bobdole Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 All this talk about burger king... Mmm .. Whopper Haha - I've been calorie counting and am a bit hungry
CLC2008 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 If only I was still living in Québec. Fooey. There are croissants here in some places that are just as good.
Star Gazer Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I've never been a fan of first dates at a restaurant or a movie. I'd rather go to a carnival or something and actually do something. Is it cheaper than dinner? Yes, but you can get to know a person better in that type of environment. For once, we finally agree!! This day should be written in the history books.
Mad Max Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Fooey. There are croissants here in some places that are just as good. Never said they're not, but nothing beats croissants in a Francophone city.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 * HINT* When woman whine "why cant I find a good guy that doesnt cheat, get drunk, beat me, cheat on me, etc etc, the guys on the sidelines not playing the games, check there next time instead of on the playing field. What about women who don't? What about women who have found a happy relationship with a guy who is great, honest, and respectful, but also didn't try to take her to burger king on the first date? They exist... *points to self* On my boyfriend and I's first date, we went to a coffee shop and he bought me a $3 chai latte. Then we went back to his place and had amazing sex. We've been together ever since. Does that just rock your world? I wasn't holding out on sex as a form of compensation for dinners or whatever ludicrous idea you were insinuating. I met someone, felt attracted to him, and followed my emotions. I did't wait for him to take me ot to a $200 dinner. Your generalizations irk people here because they are just that. Not only do you tirelessly waste energy.getting angry about the status quo, you mistake your experiences for general facts. Somehow I think that in your case, whether or not you take a girl to burger king.makes no difference. You have already made up your mind about an entire gender and I would bet large amounts of money that your anger and bitterness are obvious to the women you date. If women are so horrible and materialistic, why bother?
CLC2008 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Never said they're not, but nothing beats croissants in a Francophone city. I'm sure they must taste good. But, do they have almond croissants?
Author Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 Women always want to do the stupid overplayed coffee date as the first. My opinion - Coffee dates SUCK royally You have to sit there and think of crap to talk about and on top of that, make yourself sound interesting. I could go to a coffee date with 10 women and strike out Now rewind time, and instead of coffee, take them to something structured/interactive and they will have a totally different outlook of me PS I have never been on a coffee date where the female has anything to say. They just sit there like a freakin bump on a log, likes its my fn job to carry the ENTIRE load.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Thats exactly why I would never date a women with your personality. You have to have a label anywhere you go, something that you wouldnt be ashamed of telling your girlfriends about. Girls that I have dated would be happy to be with me if I told them we were going to hang out in the gutter all day. . Wow, you completely missed the mark there, but nice try. My boyfriend lives in a little hole in the wall apartment, drives a crappy car, and makes about $35000 a year. If I cared about "labels" and status I would be with the wrong guy. And I am head over heels for him.
Mad Max Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I'm sure they must taste good. But, do they have almond croissants? Yes they do. The best place is Croissant Du Port on Rue St-Paul. It's in old Montréal. Nothing beats that bakery.
CLC2008 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Yes they do. The best place is Croissant Du Port on Rue St-Paul. It's in old Montréal. Nothing beats that bakery. Yummers.
Mad Max Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Yummers. Sure was. Unfortunately, I haven't visited home in over 4 years. I need to visit.
westrock Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 You have to sit there and think of crap to talk about and on top of that, make yourself sound interesting. You need to change your appproach to conversing. You should not have to resort to thinking of "crap". Talk about your interests and passions. Ask the other person about their interests and passions. PS I have never been on a coffee date where the female has anything to say. They just sit there like a freakin bump on a log, likes its my fn job to carry the ENTIRE load. I find that hard to believe. If that's the case, you're not listening to them or showing interest in what they are saying. You don't have to carry the ENITRE load, but you need to engage the other person. Ask questions to keep the conversation going.
Author Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 You need to change your appproach to conversing. You should not have to resort to thinking of "crap". Talk about your interests and passions. Ask the other person about their interests and passions. I find that hard to believe. If that's the case, you're not listening to them or showing interest in what they are saying. You don't have to carry the ENITRE load, but you need to engage the other person. Ask questions to keep the conversation going. I didnt realize I asked for advice
Star Gazer Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I didnt realize I asked for advice Maybe you should. Just a thought.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Maybe you should. Just a thought. Nah, he's obviously very happy being angry and miserable; he's just looking for more angry and miserable people to commiserate with.
