Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 So, I met with a girl from match.com yesterday. Unfortunately no real spark... Today I am supposed to meet another girl. I live in LA now, she lives in OC. We talked yesterday and I said that I can drive down to OC. I said that I don't know that area and if she has a favorite coffee shop we could meet there. Long story short, because of our availability we will end up grabbing dinner (it's too late for coffe at 6:00pm). She was more than willing to meet half-way so we have agreed to do that (her suggestion). Since she knows that area better, she suggested a place. It is a restaurant right off the crossing of two major freeways. But - here is the kicker - she said that if I find something more interesting she's up for it. So, I did a little research. Her restaurant has some positive reviews but it seems to be more of a place for a casual business lunch than a date. That's also what most of the reviews say -"we take our customers there for meetings...". not too far from there, there is an Italian trattoria that has way better reviews and seems to be way more interesting and appropriate for a date. She sent me the address of the place she picked and again said that if I find something else she's game. So I am gonna let her know of the change (call her)... Comments? Opinions? Ladies: Which establishment would you rather be taken to for a date- 1. http://paradise-restaurants.eat24hour.com/ 2.http://www.aliottas.com/
FL Lady Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I like the Paradise Menu. More choices than just Italian. The menu looks great and seems a little less Romantic than Alliotas. Especially for a get to know you date.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 I like the Paradise Menu. More choices than just Italian. The menu looks great and seems a little less Romantic than Alliotas. Especially for a get to know you date. That is a good point. Paradise offers more selection. It is less romantic. None of us has been there. I am just afraid that it may be a bit tacky...
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 UPDATE: I've actually decided to go with a third place. It's called Cherrystones Grill and Grotto and has way more positive reviews than Paradise. It is low-key and most important it is a small family operated place. People talk about it as a hidden gem and I like that very much. http://www.cherrystones.org/restaurant.html
Star Gazer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I would actually go with the place she suggested. She knows it, and knows she likes it (otherwise she wouldn't have suggested it). You don't know any of the restaurants you've been looking at. Plus, a first Match "date" shouldn't be romantic.
2sunny Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 That is a good point. Paradise offers more selection. It is less romantic. None of us has been there. I am just afraid that it may be a bit tacky... walk in, see how it looks, get a feel for the place, if it's not feeling right suggest walking the area to scope out something else that feels right for both of you - allowing her to have input... she will appreciate you going with the flow.
Star Gazer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 walk in, see how it looks, get a feel for the place, if it's not feeling right suggest walking the area to scope out something else that feels right for both of you - allowing her to have input... she will appreciate you going with the flow. Hmm. Now that I think about it, I'm not sure you really want to be walking around Gardena. Or ANYWHERE immediately off the 110. I'm thinking maybe you should go to her after all...
2sunny Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Hmm. Now that I think about it, I'm not sure you really want to be walking around Gardena. Or ANYWHERE immediately off the 110. I'm thinking maybe you should go to her after all... are you sure it's the 110? i was thinking maybe it was by the 405/5 intersection or close to long beach somewhere... why not meet and have a bite to eat by the nearest beach to the fwy you're talking about?
Star Gazer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 are you sure it's the 110? i was thinking maybe it was by the 405/5 intersection or close to long beach somewhere... why not meet and have a bite to eat by the nearest beach to the fwy you're talking about? The first and third links he posted are in Gardena. The second one is in Torrance (do-able). The 405 and 5 don't meet anywhere near Long Beach, silly... but the 405 and 110 kinda do. I have a feeling (based on where he said he was moving to before, and that it's half-way) that she's in Huntington Beach.
FL Lady Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 UPDATE: I've actually decided to go with a third place. It's called Cherrystones Grill and Grotto and has way more positive reviews than Paradise. It is low-key and most important it is a small family operated place. People talk about it as a hidden gem and I like that very much. http://www.cherrystones.org/restaurant.html This place looks nice too (menu).
2sunny Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 The first and third links he posted are in Gardena. The second one is in Torrance (do-able). The 405 and 5 don't meet anywhere near Long Beach, silly... but the 405 and 110 kinda do. I have a feeling (based on where he said he was moving to before, and that it's half-way) that she's in Huntington Beach. i do see now he's pointing towards Gardena. LR- have fun at that restaurant you decided on - sounds fun!
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 This place looks nice too (menu). And it has much MUCH better review when it comes to the ambience and food! 2.5 stars vs 4.5 stars. We BOTH don't know any of these restaurants. She suggested the first one only because she knows it's half-way and she has heard about it before. Yes - Aliotti's can be just postponed and saved for another occasion. I want a low-key place that is small and cozy and family operated. I wouldn't want to meet someone in a crowded place just right off the freeway. Well, she said - "If you find anything more interesting - I am up for it!". I feel like Cherrystones is more interesting than Paradise
FL Lady Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Have fun tonight and enjoy the conversation.
