Hopeful30 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Let's say there is a very beautiful woman at a lounge/restaurant/bar. In which case are you more likely to approach her? 1. She is dressed up, hair and make up done (not over the top), nice clothes, high heels and just chatting with a friend of hers. or 2. She isn't dressed the best, too casual for the place she is at, but is laughing and smiling and having a great time.
Pyro Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 doesn't matter. If she looks attractive to me then I would talk to her. Either of those looks could be attractive to me....depending on the woman of course.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 If I were dressed to the nines, I'd probably see the under-dressed for the setting as someone with a potential chip on her shoulder--especially if she's exceptionally good-looking--trying to give everyone else the finger a little. Screw her and the Clydesdales that pull her beer wagon. I don't expect a woman really put togther with pinache at a club to cotten to a dude making advances dressed like a dumpy dink. Either it's a high class joint where one pays big time for drinks or it's a neighborhood gin mill where a martini comes in a styrofoam cup with, god forbid, as much vermouth as the recipe calls for. So there.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 If I were dressed to the nines, I'd probably see the under-dressed for the setting as someone with a potential chip on her shoulder--especially if she's exceptionally good-looking--trying to give everyone else the finger a little. Screw her and the Clydesdales that pull her beer wagon. I don't expect a woman really put togther with pinache at a club to cotten to a dude making advances dressed like a dumpy dink. Either it's a high class joint where one pays big time for drinks or it's a neighborhood gin mill where a martini comes in a styrofoam cup with, god forbid, as much vermouth as the recipe calls for. So there. But I don't mean a woman who is overdressed for the place. I'm talking about a woman who is appropriatedly dressed, versus one who is very underdressed.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 But I don't mean a woman who is overdressed for the place. I'm talking about a woman who is appropriatedly dressed, versus one who is very underdressed. I thought I got that and addressed it. Guess I failed if you got other impressions. My apologies.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Neither. I wouldn't be able to. Why? Fear of rejection?
neowulf Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Why? Fear of rejection? Bingo I think women seriously underestimate how stressful simply walking up to a girl and chatting her up can be.. If you're introverted by nature, it can be a real nightmare.
Cracker Jack Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 That's one of the issues. The other is having absolutely no idea on how to even approach a woman. I actually began to feel more positive about things, so I decided to try this. I somewhat (She is from around my way, and she's a very nice woman) had guts to approach her, and I did, by saying "hi" to her. After that, I couldn't say anything else. I realized that I hadn't improved at all when it comes to the approach. Not even a lil bit. I don't even see why I fear rejection so much when I don't even know how to go beyond "hi" when talking to a woman. It's terrible.
jamesum Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Let's say there is a very beautiful woman at a lounge/restaurant/bar. In which case are you more likely to approach her? 1. She is dressed up, hair and make up done (not over the top), nice clothes, high heels and just chatting with a friend of hers. or 2. She isn't dressed the best, too casual for the place she is at, but is laughing and smiling and having a great time. Neither. I dont go to a restaurant or a bar to find a woman.
Seamless74 Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Personally Id approach whichever one gave me a signal...
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Personally Id approach whichever one gave me a signal... Finally! An intelligent answer from a man who knows how to identify a signal!
Mad Max Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I'm not into the ones that dress up like you described in #1. #2 all the way.
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Neither. I dont go to a restaurant or a bar to find a woman. This is my answer as well.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 I'm not into the ones that dress up like you described in #1. #2 all the way. But isn't it attractive when a woman tries to look nice? No one wants a lazy slob who doesn't bother trying to look sexy once in a while. Does beauty (in this case beauty and looking really good) really give men the impression that she thinks she is too good for everyone? I mean after all, who doesn't want to look pretty.
Mad Max Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 But isn't it attractive when a woman tries to look nice? No one wants a lazy slob who doesn't bother trying to look sexy once in a while. Does beauty (in this case beauty and looking really good) really give men the impression that she thinks she is too good for everyone? I mean after all, who doesn't want to look pretty. Just because someone isn't dressed the best, doesn't mean they're a slob. You can look sexy without the mini skirts and hooker heels. Women dress up like that for attention. They do it to compete with other females. I don't need the drama in my life. I'd rather have someone that doesn't need to dress up like that.
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 But isn't it attractive when a woman tries to look nice? No one wants a lazy slob who doesn't bother trying to look sexy once in a while. Does beauty (in this case beauty and looking really good) really give men the impression that she thinks she is too good for everyone? I mean after all, who doesn't want to look pretty. I see the disguised question you're trying ask here...yes, it's important to look put together whenever you're out, but just as important is that you dress for the occasion and the venue...for example, a guy shouldn't wear a suit and tie to a football game...that being said, you can make a casual outfit look as good on you as a more formal/dressy outfit...but your environment will inevitably have an impact on how you look...
TaurusTerp Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I'd go with #1, all other things equal. I like a well dressed woman, and more often than not a girl dressed to impress is more likely to be single.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 (edited) ...and more often than not a girl dressed to impress is more likely to be single. VERY smart observation. Very impressive. Edited August 24, 2010 by Hopeful30
SlevinKalebra Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Left out a bit of information. The girl that is not dressed up is smiling and laughing, right? The more dressed up one? Stone faced? Looking like she's bored? An air of b*tchiness? If one is more relaxed and seems to be more of a pleasure to be around then I choose her. Corny as it may be I am a sucker for an attractive smile on an attractive woman. As far as a signal... I don't like the idea of needing permission to say hi. If she's not in the mood to talk, cool no harm no foul, I look at "chatting up" even the first date as an interview. If she isn't into me so be it. But why waste time waiting on the outskirts for an acknowledgement?
dispatch3d Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 But isn't it attractive when a woman tries to look nice? No one wants a lazy slob who doesn't bother trying to look sexy once in a while. Does beauty (in this case beauty and looking really good) really give men the impression that she thinks she is too good for everyone? I mean after all, who doesn't want to look pretty. I'd go with number one unless number 2 looks better despite not being dressed up. In this case I'd go with 2 hands down. 60% of guys wouldn't go talk to you, 25% of those who do are drunk so they won't even remember what happened, 10% are players, and the remaining 15% are from the army and need a girl to shack up with before they go overseas. These numbers don't add up on purpose to prove how horribly inaccurate and ridiculous I am.
Stung Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Just because someone isn't dressed the best, doesn't mean they're a slob. You can look sexy without the mini skirts and hooker heels. Women dress up like that for attention. They do it to compete with other females. I don't need the drama in my life. I'd rather have someone that doesn't need to dress up like that. I'm not sure where you got miniskirts and hooker heels from. The OP specifically referenced the first woman as being dressed up in nice clothes, her hair and makeup not being overdone. The impression I got was a woman who was elegant and chic, not a barfly dressed like a hooker.
Mad Max Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I'm not sure where you got miniskirts and hooker heels from. The OP specifically referenced the first woman as being dressed up in nice clothes, her hair and makeup not being overdone. The impression I got was a woman who was elegant and chic, not a barfly dressed like a hooker. She is dressed up, hair and make up done (not over the top), nice clothes, high heels and just chatting with a friend of hers. The impression I get is someone that's high maintenance and looking for attention.
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