Got her number but...

[Funky]

Agreed that I should of tried to get some chit chat going. Problem is I was on my work lunch and had to get back to work, it's not that I didn't want to stay and chat... I did what I could and that's that...

 

Plus I've been out of "the game" for a long time so this was like a warm up haha

[phineas]

The only reason I say this (before, ahem, you all start jumping to conclusions) is that on several occasions I've had messages appear in my vm or inbox that were several days old and this has happened to my friends also. Or it'll send me the same message 9 times (anyways I digress). It happens frequently enough, especially with newer phones and the 'bugs' they have to work out that I think it's worth a second call if you're really interested. But after that...no more. Yes, if she/he/it is interested, they will call back after they get their message.

 

same here.

sometimes a call goes directly to VM & my phone won't tell me.

I'll miss a call & go to my VM & have 2 or 3 messages a week old I didn't know about.

[Sphere]

Agreed that I should of tried to get some chit chat going. Problem is I was on my work lunch and had to get back to work, it's not that I didn't want to stay and chat... I did what I could and that's that...

 

Plus I've been out of "the game" for a long time so this was like a warm up haha

 

There's nothing wrong with asking mate. "If you don't ask you don't get" and it wasn't the worst rejection in the world, even it was spineless on her part. She could have at least answered and said "I'm not interested", or "I'm seeing someone", but then women are not obliged to do that, so there's nothing us men can do about it apart from just deleting her number, forgetting her name and finding someone better suited for us.

[Chocolat]

Interesting...but why would more than one call be appropriate...? Let's say a guy you're actually interested in calls you and leaves a voicemail...would you willingly ignore the voicemail and wait for the guy to call again...? That's just inconsiderate. I wouldn't be interested.

 

And also, if a girl claims that she is too busy to return a simple phone call, then she's obviously too busy to date. Not interested.

 

He only made one real call. In the first call, he did not leave a message. I do not call back numbers in my phone. If someone wants to talk to me, they need to leave a message. And then I call back.

[Sphere]

He only made one real call. In the first call, he did not leave a message. I do not call back numbers in my phone. If someone wants to talk to me, they need to leave a message. And then I call back.

 

What sort of logic is that? I never leave voicemail messages, my notification with my name and number will come up on the screen of your phone telling you I rang, if you can't be bothered to ring back then that's fine, but you'll not hear from again.

[gypsy_nicky]

first mistake is you don't even know if she's attracted to you. That's the problem with cold approaching.

[dispatch3d]

haha. fine!

 

so she comes over to where I'm sitting and calls me by my name (because I wrote it on the note) and says, "hey Conflicted, look! the pen you wrote me with totally blew up in my hands!"

 

 

I would have went with "Haha, yeah yeah, It's a trick pen, They are hilarious. Don't you think?"

 

Getting a shutup is a pretty good response tho. More just saying this cause I have a hard time coming up with ball-busting on the spot. It almost seems like an in-the-moment reacting to the situation thing.

 

so when she's free I say "so Judy, I have to ask you something." she says, "so you're talking to me now?"

 

This number thing seems weak to me (after this point I feel like you went downhill). The wedding band is meh. Not sure I totally believe it. At any rate "so you're talking to me now". Jesus, how did You not bust on her here? I couldn't even resist...

 

"No, don't be silly. Is there a cuter waitress on duty?"

"Only because you're forcing me to"

etc.

 

Did you have a reason for not continuing in the above manner? Kinda just curious. Seems like you could transition from the ballbusting to more productive things or whatever more smoothly?

 

I say "it's gotta be the most cliche thing when guys ask for your number, when you say, what can I get for you?"

 

she's like, "that never happens".

 

so I say "really??" & she's like "yah." so I say "then it would work on you, wouldn't it??" and she asks "are you asking for my number??"

 

and I say "of course not... don't you remember, you have to ask, 'what can I get you?' are you asking what you can get me?"

