Dating deal-breakers

[brainygirl]

Deal breakers: Shallow, ignores me, hates kids, smokes, alcoholic, financially unstable.

 

The ignores me one is a big deal. Why is it so hard to call or send a text or even reply to one from the person you are having sex with?

[naya1]

@brainy : yep..

sadly im in that situation. very sad and idk what to do about it.

[dispatch3d]

-unaccepting of me or things I do

-emotionally unhealthy

-lack ambition

-into hard drugs, do them even semi-regularly, have tried x-very hard drug

-criminal record

[Star Gazer]

Dishonesty, cheating, smoking, drugs, addictions of any kind, racism, doesn't like dogs, emotional unavailability, no desire to explore the world, bad kisser/bad in bed...

[Star Gazer]

No watching E! or reading celeb magazines.

 

I'd be off your list at least every 2-weeks when I read my US/People/Star magazine while getting a mani-pedi! What else does a girl do in the chair??

[jamesum]

She must be a liberal. Otherwise I would run away from her before she kills me on the spot.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Deal breakers? Hmm...

 

-smoker

-hard drug user

-politically socially conservative

-religious

-has children

-has been married

-no job for an extended amount of time (the economy is rough right now so a couple weeks/months is understandable)

-morbidly obese & out of shape

-boring sexual partner (i.e. nothing but missionary position and maybe spooning if you're lucky)

-hates/dislikes animals

-criminal history

 

I'm sure I could think of more but that's all for now.

[LosingBattle]

I think regarding celebrity liking, most women fall into it. But for most, it's just a guilty pleasure that you do once in a while, like guys do with porn. You know, you maybe read a gossip mag at the salon, or watch some E! when you're bored at home. It's OK. I think most guys can live with that.

 

I think what the OP means by celebrity liking, is women who get obsessed with celeb gossip. Who talk about it with him. Who watch E! all day long. And I get that. It's annoying. I watch some E! sometimes, read some gossip, but not to the point where I talk about it, especially with a man I'm interested in. I mean, I don't even talk about it with my girl friends, we have more interesting things to talk about. And I think that's what the OP means. Women who're obsessed with celeb gossip tend to be very uninteresting. Unless you're very into celebs too.

 

My list:

 

- Guys who're TOO jealous. I had an awful experience. A bit jealous is OK, obsessively jealous is a deal breaker.

 

- Guys who're judgmental of my past. It's linked with N°1 above. I had an awful experience. Don't ask, don't tell. I don't judge guys on their past. I wasn't a wh*** anyway, so why get upset over what I've done?

 

- Guys who don't like music. Music is my passion. I prefer a guy who is into the same music as I am, and, preferably, who plays an instrument.

 

- Guys who rAittz laik ThIz. I hate a guy who can't spell. Or worse, a guy who can spell, but deliberately misspells. Sorry, it just seems retarded.

 

- Guys who prefer a different body than mine. My ex was like that. He preferred big breasts. I have small. I'm not willing to go out with a guy who prefers I was bustier. Or taller/shorter/skinnier/fatter/whatever. Ugh.

 

- Homophobes. I have many gay friends.

 

- Guys who try to change my mind. I have my ideas, my thoughts, and I don't need anyone to try to change me. Accept me as I am, or move on. I don't try to change a guy.

 

- Guys who openly ogle when I'm around. It's disrespectful. Same with commenting about so and so being hot, having big boobs, whatever. I'm NOT one of the guys. That's why you have the guys to begin with!

 

- Guys who don't tell me what they want/need. Sometimes guys kind of fear being honest about their needs, and that sucks. It ruins the relationship. I'm not a psychic, so sometimes things aren't evident, but I need to know.

 

- Guys I'm not physically attracted to. I don't generally have a type, for me attraction is very unpredictable, sometimes even some typically "hot" guys look boring I don't feel attracted, same with guys who some girls think are ugly. Thing is, if I'm not into him physically, he can be a great guy, but it just won't happen. I'm not gonna waste his time anyway.

[Calendula]

- Disrespectful (in any regard)

- Controlling (in any regard)

- Overly negative, critical, judgemental, and/or derogatory (in any regard)

- Lack of intelligence and education and no interest in learning anything

- Lack of concern for personal health and well-being (smoker, poor hygeine, substance addictions, no concern for appearence, poor fitness level)

- Differences in physical preferences than me (poor/no sexual compatability, not physically affectionate, etc)

- Poor communication skills

- Insecurities, possesiveness, egotistical, and other emotional issues

- Doesn’t like animals

- Doesn’t like kids

- Lack of independence (i.e. not self sufficient and not interested in becoming so)

- Lack of initiative or self-motivation (i.e. lazy)

- Closed minded and lacking in the ability to see things from someone else’s perspective

- Intolerance of other cultures/ people (Racism, Sexism, Homophobic, Excessively Religious, etc.)

[Cee]

It be fun to add in the lesser known deal breakers ala Seinfeld (eg., man hands, the "pick.")

 

I ended it with someone after he left a skimpy tip (under 15%) in a restaurant in an economically depressed town. I admit he already was working my last nerve at that point.