WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 sex by candlelight and music? I have been seeing this guy for a while now and altho its nothing really serious, I am trying to plan a night of romance I guess u could say... Last time I invited him over everything went wrong so i guess u could say I wanna make it up to him... so Im wondering how many guys out there like that kinda of thing or would u say its kinda lame?
bayouboi Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 sex I stopped reading here and the answer is "yes plz".
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Trust me .. they ALL love the loving attentions.. Add to the candles and music.. some sexy lingerie and a glass of wine or champagne..
reservoirdog1 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Sex with candlelight and music is great. Not all the time, of course. But then, who wants sex to be just a five minute quickie every time? Variety is the spice of life.
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 I dont see why a guy wouldnt like it but I guess since we arent really that serious i dont want to feel like im putting to much into it... plus he is more the romantic type anyway so I would assume he would like it and hope that he doesnt think its lame.
reservoirdog1 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I dont see why a guy wouldnt like it but I guess since we arent really that serious i dont want to feel like im putting to much into it... plus he is more the romantic type anyway so I would assume he would like it and hope that he doesnt think its lame. If he's the romantic type, I'll bet he'd love it. Go for it!
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 well.. I would assume he is the romantic type.. he's more of the slow, gentle type of guy rather than the hard and rough and kinky like my ex used to be... he never set up anything romantic before.. and i have mentioned using music and he says he never done it before.. i havent mentioned candles tho.. I am thinkin he would like it.. should i mention it or just surprise him?
bobdole Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Music of any kind during sex I find distracting. Otherwise I'm all for that - lingerie a big turn on too
Feelin Frisky Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Sex, drugs and rock n' roll. And ok, candles.
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 I wanna make it a night he is going to remember... any idea's to what I can add to the music and candlelight?
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I wanna make it a night he is going to remember... any idea's to what I can add to the music and candlelight? An amazing massage..
Philetus Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I wanna make it a night he is going to remember... any idea's to what I can add to the music and candlelight? It's all good. I love music and candlelight. Massage oil. Erotic massage is way cool...
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 hmmm... wish I knew how to give a massage.. haha... at least a good one.. not very skilled in that catergory.. haha
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 hmmm... wish I knew how to give a massage.. haha... at least a good one.. not very skilled in that catergory.. haha Go slowly.. be passionate.. don't just rub with your hands.. rub with your breasts.. men go wild..
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 I guess im not worried bout if he's going to think its lame.. but more along the lines of him thinking its to much since we arent in a committed serious relationship.. i mean we been seeing each other for a year now, but is all this to much for 2 ppl who arent really in a serious relationship?
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I guess im not worried bout if he's going to think its lame.. but more along the lines of him thinking its to much since we arent in a committed serious relationship.. i mean we been seeing each other for a year now, but is all this to much for 2 ppl who arent really in a serious relationship? You've been seeing each other for a year???? It's not too much for sure.. even if you're not in a serious relationship.. even if he was your sex buddy... it wouldn't be too much.. The too much you're talking about is only the preleminaries..
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 All men love sex, don't worry. But I'm curious why do you want to do that sort of thing? You are a woman, it doesn't make any sense. Troll.... Lame? No. However I as a guy would consider it a red flag if a woman planned something like that. Troll-Troll....
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 Yeah.. its been over a year now... i guess u can say we are takin it slow.. i got out of a terrible marriage and he has been screwed over before so i guess we just aint ready for the next step yet... I guess im just thinkin into it to much.. i dont see why he wouldnt like it.. guess i just dont want to feel dumb.. haha.. so my question is.. should i mention it or just have him come over and surprise him? I never done this kinda thing for anybody before.. i just feel bad since the last time he was over my house was the first time he ever been there since i always go to his house and the experience was terrible.. it was all my fault so i guess i wanna make it up to him...
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 why would it be a red flag?
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Yeah.. its been over a year now... i guess u can say we are takin it slow.. i got out of a terrible marriage and he has been screwed over before so i guess we just aint ready for the next step yet... I guess im just thinkin into it to much.. i dont see why he wouldnt like it.. guess i just dont want to feel dumb.. haha.. so my question is.. should i mention it or just have him come over and surprise him? I never done this kinda thing for anybody before.. i just feel bad since the last time he was over my house was the first time he ever been there since i always go to his house and the experience was terrible.. it was all my fault so i guess i wanna make it up to him... Oh OK.. for a while I thought you were a teenager.. The only thing.. is that.. if it's not really 'you' to do these kind of things.. it might look a little surprising and maybe a little 'off'.. it's hard to say. You don't sound like the terribly 'sexy' kind of predator.. (like I am ).. You have to feel comfortable in what you do.. if you start and then don't know what,s next.. you might want to wait a bit more.. and see how things turn out..
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 If you want a step-by-step 'how to give a sexual massage' I will gladly help..
Author WildWildWest Posted September 9, 2010 Author Posted September 9, 2010 im def not a teenager.. haha.. and lizzie is there any other way to communicate with each other besides on here?
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 im def not a teenager.. haha.. and lizzie is there any other way to communicate with each other besides on here? Unless you pay for the subscription or become an established member, you cannot pm anyone.. so ..not really.
meerkat stew Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 (edited) There's nothing particularly wrong with what you are planning, but if you really want to ring his bell, concentrate on you, how you appear, what you do, and not the environment as much. Subtly find out his fantasy and make it come true. Check into french maid, catholic schoolgirl with lollipop, naughty nurse, serving wench and devil outfits. It can be very individualistic, vinyl or spandex, thigh highs, stockings, ornate shoes, a wig, sunglasses, horn rim glasses, fur. There is likely some quasi fetish female erotic iconography that represents a button for him. It needn't be naughty either, just suggesting some of the usual suspects as examples (could be an angel or even a nun, could be appearing 'cheap' or very high class) depends on what's in his head. Read up on Jungian archetypes. Figure out what his archetype is (this will require work, and time to figure out what it really is) and then use it very sparingly, make it as an alter ego. Promise yourself that you will not become jealous of the archetype, though, it's just a game. Put the outfit on and act incredibly wanton, as if you are completely debauched and can't control yourself. Poke your ass out alot and push yourself to act almost depraved. Get some Lords of Acid albums and use those as a guide. Moan and writhe lots Now this kind of thing is not to every man's taste, but a whole bunch of us will respond better to it, we've all done the candles, oil and massage plenty past a certain experience level. Consider stepping up your game and getting inside his head, and he will love you more for it. Also see Chapelle's point, but wouldn't go so far as saying it's a red flag. I have dated women who always or usually had to have some ritual or preparation involved with sex, and it takes lots of the fun out of it for lots of guys after awhile when having to wait for everything to be set up "just right." Not suggesting that's what you are planning, just be aware of the difference between building tension and boredom. Edited September 9, 2010 by meerkat stew
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 OMG.. MS.. if she's not sure about a massage how can you even suggest role playing.. It's even worst.. he would probably run for the hills. Come on... be serious.. she's not sure about a simple massage.. role playing needs a lot more imagination, vocabulary.. etc.. it's not for everyone.. I've done role playing and I don't enjoy it.. some role play send me rolling on the floor laughing.. I don,t especially like 'comedy' in my bedroom..
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