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SadandConfusedWA Established Member

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To be honest, if 35 year old hasn't called, I would have probably just gone to dinner out of boredom and without expecting much..

 

The guy in this thread is quite a catch for sure. When he told me what he does I nearly chocked on my coffee woah...but I am more about a genuine connection, attraction and shared goals than status, power, money etc.

 

I was just thinking that when I went to Borders last night, I looked like s$it. No make up at all, glasses, hair pulled back, old jeans and and over sized jumper.

 

I think I will dress up from now on and just go to Borders every Friday night and rake in the mens :D

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Just remember when you're 45 he'll be 62.

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I did make a few typos up there but that wasn't one of them ;). Bring on the mens! I mean, not for me, but I'll just watch from over there.

 

BTW I do like your signature. I haven't heard that song in ages.

 

i stand corrected! :laugh: Favorite expression it is. Did you come up with it or is it a common expression in your networks? I love it so much, I actually googled : expression "the mens".

 

Good plan S, go rake some mens at Borders.

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Just remember when you're 45 he'll be 62.

Yep, and a ruggedly handsome *retired* emergency room doctor taking his wife to the far-flung corners of the globe and bouncing grandchildren on his practiced knee. Not a bad life. ;)

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Yep, and a ruggedly handsome *retired* emergency room doctor taking his wife to the far-flung corners of the globe and bouncing grandchildren on his practiced knee. Not a bad life. ;)

 

 

Stop Carhill ! *I* liked him from post one, but he's not asking US out to dinner, is he !:laugh::cool::love:

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To be honest, if 35 year old hasn't called, I would have probably just gone to dinner out of boredom and without expecting much..

 

The guy in this thread is quite a catch for sure. When he told me what he does I nearly chocked on my coffee woah...but I am more about a genuine connection, attraction and shared goals than status, power, money etc.

 

I was just thinking that when I went to Borders last night, I looked like s$it. No make up at all, glasses, hair pulled back, old jeans and and over sized jumper.

 

I think I will dress up from now on and just go to Borders every Friday night and rake in the mens :D

 

I am all about the genuine connection for sure, but it sounded to me like you might have had one, since you said a few hours went by in a flash during conversation. That sounds like a GREAT connection, to me--but I wasn't there. Also I can understand your remaining focused on more likely long-term prospects if you are looking to start a family life, a lot of divorced dads of two aren't really looking to hop back into that right away, particularly if they're looking at paying for college.

 

Friday night at Borders sounds like a plan. :)

 

i stand corrected! :laugh: Favorite expression it is. Did you come up with it or is it a common expression in your networks? I love it so much, I actually googled : expression "the mens".

 

Good plan S, go rake some mens at Borders.

 

I have no idea, I know it has been said among my circle but I no longer recall if I heard it somewhere else first.

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I cant imagine how rich he must be.

 

You just lost out on a lucky lottery ticket. :rolleyes:

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Have dinner with the dude, he was interesting enough to talk to for 3 hours, don't foreclose options. In all likelihood he isn't going to either 1. get down on bended knee and propose or 2. roofie you and sell you into white slavery. For all you know this guy could open up social avenues you haven't experienced. Thing is you don't know until you give it a go.

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Some guy tried to chat me up the last time I was at Borders. Then my SO walked up to us and made things extremely awkward for the guy. :lmao:

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I have sent him a text message telling him that I would rather not date because of the age difference but would like to stay in touch.

 

He responded and said that he will be at Borders next Friday, same time, eating lemon meringue pie and if I feel like a chat to drop by. I might just do that :)

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He responded and said that he will be at Borders next Friday, same time, eating lemon meringue pie and if I feel like a chat to drop by. I might just do that :)

 

Oh he is so going to nail your ass (probably a good thing, you need to get laid). Better to go out on a date on which you still have the power, make him show you what he's made of, whether he will take you to some boring coffee shack or Borders or to some hot new gallery opening full of interesting people. Take the date I implore you!

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Girl,

What does your instinct tell you? Sometimes, when you are unsure, there is always your instinct to rely on ...

 

Joe

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Well, looks like you made your decision.. lol

 

I am going to have to try Border's...lol..

