Art_Critic Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Dating my boss... yah, that won't fly, which is one of the reasons we're not dating right now. I HOPE it's the only one. Dating the boss would be the thing.. Dating someone over your head would cause loss of loyalty in the other coworkers you are equals with. By causing a failure I meant that if yo date and it doesn't work out then there won't be any loyalty left and the the part you both value as number 1 will not exist anymore.
Author spookie Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Oh. He's also anal-retentive to the point of OCD.
Author spookie Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 Dating the boss would be the thing.. Dating someone over your head would cause loss of loyalty in the other coworkers you are equals with. By causing a failure I meant that if yo date and it doesn't work out then there won't be any loyalty left and the the part you both value as number 1 will not exist anymore. After 2 years I have no doubt I won't be dating him while he's my boss. It's not something I would particularly like to do anyway, but I guess having a sign that he'd date me OTHERWISE would be nice so I knew whether to give up hope and stay, or leave.
Cee Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I went four years without dating once (by choice). I'd get a little something, something on the side once in a while. I bet your boss is like that. Just too busy and not that into having a girlfriend. I hope that you aren't treating your boss as your only dating prospect. Watch out for one-itis. I think it's ok that you have a crush, but two years is too long to waste your fine self on unrequited love. Get out of the office and meet some new people.
denise_xo Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 According to another one of my friends, he's an alcoholic, but whenever she sees him at bars, he's always alone. . I don't think he's actually an alcoholic. Spookie, stay off unless you're really really sure that he's not an alcoholic. I've dated an alcoholic and been one myself. Believe me, both scenarios were ugly (and the alcoholic I dated remains one of the most beautiful men I've met, but it just doesn't matter when the beauty is literally drowned in drink). People tend to think that people are not alcoholics as long as they're not lying in the gutter somewhere. I had friends refusing to accept or believe the fact I had an alcohol problem because I was otherwise outwardly 'successful'. Nothing wrong with being alone in bars if that's all it is, but anyone with an alcohol problem really isn't worth your time.
dispatch3d Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 What do you make of that, Spook? Two years is a LONG time to not date anyone. I mean, even the biggest loser (not that he's one) can get an internet date off Craigslist. So, one of three things can be deduced: 1 - he's gay 2 - he has a private life that no one is privvy to 3 - he is EXCEPTIONALLY dysfunctional I vote for 3. 4 - he doesn't ask girls out ever so he doesn't get any dates. Lol wow. So guys, if it's been a while since your last relationship just lie, or dodge the question, since they'll assume your gay, have a very exclusive private life, and are very disfunctional.....
Author spookie Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 The last couple of days have been amazing. He's called me over to help him compose emails like back in the old days, joking around with me the whole time; and today we had a general meeting that lasted 2 hours. He asked if I had anything fun planned for the weekend (which he has NEVER done before) and even told me about how he's going out of town for a competition. Structural changes are planned for the end of the year for our division, so I am hoping the rekindled flirtation indicates that I may be getting a transfer soon, and he IS interested.
newdawn Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Well spookie, can you try getting transferred to another dept where he is not your manager? He can't really date you when he's your manager. Most companies have policies against this. If you transfer now, and still he doesn't pursue, then you have your answer. All jobs are temporary, and love deserves a chance.
MrNate Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 4 - he doesn't ask girls out ever so he doesn't get any dates. Lol wow. So guys, if it's been a while since your last relationship just lie, or dodge the question, since they'll assume your gay, have a very exclusive private life, and are very disfunctional..... This is what I was thinking. I wonder if the same would apply for a woman? Maybe it would just be her taking time to 'rediscover what she wants', instead of being gay or anything. Of course if a man is single for a couple years, he has to be gay or something negative. He just has to be. Sheesh.
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