WalkInThePark Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 Although I am myself slim so have not exactly a body that I should hide, whenever guys were asking for a full body picture I got extremely annoyed. I always felt tempted to ask "What's next, will you ask one of me in my bikini?" For me this asking for extra pictures shows that someone is very focused on looks and very afraid that he might have to meet with someone who is not completely his type. In my book that means that someone wants to meet someone who is exactly like he wants her to be but is not willing to invest an hour of his time to find this out. People very often do not look exactly like their picture. Some people look good on picture, I myself do not look good on picture although I am an attractive woman. If you want to meet people you have to MEET them, in real life. So whenever you like someone's profile, just invite her for a coffee. In the worst case you will lose one hour of your life with a woman who you don't find attractive and/or is boring. So what? Approach it from with a positive attitude: "I'll try to get to know this person a bit and try to have a pleasant moment with her." Your attitude is: "Show me if what you got is good enough for me." Whenever I felt that vibe when I was online dating, I already did not care anymore if I would be good enough for the guy. I did not like the attitude. I like people who do not only want to get something but also want to give something.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 That's the problem with using terms such as "average" (and subsequently, "a few extra pounds") in these circumstances. Does it mean "I am the size of an average american male/female," (which in the US is around a size 12 for women), or "I am actually a size that medical professionals consider an average, healthy weight for my frame and body type." I agree with most of the people who said that if it bothers you that much, why even contact her in the first place?
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 If you are certainly not going to accept any type of physical flaw, as the OP has expressed he is in several posts, then simply DO NOT CONTACT anyone without a full body shot or several. All women on online dating know that men are interested in seeing what type of body we have to decide whether we are "attractive" or not. And I don't think this is shallow. We like what we like, physically and in other ways. Personally, when I was online dating, I tried to have flattering but realistic pictures of myself including full body ones (fully clothed). I don't have the ego to stand meeting a man and seeing his face fall because I don't have the body of a Victoria's Secret model. I'd rather have pictures that made me look fatter than I am, in fact.
LoveLace Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 If you are certainly not going to accept any type of physical flaw, as the OP has expressed he is in several posts, then simply DO NOT CONTACT anyone without a full body shot or several. All women on online dating know that men are interested in seeing what type of body we have to decide whether we are "attractive" or not. And I don't think this is shallow. We like what we like, physically and in other ways. Personally, when I was online dating, I tried to have flattering but realistic pictures of myself including full body ones (fully clothed). I don't have the ego to stand meeting a man and seeing his face fall because I don't have the body of a Victoria's Secret model. I'd rather have pictures that made me look fatter than I am, in fact. I don't think it's shallow either. The subject of the OPs post might think so, however. I understand why men want to see full body shots because I want to see them in men's profiles, too. A shot that goes just from the neck up can be just as deceiving as woman's from the neck up. I'd rather not wait until I meet him to see that I am not attracted to the whole package, or at least most of it. I like to be entirely sure about that part before meeting. And I don't call that shallow, because it's saving time that could be a waste for both parties. After all, if we meet someone randomly while out, versus online, our attraction usually stems from what we see from their head to their feet....we might as well make online dating as close to that as we can get
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