dispatch3d Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 One of the girls mentioned that "I can't think of any text a guy I don't know could send me that would make me fall in love with him". This brings up a pretty good point. The fact is I'm not a poet, neither are you. I'm also probably not very funny - granted I'm funnier than a lot of people I know - but on the grand funny scheme I bet I'm like a 5/10, maybe a 4/10. So not that funny, not that poetic, there's a limited amount of **** I can accomplish through texts. I think getting out of text-zone as EARLY as possible is key. Like if I could chose between some interaction where I send 4 hilarious texts and call 10 texts later - or - I text her twice and call+she answers I would FOR SURE take 2. I've also gotten annoyed from numerous 40-50 text interactions with girls over the course of like 30 minutes to an hour! Wow what a waste of time. I probably conveyed a total of 1 minute talk time in that hour.
zengirl Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Then what is the best approach, may I ask? I tried to set a date with someone some time ago when I first started this gig which led to a disaster when it came to scheduling. I set something set in stone with her, but I had to postpone merely 6 hours before the date because a new project came in that I simply could not turn down (lets just say it had $$$ written all over it). We rescheduled only for her to flake out because she decided to get back with her ex-boyfriend. I'm having a hard time finding a middle ground. Okay, to a degree, that's your bad for taking the project (though in that case, it probably worked out for the best). It sounds like you had plans with someone, but canceled because something more important to you came up. It doesn't sound like the work was required (as in it wouldn't lead to you getting fired or anything) but just worthwhile to you for the money. That's reasonable, but understand that the bottom line is: You are wishy washy to a degree. So. . . what they're picking up on, if that becomes an issue, is rooted in truth. You will cancel on something you've said you'll do to make money. I'm not saying that makes you a bad person. I'm not even saying I haven't done the same thing. In some cases, it's a healthy sense of priorities. As far as how to deal with it, I'd handle it honestly, personally. That's what I used to do when I was younger and in a situation where making some money could factor into my availability that strongly. I'm sure there were a lot of serious fellows who were turned off by it and didn't want to date me because I told them, "If I have to suddenly work late, go somewhere, or meet with someone to get something done for a client or get a new client into my portfolio, I might have to reschedule. That's just my life." Sometimes, I came out and said it, and sometimes I didn't and tried to work with it, but it was still wishy washy. I was at a point where I had serious priorities that conflicted with taking dating too seriously. Sometimes that works well (in terms of not getting to attached/obsessed), but it also works poorly in other ways, and with different people. That's just true. I think I gave the example of setting a specific date with a few different times and then following up right away. Saying, "Hey, do you want to go do such-and-such" and then saying, "I'll give you a call tomorrow and we'll confirm whether it's Saturday or Sunday." And then call tomorrow. That's a pretty decent way around it, I suppose, if you can work out your schedule. (Some people will still think you're playing a game, but that's pretty much a possibility with everything you do ever. Depending on the person.)
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