have any of you ever bought the E-Books telling you how to make a man fall in love?

[a_woman]

You can't change who you are, at least not quickly. There was nothing a woman could do outside of just being herself that could make me love her. So, having sex on a first date or waiting a month - irrelevant. Having children or not - irrelevant. Having money or not - irrelevant.

 

Be a well-rounded person who has hobbies and interests, be physically fit and learn how to be comfortable in your own skin.

 

Groucho Marx said it best. Men don't want to belong to a club that would have them as a member. If you give an alpha male an indication that you need him, he'll immediately start thinking he can do better. Being a well-rounded person who doesn't need him, makes you seem compelling and he'll revel in his good fortune at having someone like you. But, you can't pretend. You have to be it.

 

There are no quick fixes and no tricks.

 

this is my experience exactly. generally speaking if men feel you add something to their lives that they wouldn't have otherwise, they will want to keep you.

[my body is a cage]

you said that not me. So no, I didn't say it. Yes, you did say it.

 

mm whatnow? i only said it in the context of asking if you said it. or implied it, rather.

[donnamaybe]

I don't think any book can tell you how to make a person fall in love with you. Just be yourself as this is what you will end up being in the end anyway. They either want you or they don't.

Agreed. If you put on some "act" to get a guy to fall in love with you, pretty soon the facade will slip away anyway. Better to get with a guy who wants the REAL you rather than some book store version that won't last.

[donnamaybe]

I hate these books, regardless of which gender it's for. The authors are trying to make money and they make money by feeding people's insecurities.

Absolutely! My guy used to (well, still does in a joking way) make comments about how I should "let him wear the balls." I just tell him, "Well, wear the damn things!" lol There is NO way I was going to change myself into some submissive, subservient version of a woman. I yam what I yam!

 

He loves me JUST the way I am, balls and all.

[dispatch3d]

mm whatnow? i only said it in the context of asking if you said it. or implied it, rather.

 

No I am not saying or implying that either.