Author Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 Maybe you should. Just a thought. Just because I rant or voice opinion on here, does no way reflect on how I interact with someone on a date. I guarantee I could meet most of the women on here in person, and they would never believe who I was if I told them my screen name after the fact. That would be a helluva cool idea, to have a meet and greet, and at the end of the night, everyone reveals their LS identity. .
Author Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 Nah, he's obviously very happy being angry and miserable; he's just looking for more angry and miserable people to commiserate with. If women had to deal with half of what guys go through in the dating world they would have given up long ago. And I'm talking about us guys that are looking for an actual relationship. Not to hit it and quit it. Most women dont know a damn thing about the dating world. All you have to do is sit on your ass and do eeny meeny miny mo which guy do I want to take me out this week?
sweetjasmine Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I could not date someone who saw no difference in the "quality of the experience" between a burger king and an actual restaurant. As someone who enjoys experiencing different foods from different cultures and places, I would consider.myself incompatible with a guy who thinks burger king offers a quality experience. FYI, this is coming from a girl who always (without question) offers to pay her half on dates. For me, it has nothing to do with being a girl and wanting yo be coddled. It has to do with preferring my mate to have some culture and class. Same here. I'd rather go to a cheap hole-in-the-wall place with character. Nothing says romantic date like screaming kids at the McDonald's ball pit and processed junk food, combined with the "so exactly WHY should I try to impress YOU?!" attitude. Very charming and irresistible. You have to sit there and think of crap to talk about Serious question: what else do people do on dates? Isn't the point to talk and get to know each other? On our first date, my SO and I talked non-stop, and it never felt like we were struggling to think of crap to talk about and make ourselves sound interesting. It was just honest communication and fun conversation.
Author Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 Serious question: what else do people do on dates? Isn't the point to talk and get to know each other? I never said talking isnt the point. When the other person just sits there like a mound of warm flesh, that means I have to do all the talking, and keep coming up with CRAP to talk about. The dating pool around here is total trash. The women I've met recently are total idiots, I'm surprised they didnt have a chaperone with them on the date.
atlnay Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Last week a guy asked me to meet him @ a deli & all my enthusiasm about his potential evaporated in an instant. Why? I couldn't get as dressed up I like to & it didnt bode well for our future encounters. That was my first impression, so I didnt go. He still wanted to meet & this time I suggested a different eniviroment for us. He picked a better spot & as soon as we got there, told the waitress he already ate. It was then one of the most socially awkward dates I've been on in a long time. I shouldve trusted my 1st impression. Not to say all 1st dates need to be at a 5star place, i can go to a dive bar too, but as one of my coworkers told me, if we start at the dive bar, he'll be content to stay there. The 1st date sets a certain standard about who I am, and trust me it's far from a golddigger and at this point of my life the only dude I should go to a dive bar with is the one I am in a relationship with.
atlnay Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 A caveat, I once worked with a cocky & funny attractive guy. Now had he mumbled, in his deep voice, "Can I take you to BK?" I would've been all over him! Lol
meerkat stew Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Last week a guy asked me to meet him @ a deli & all my enthusiasm about his potential evaporated in an instant... Sorry, but you sound very high maintenance and judgmental despite the rationale you give for your preferences. Then in the next post you basically say if the guy is good looking enough, all the rationale goes straight out the window, making you sound inconsistent and superficial also. Whoever told you that wherever a guy takes you for the first date sets the standard for other dates is someone you should consider avoiding entirely for dating advice going forward, as they are completely clueless.
sweetjasmine Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Okay, let me ask something, out of curiosity. Guys (I don't mean anyone specific, just asking in general), what would you think if on your first date, she showed up in an old baggy t-shirt, sweatpants, and running shoes with her hair in a sloppy ponytail and no make-up on? Would you show up on your first date in whatever clothes you happened to be wearing that day without making an effort to look nicer than you usually do?
Bogo123 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I completely agree with Serenity I find myself nexting girls alot quicker now because i'm truly fed up with all the BS
meerkat stew Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Guys (I don't mean anyone specific, just asking in general), what would you think if on your first date, she showed up in an old baggy t-shirt, sweatpants, and running shoes with her hair in a sloppy ponytail and no make-up on? Would you show up on your first date in whatever clothes you happened to be wearing that day without making an effort to look nicer than you usually do? The sad truth is that if she is hot enough, she can show up eating an onion sandwich with cheeto dust all over her mouth and hands and be fine. Both women and men dress up for dates. I know women probably spend more time than men generally, but also know many women who can dress for a date and look great in the same amount of time it takes a man to do it. It can take a man quite a while to get the sock arranged correctly in his underwear so that it looks natural and not like a rolled up sock, so we take some time getting ready also.
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