BobSacamento Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I can't help but get the feeling that you want to find something new. It sounds like you're bored.
Pfiend101 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Most women hate giving blowjobs and thinks it's disgusting, you're lucky... I would never let a woman give me a bj either, it's gross and I wouldn't want any women to have to do something like that to me. Dont ruin it for the rest of us! Damn son.
Don Ho Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 ROLMFAO!! You guys that say you're not into BJs, guess you've never had a really good one! I used to think that too, until I met a woman with lots of EXPERIENCE in that field. Perfect, maybe you're no good at it .... maybe he never let you get that far. Why not let him go down on you? Are you nuts? Why feel guilty. If you don't have to reciprocate, I guess good for you! LOL.
meerkat stew Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Please don't try to turn this into some crazy gender thing, as I read it he was refusing to try a blowjob to even see if he liked them, not refusing them after experiencing a few. Look, posters questioned OP's manhood and whether he had sexual hangups, merely because he didn't want a BJ. But of course drawing attention to double standards is "crazy" especially when they are to men's detriment, I get that. It's cool when women make things gender related all over this board, uncool when men do it, I get that too.
meerkat stew Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 ROLMFAO!! You guys that say you're not into BJs, guess you've never had a really good one! Would say 10 of the last 100 or so I've had were good, a GF in 2006-2007 was good at it, but that's long odds. Would rather just f_ck than deal with the fallout when they do it wrong and somehow that becomes an unnecessary talking point for the rest of the evening, "what's wrong?" "are you still attracted to me?":sick: Would rather just skip the hassle and concentrate on doing things I have control over that I know are going to make both of us feel good with 0 angst. Admittedly have never had one from a hooker as have never been with one. Imagine they are better at it.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Have you tried asking him why he doesn't ever want you to go down on him? You two have known each other a long time so you should be able to talk about this. I might try it when you're not naked and have a real discussion. He should be open to talking about it. Don't accept a "just don't feel like it" answer. Or...try going down again next time you are intimate. When he refuses, then don't sleep with him and continue. Make him talk about why.
Stung Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Look, posters questioned OP's manhood and whether he had sexual hangups, merely because he didn't want a BJ. But of course drawing attention to double standards is "crazy" especially when they are to men's detriment, I get that. It's cool when women make things gender related all over this board, uncool when men do it, I get that too. I know, I was one of the ones who brought up the possibility of a Madonna-Whore complex--and I still think it's a viable possibility. Not a certainty, but definitely a possibility. It's not all that uncommon, especially among relatively inexperienced youth. You pointed out that it might be that he just doesn't like blowjobs, which would be an extremely valid point IF he had ever had a blowjob--which he hasn't. The OP specifically said that this young man has never had a blowjob and has had zero negative blowjob experiences. You are continuing to ignore this very pertinent fact. Draw attention to as many actual double standards as you like, and while I might not agree with your take on them I will pay attention and try to learn something from a different perspective. There is no double standard here--perhaps you just didn't read the opening post very carefully. For the record, I'm aware that there are men who aren't that into BJs and I don't question their manhood, just as there are women who don't like cunnilingus. I don't necessarily understand it, because I love oral sex, but I don't think it's a big deal as long as everybody's happy with what they ARE giving and receiving. However, that's not the issue here, because OP's boyfriend doesn't even know if he would like one if he got one. He is against them on some kind of philosophical, religious, psychological or emotional level. By the way, the poster who actually brought up the Madonna-Whore complex (albeit conceptually and not by name) before me was a man.
Don Ho Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 For the record, I'm aware that there are men who aren't that into BJs and I don't question their manhood, just as there are women who don't like cunnilingus. I don't necessarily understand it. Ok, then they have NEVER have had it done right! Anyone who doesn't like it from someone that knows what they're doing has serious sexual issues from their childhood.
TaraMaiden Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 The OP is Italian. Chances are, as she's known this guy since they were kids, he is too. Guess what? They're Roman Catholics. Doesn't that say something to you? I am Italian. I was Christened a Roman Catholic. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about.... I have met more RC's with sexual hang-ups than you could ever shake a stick at. Upbringing. That's what it is, here, I think. 'Mr Vanilla sex' has sexual hang-ups due to his Roman Catholic upbringing. And so has the OP, because she believes she SHOULD please him in the bedroom. PerfectImperfection, It's not all about making sure just the other person enjoys it.... you should be relaxed and comfortable enough to release and enjoy it all, yourself, and love what you're doing, and love what's being done to you. Whether he is a regular church-going good boy right now, I don't know. But trust me - as a kid, he went to church. He learnt things, and was told things, and made to believe things which frankly, are so ridiculous.... Ascolta, PerfectImperfection - devi discutere chiaramente e parlargli bene e lungo per ben capire che sta succedendo qui.....
Author PerfectImperfection Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 grazie per i vostri commenti. Sì, fu costretto ad andare in chiesa quando era un bambino, da sua nonna. lui lo odiava. grazie mille per il vostro tempo. Penso che ho finalmente trovato la mia risposta.
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