat witch cost more then her, at least cow meat can be eaten."

 

And whatever happens i don't care, but i think thats enough to lower her ego, and regain my value. (also who knows, maybe she likes to hear these words and comeback, probably not, but who knows maybe she likes to be treated like that if she has a low self esteem).

 

And as i told you, when i treated her badly she liked me more then nothing, and as someone said here i should have not apologized, maybe she might have got back cause she likes to be treated badly.

 

Then i will compliment all her obvious bad things about her face.

 

Finally, i will throw 1$ at her and tell her thats what you worth.

 

I am also thinking about dating her sister and her best friend, then break their heart, there is 10% probability that i will do that, cause they don't deserve to be hurt because of her.

 

Sorry for sounding a little bit dirty, i am not like that, but i never hated someone in my life, as i hated this girl. I hate her as much as i love her.

 

Honestly, its not that i was a jerk at first, i was only yelling at the bad things that she does and that i don't like. And i gave her a chance to be with me, and she didn't respect that and stepped my heart, and thats not a right thing to do, and the reason cause i became a nice guy.

Edited September 19, 2010 by Swindler

[tylerdurden]

Obviously you are very young.The fact that you post on this forum proves that you are still caring what she thinks about you.

Once a woman lose interest in you it means its OVER.

Nothing will make her change her mind period.

The best revenge is plain silence and ignorance, if you try to hook up with her sister or best friend will show that you still care for her.

Ignorance is the best weapon.

[Swindler]

First of all, no i am not young, i have too much experience in life, i met bad and good people, and tried every kind of **** somebody can think about.

 

maybe my experience with womens is not that high, cause i only had 5 girlfriends in my life, and thats the first time that i get walked on.

 

Secondly, well i didn't say that i don't care about her, i love her and i hate her at the same time, i love her in my heart and hate her in my mind, usually you cant control your heart. And i think everybody knows that there nothing stronger then the love emotion, and if anybody is experiencing it right now, love from one side, will think like i am thinking, but no body can feel the other

 

Third, why don't you people just read and try to understand what i mean. Well as long as she is not interested and will never be interested, why should i care what she thinks about me. There is probably 10% chance that she will come again.

 

So Ignorance wont do any **** cause she already made up her mind and wont care if i ignore her or not.

 

And now its time for revenge. So now i don't care if she thinks if i care or not as long as i can make her suffer as she done to me. all i am looking for is to hurt her and i am sure this speech will make her feel like ****, and hurting her sister will make her also get hurt, and getting out with her best friend that she feels jealous of will make her emotions ****ed up as hell.

 

And i am sure anyone in my situation will only seek revenge for what he feels because of a girl like that.

 

Honestly if i have done something wrong, i wouldn't care much cause it would be my fault, but cause i acted nicely she started being a jerk, that sucks much hard.

 

So please people don't try to offend me anymore, i will only accept offensive post from somebody who feels the same as me, Well obviously he wont offend me, cause he knows what it feels like.

 

Finally, where is the problem is posting on a forum about your love, its called loveshack to come and complain on it, and take peoples opinion, not people judgements.

[Don Ho]

WRONG Bro!! You are NOT going to do anything like that. You will be giving away your dignity (because you're strategy just shows her how much you care), you will look like a jackass and you will end up feeling like a fool. Does that sound like a good plan? NO. If you want "revenge", the best revenge is a good life. Work on yourself, work out, improve your appearance, become a strong, confident man.

 

If you want to have a "dig" at her, be seen out in public with any woman that is half way attractive. I don't care if it's you friend, cousin, or Ex GF as long as your Ex does not know her. DO NOT make it obvious like bringing her to a mutual meeting with your friends. Just go to the places you used to hang out and let your Ex see the two of you. Then keep your big mouth shut and don't say anything.

[tylerdurden]

If you dont want to listen to what we have to say, what's the point of writing your post in the forums.

I think you are looking for self approbation on your ideas.

Go ahead do as you say and see the results for yourself.

[Swindler]

I heard from a friend that is dating someone, well looks like all my hope has died.

Unfortunatly, time to move on

[tylerdurden]

Its a blessing in disguise.

Keep it up Bro and keep yourself focused on other chicks

[Don Ho]

There you have it Bro. Now don't be a jackass or a fool and say all that stuff you wanted to say to her. Save your dignity. Be a man. Dust yourself off and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea Bro.