Star Gazer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I don't understand the point of this thread. You asked for opinions in the OP, and by the 4th post in the thread you'd changed your mind to another option and seem to have put your foot down. *shrug* I guess it's more of an announcement than asking for advice. I still think you should avoid Gardena if at all possible. At the very least, try not to be there when it's dark. Just for reference: http://www.gardenapd.org/maps/web_part1_all.pdf
Green Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 If I were you I'd stop using the INTERNET to meet women and do it in real life. You'll get higher quality women and you'll have much more controll... only one problem... you'll have to be confident and smooth enough to approch women in ur every day life.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 I don't understand the point of this thread. You asked for opinions in the OP, and by the 4th post in the thread you'd changed your mind to another option and seem to have put your foot down. *shrug* I guess it's more of an announcement than asking for advice. Why the hostility? Yes - I asked for opinions and I appreciate the input, including yours. However, I am capable of making my own decisions and don't expect anybody from this forum to do the research for me and come up with a place that is perfect. It is logical - I don't feel like Paradise is the place to go, suggested Aliotti's. Aliotti's turnes out to be too romantic for the first date so I looked for something more low-key. I found Cherrystones which has both good food and a nice cozy ambience... It is not an announcement. It was a process and at each step people's input was taken into account.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 If I were you I'd stop using the INTERNET to meet women and do it in real life. You'll get higher quality women and you'll have much more controll... only one problem... you'll have to be confident and smooth enough to approch women in ur every day life. I agree but it is hard to do that when you are new in town. If I meet a woman in real life that I can interact on a regular basis with and get to know her - yes, I have no problem asking her out.
Star Gazer Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Yes - I asked for opinions and I appreciate the input, including yours. However, I am capable of making my own decisions and don't expect anybody from this forum to do the research for me and come up with a place that is perfect. I'm not hostile, but you just proved my point. I realize you weren't asking us to find you a place, but you didn't exactly listen to any of the constructive advice offered before you made your decision. It was a process and at each step people's input was taken into account. Uh, not it wasn't. You posted your UPDATE decision before you received ANY about it. Have you even looked at the link I posted? Do you know anything about Gardena as a neighborhood/part of town??
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 I'm not hostile, but you just proved my point. I realize you weren't asking us to find you a place, but you didn't exactly listen to any of the constructive advice offered before you made your decision. Uh, not it wasn't. You posted your UPDATE decision before you received ANY about it. Have you even looked at the link I posted? Do you know anything about Gardena as a neighborhood/part of town?? So, I read your posts... What really strikes me is that you somehow can't filter out the information... You assumed that she knows the place and she likes it. NO - she suggested it only because she knows it's half-way. She's never been there and she doesn't know it. How am I supposed to listen to the advice of someone who didn't bother to read the post in some detail? I have listened to "a first match.com date doesn't have to be romantic". Yes, I don't know anything about Gardena as a neighborhood... Yes, I have looked at the link you posted. Yes, it bothers me a little, which means that I make sure she gets to her car and will have to exercise caution while walking to my car. Thanks.
Green Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I'm not hostile, but you just proved my point. I realize you weren't asking us to find you a place, but you didn't exactly listen to any of the constructive advice offered before you made your decision. Uh, not it wasn't. You posted your UPDATE decision before you received ANY about it. Have you even looked at the link I posted? Do you know anything about Gardena as a neighborhood/part of town?? I'm not gonna lie but you turn into a real pretty little monster when resteraunts come up. I remember I once posted about Magiano's little italy being a nice place and you bashed me about how it was a cheap mall chain.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Lakeside, I am curious. What type of spark was missing with the first girl? Physical or conversational?
Author Lakeside_runner Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Lakeside, I am curious. What type of spark was missing with the first girl? Physical or conversational? Unfortunately the physical. I say unfortunately because it makes me feel like I am shallow . She is just not my type. Conversation was great and we had a good time. It's just I am not attracted to her at all. She would be a very good friend though
Green Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Unfortunately the physical. I say unfortunately because it makes me feel like I am shallow . She is just not my type. Conversation was great and we had a good time. It's just I am not attracted to her at all. She would be a very good friend though You really can't break it down to the physical. I mean even if you are dating the elephant woman you should just say "no chemestry" or "wasn't attracted" When a girls like was it the physical or spiritual (what ever that means) just say "I look at people as whole" The part about you that is most shallow is that you date women on the net. Thats your problem. You're mr. MATH you should very well know that if you play the numbers game in the real world your a lot better off then the 1 or 2 women you get to meet in the real world off the net. Every day when you run through the park or walk through a mall ect... I bet you see hundreds of different cute chicks. Just walk up and introduce urself. girls find this crap really romantic.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I disagree Green. Net is a good way to increase your options. Especially for people that are in their late 20s or above. Lakeside, I know what you mean about the physical. It's almost impossible to gauge, even from pictures.
Green Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I disagree Green. Net is a good way to increase your options. Especially for people that are in their late 20s or above. Lakeside, I know what you mean about the physical. It's almost impossible to gauge, even from pictures. You would disagree your a female net helps you out in a way. Believe me my options are increased infinite fold by ignoring the net and doing real world dating.
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