Knittress Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Five years ago when I met my ex I was strapped for cash and eating next to nothing. (And DAMN, I looked hot... ::sigh:: ) He still lived with his folks and his mom would cook these delicious meals I couldn't get enough of AND she made desert! I was ecstatic, as I was always feeling hungry and hated to cook besides - besides, it's not like I had a weight problem. I gained 50 pounds! (My ex didn't - stupid man metabolism) What I've taken from this is that I will NEVER, EVER do that again. He's now an ex and I STILL have issues with my body. Grrrrr.
Ingenue Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I think you need to talk to your possible potential partner/gf. She may not understand your diet or want to engage with it herself, but if she respects you, she'll respect your dietary preferences. You could even try to get her involved if she's leaning towards that. All relationships should be built on honesty and if it makes you feel bad (on a food level) being with her, you're already compromising. It's ultimately up to you whether you feel that compromise is acceptable. I understand the reluctance to say something about this before the relationship is cemented. My current boyfriend did the same with me. He ate a dessert that he particularly dislikes for close to 2 months before telling me he didn't like the texture. As for influencing diet, I've managed to successfully alter my boyfriend's diet towards the healthier end. I didn't do it by nagging or even hypnotic suggestion. I simply would bring a variety of fruits and vegetables to the table and eat them myself for snacks, for meals. After awhile, he started eating them too. He's now cooking vegetables (even ones he previously hated) because the way I've cooked them doesn't resemble the mush his mom subjected him to.
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