D-Lish Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 If she doesn't miss me, why would she text me before she even got home from work? Well, you made the thread looking for advice. You are going to get all sorts of responses, of course it's up to you to ignore what you don't want to hear and embrace what you do want to hear. If you want to hold onto her coming back- then by all means do so, because it's your life dude. Unfortunately "good people" break up with "good people" all the time. To displace guilt. Like I said, I hope it works out for you. But I think you should prepare for the worst. A better question to ask yourself might be why is she not with you now? Is it really because of a class? c'mon, some guys in my unit had girls waiting for them for over a year to come home. And your girl can't handle a single class? Be realistic my friend This above.
Author aroll32 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Well, with all the responses in my head it's clear to me what I have to do. I will wait it out, but on my terms. I'm not telling her I consider us broken up, but I'm treating it as we are. I'm not waiting for this girl to decide if she thinks it's the right time for us to be together. I know what I want, and I'm sticking to it. I want to be with her, but only if she wants me back. If she doesn't, thanks for nothing. Honestly skydiveaddict, in our world, school is a good reason to spend some time apart. If I'm around all day wanting to hang out, how can she get anything done? I know for older people it may not be, but we are 20. School is the most important issue to us. I don't want her to mess up her future career goals over something like this.
skydiveaddict Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Honestly skydiveaddict, in our world, school is a good reason to spend some time apart. If I'm around all day wanting to hang out, how can she get anything done? I know for older people it may not be, but we are 20. School is the most important issue to us. I don't want her to mess up her future career goals over something like this. I've been 20 , I've been to college also. I know what it's like. I've also been to war, just like all of the 20 somethings I'm in charge of. And they most all have girlfriends who waited for them. You are making excuses. If she doesnt want to be with you she should just say it. But like Dee said, it's your life, live it however you wish.
Author aroll32 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Listen man, I definitely agree with you. I wish I was strong enough to say to hell with this girl. But I can't leave this girl not knowing whether or not she wants to be with me. We're too close on a romantic and friendship level for this to be the end of our time. I'm not making excuses, I'm just calling it how I see it. I may be wrong, I may not. All that matters to me is if she will be in my life.
skydiveaddict Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Listen man, I definitely agree with you. I wish I was strong enough to say to hell with this girl. But I can't leave this girl not knowing whether or not she wants to be with me. We're too close on a romantic and friendship level for this to be the end of our time. I'm not making excuses, I'm just calling it how I see it. I may be wrong, I may not. All that matters to me is if she will be in my life. I really feel bad for you You are a good man. I'm just afraid she is going to stomp on your heart and spit it out. You've already decided to stick it out so the only thing I can tell you is to be careful and back WAY off at the first sign of trouble.
Author aroll32 Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 It's all good man, not even close to the most messed up thing that's happened to me. But it still hurts. This is my plan: No contact (unless initiated by her), wait until Sunday to go get my book and talk to her face to face. I feel by then I'll be prepared to handle whatever she's got. I know what I will say for both solutions. So that's it. I just hope she's willing to work this thing out. My sister is dating someone who is scarily similar to my girl. They've been able to work through some of the worst crap I've seen. And they live on opposite sides of the country. If they were able to work their relationship out, why can't we? (Unless she's just not into it of course).
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