TaurusTerp Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 The impression I get is someone that's high maintenance and looking for attention. Good point. Other women are never looking for attention, after all.
Mad Max Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Good point. Other women are never looking for attention, after all. Someone dressed in a dress and heels(assuming the function doesn't call for it) is more likely to be looking for attention than someone dressed in nice jeans and a shirt not revealing too much cleavage.
TaurusTerp Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Someone dressed in a dress and heels(assuming the function doesn't call for it) is more likely to be looking for attention than someone dressed in nice jeans and a shirt not revealing too much cleavage. A restaurant/lounge/bar is not the venue for dress and heels? And there's nothing anywhere in this thread that mentions cleavage.
Confused & Jealous Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 That's one of the issues. The other is having absolutely no idea on how to even approach a woman. I actually began to feel more positive about things, so I decided to try this. I somewhat (She is from around my way, and she's a very nice woman) had guts to approach her, and I did, by saying "hi" to her. After that, I couldn't say anything else. I realized that I hadn't improved at all when it comes to the approach. Not even a lil bit. I don't even see why I fear rejection so much when I don't even know how to go beyond "hi" when talking to a woman. It's terrible. Sounds to me like you made the 1st step to being able to approach women! Well done .... it will get easier, you have to practice, like everything else. A friend of mine began his quest by walking past women in the street and commenting on the weather!!
Gallaxia Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Just because someone isn't dressed the best, doesn't mean they're a slob. You can look sexy without the mini skirts and hooker heels. Women dress up like that for attention. They do it to compete with other females. I don't need the drama in my life. I'd rather have someone that doesn't need to dress up like that. I understand what you mean overall but it is a bit convoluted. Plenty of women dress up and can manage to be drama-free. You have to look at the person though, not (just) the clothes.
dispatch3d Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Sounds to me like you made the 1st step to being able to approach women! Well done .... it will get easier, you have to practice, like everything else. A friend of mine began his quest by walking past women in the street and commenting on the weather!! lol the first step to approaching women is to approach women. Thinking about approaching women, chatting about it, talking about it, etc. all fit in the category of not the first step to approach women.
Sphere Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Number 2 is laughing and smiling and having a good time. Number 1 might be, but I'm not sure. They're both probably enjoying themselves, but in different ways. This thread is largely pointless.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Someone dressed in a dress and heels(assuming the function doesn't call for it) is more likely to be looking for attention than someone dressed in nice jeans and a shirt not revealing too much cleavage. Who said cleavage? I think your ideas of dressed up equals slutty. If that's how you think a woman is when she dresses up, then you have the wrong impression about women who want to look pretty. Pretty doesn't mean whorish, at least, thats not what I was talking about. I guess thats the image that you got. Maybe that's what pretty is to you, but that's not what I was referring to.
espec10001 Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I'll tell you what the biggest attraction is. A girl or female who has her own style, doesn't follow the trends of everyone around her, and looks sexy in an original and inventive way. THAT is super sexy to me, but very rare.
Philetus Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Let's say there is a very beautiful woman at a lounge/restaurant/bar. In which case are you more likely to approach her? 1. She is dressed up, hair and make up done (not over the top), nice clothes, high heels and just chatting with a friend of hers. or 2. She isn't dressed the best, too casual for the place she is at, but is laughing and smiling and having a great time. Not really enough information but I'd probably go with #2 unless I was dressed as nicely as/better than #1. First impression is critical and if I feel at some disadvantage (not dressed as well) then I would go the route where I feel I have some advantage.
caramel c Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I don't understand. Are these the only two differences here? #1 is having an good time, while #2 is having a grand old time. #1 is dressed appropriately and looks great, while #2 is dressed inappropriately for the occasion. What is the underlying question here? Are men intimidated by women who dress well? Or are they more likely to approach a girl who is about to fall off her chair laughing vs. a girl who is enjoying her time out with a friend?
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