 

lolol.

 

so get this... she smiles and slowly raises up her left hand and bam! a wedding band. she says "I'm married". lol.

 

so I say, "I hope I didn't offend you, you just look really young!" and she's like, "lol, yah, I'm 21" I damn near had to hold myself back from laughing cause she was clearly living the attention.

 

I say, "wow, you must be a great judge of character" lol. and she's like "yah, my husband's great."

 

so anyway, I'm outside waiting for a Togo order I just placed and as she leaves (cause her shift is over) she says, "bye Conflicted" and waives. I say "see you next time"

 

and that's the end. interest was waaaay built in this situation. she ate all of it up. didn't turn into digits, but that's fine cause I don't go out with married women.

 

however, I'll be flirting with her next time. ;p

too fun.

 

"then it would work on you wouldn't it" - sounds like you are "trying to use lines" or something here. I would have proceeded to bait her into saying "What can I get you". Like, "Do you sell stuff here?" etc.

 

baiting will setup some good things here. If she's on to you then she'll have to be careful what she says. You can even bring attention to it and be like careful! You shouldn't be giving your number to customers anyways! Stop fratenizing..etc....

 

good stuff tho yo!

Edited August 4, 2010 by dispatch3d

[Allisha]

haha. fine!

 

so she comes over to where I'm sitting and calls me by my name (because I wrote it on the note) and says, "hey Conflicted, look! the pen you wrote me with totally blew up in my hands!"

 

she then shows me the ink on her hands.

 

I laugh and ask her "are you usually this unlucky, or do you think it's something I'm doing intentionally??"

 

she says "shut up!" and I say "fine!" then turn away and she smiles and walks away.

 

she's on duty so she takes a few orders, whatever. meanwhile I'm thinking, what can I use to grab her number. lol.

 

so when she's free I say "so Judy, I have to ask you something." she says, "so you're talking to me now?"

 

I say "it's gotta be the most cliche thing when guys ask for your number, when you say, what can I get for you?"

 

she's like, "that never happens".

 

so I say "really??" & she's like "yah." so I say "then it would work on you, wouldn't it??" and she asks "are you asking for my number??"

 

and I say "of course not... don't you remember, you have to ask, 'what can I get you?' are you asking what you can get me?"

 

lolol.

 

so get this... she smiles and slowly raises up her left hand and bam! a wedding band. she says "I'm married". lol.

 

so I say, "I hope I didn't offend you, you just look really young!" and she's like, "lol, yah, I'm 21" I damn near had to hold myself back from laughing cause she was clearly living the attention.

 

I say, "wow, you must be a great judge of character" lol. and she's like "yah, my husband's great."

 

so anyway, I'm outside waiting for a Togo order I just placed and as she leaves (cause her shift is over) she says, "bye Conflicted" and waives. I say "see you next time"

 

and that's the end. interest was waaaay built in this situation. she ate all of it up. didn't turn into digits, but that's fine cause I don't go out with married women.

 

however, I'll be flirting with her next time. ;p

too fun.

 

Awh...and it was going so well...

 

Better luck next time

[Sphere]

first mistake is you don't even know if she's attracted to you. That's the problem with cold approaching.

 

Cold Approaching often blows cold, but sometimes, just sometimes blows hot. It all depends on the situation and the girl in question. It hardly works for me, but sometimes it throws up a surprise.

[MyNameIsJonas]

I'm kind of surprised that no one has brought up the possibility that she didn't pick up the phone because she didn't recognize the number. I know a ton of people who do this, both men and women, and it has nothing to do with really anything; they just don't answer if they don't know the number.

 

That being said OP, you probably should have left a VM the first time you called instead of the second time. I would say you blew what slim shot you had when you didn't leave it the first time.

 

If she calls back, great, but if not, move on. You sound pretty confident if you really got her number as described (bravo for that, btw) so it shouldn't be difficult for you to do it again.