 

Crap, it's soo easy to be a woman.. just sit having coffee, and men flock over you, :p

 

I wonder if that will work for me, I am going to tell someone at Border's I am an attorney or an MD/PhD, lol... Jk

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I have sent him a text message telling him that I would rather not date because of the age difference but would like to stay in touch.

 

He responded and said that he will be at Borders next Friday, same time, eating lemon meringue pie and if I feel like a chat to drop by. I might just do that :)

 

Can I ask the obvious question: WHY?

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What the hell is Borders?

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I would never let age get in the way of a genuine connection. I hope you give it a shot and show up at Border's. This sounds so much like a meet-cute, lol.

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What the hell is Borders?

 

Crappy book chain with in-house cafe with coffee.

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The women where I live aren't all that approachable, they just assume you're some weirdo for JUST approaching them.

 

But most women in this neck of the woods (small town mentality) are married, and they're only in their early 20's , they marry young around here.

 

So when you approach a woman around where I live in public (Be it a Borders or cafe court, chances are their boyfriend or husband are somewhere in the vicinity (next aisle over).

 

Everyone around here couples up pretty much, if they are single....they prefer to be left alone to their book most times.

 

I actually tried approaching a woman reading a comic book. LOL (no joke) Figured this would be a perfect "in" for me, since I'm not geeky stuff, too.

 

Tried an open liner about the character she was enjoying, and she wouldn't even look at me, she'd answer my questions, very solemnly, but not take her eyes off the book (pretty rude). And she was being rather short with me.

 

Like I said, small town mentality.

 

In small towns, also, people have established their own set of friends or "cliques", and prefer not to make NEW friends, actually heard it from a friend that TRIED to get some ladies out of their stupid shell, by going to the "Big city" and meet someone at some private house party....they wouldn't mingle, just stand around and talk to the people they came with.

 

I knew the guy that brought these ladies to the party, talked to them, and I asked, "so have you met anyone else, mingled around?"

 

And, no joke, she said, "Nah, we're not really into making new friends."

 

Their friendships just include the people they grew up with or went to Highschool with....and of course hanging out with family (not that there's anything wrong with family)

 

But they prefer to stay in their own "FISHBOWL", which is rather narrow minded, but hey that's their thing I guess. :p

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It's not just a small town thing. I live in a large Metropolitan area and it's exactly the same -- no one makes new friends after second grade.

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Can I ask the obvious question: WHY?

 

For friendship and conversation. I like to stay in touch with people if I feel they are interesting.

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I'm surprised when people pass on the opportunity for a first date w/ an interesting person. I've gone on dates with people for a chance to learn something new. I went on a few dates with a DJ at my favorite local radio station. On our first date, it was so weird to know his voice so well even though I had never laid eyes on the person.

 

One night he showed me the studio while he was working & it was cool to see the equipment and the playlists. I even got to make a song request.

 

There was no spark between us, but we sometimes talk and hang out when he's doing promotions at dance parties. I'm glad I met him.

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It's not just a small town thing. I live in a large Metropolitan area and it's exactly the same -- no one makes new friends after second grade.

:laugh: OK, keep telling yourself that.

 

As an adult, I have lived in several different states and three different countries, cosmopolitan cities and a rugged mountain town, and I am still friends with people from most of those places. Even though I'm pretty introverted, I make friends wherever I go.

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:laugh: OK, keep telling yourself that.

 

As an adult, I have lived in several different states and three different countries, cosmopolitan cities and a rugged mountain town, and I am still friends with people from most of those places. Even though I'm pretty introverted, I make friends wherever I go.

 

Me too. I have moved around a lot, each time to an area where I didn't know anyone. I lived on 3 continents and making friends was never a problem or something I gave much thought. It just happened. I am also an introvert.

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In your situation, more like acquaintences.

 

When I was younger, I did have some friends I hung out with a lot, then they got married, then they lost touch....I moved on other means of meeting new people and making new friends.

 

It generally involved havin to commute to the big city though, where more people were plentiful (esp. single people)

 

:)

 

:laugh: OK, keep telling yourself that.

 

As an adult, I have lived in several different states and three different countries, cosmopolitan cities and a rugged mountain town, and I am still friends with people from most of those places. Even though I'm pretty introverted, I make friends wherever I go.

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