alyssatranswarrior Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 (edited) I don't get the point of the thread. That's the odd part here... In her words she is so (a)confident and (b)attractive and ©well off financially and (d)sure of herself and (e)superior in relationships.....and she is telling us about a guy she took a whole freakin month to clock onto he is below her standards. That's a slow learning curve for someone claiming to be so many great things. Yeah, something is off here, and it wasn't him. She was denying how below her standards he was, blatantly for a whole month to milk the hot sex fueled attraction. Then she uses really weak deal-breakers to say HE isn't worth HER time for a relationship. Now she is going on the brag about new dates, that she's ditched a guy for being a remote control hog - and she idk? Is seeking my conformation that she is godly and the man really was a disappointment? Anyone else here not give a care in the world that she is disappointed? I know I don't. Pointless thread, onto meaningful ones with people who idk...need advice! Edited July 30, 2010 by alyssatranswarrior
Author FL Lady Posted July 30, 2010 Author Posted July 30, 2010 OP here ....... Yup. I tried to be patient with the guy, but, as I said, the paint wore off. So did I of he.
Sabali Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 OP here ....... Yup. I tried to be patient with the guy, but, as I said, the paint wore off. So did I of he. FL Lady, thank you, pumpkin, for just reinforcing my faith in bachelorhood. I just can't help but to wonder about the whole "til death do us part.." What if I get burned through 80% of my body while trying to rescue a kid from a burning building and no longer is physically attracted to my hypothetical wife? She would leave me and she would receive the support from most posters above. Right? I could still be a great guy and a good friend to her but my physical body would not be the same and she would be justified in leaving me. Right? I would no longer be physically attractive. This is why you can never neglect the mental attractiveness. Takes a special person to be really mentally attractive. That attractiveness will stay on your @$$ for a life time. If you are a 5/6 on the physical attractive scale but a 9 or 10/10 on the mental attractive scale, no one will be leaving you and if they do, they will turn right back around and come back. Your mind and words have to have a 6-pack and nice round biceps. It's all about the eternal sale.
Author FL Lady Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Hey Sabali, I think my posts are getting mixed up here. The guy where the paint wore off for me i have only dated a month. Frankly, my main issue was that he is MORE high maintenance than me (e.g., special hairbrush). He was/is hot, but give me a break. I am pretty girly girl, so that says a lot!!!! Sorry for the confusion. My ex husband is a super nice, loving guy. BUT I was not in love with him, other than as a friend, anymore.
carhill Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 So what happened to airport drinks traveling man non-committal date deal...?
zengirl Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 I could still be a great guy and a good friend to her but my physical body would not be the same and she would be justified in leaving me. Right? I would no longer be physically attractive. I agree with you about mental attractiveness (doesn't mean I think folks should neglect their physical attractiveness either), but, FWIW, I've seen loads of fellows (even here) talk about how physical attractiveness changing is a game-changer in a relationship, even going so far as to suggest that they'd lose interest if a gal cut her hair! And as for your burn example, I think most folks would stick in there because of shame, if nothing else, even the terrible, shallow people. (Also, you'd probably be dead. 80% of your body? That's a pretty severe burn case. But that's me being literal. . .) In the OP's case, it sounds like it might be other things too. . . not just a physical change, but a mental change that evolved because of the age difference between herself and her husband (She mentioned he became more into TV and beer than her, their age differences, etc). That's why I think the older man/younger woman combo (younger man/older woman probably doesn't either) rarely really works out, even when people say they "have so much in common" --- especially since I've seen some biological data that suggests men tend to lose stamina (not just sexual) a little bit earlier in life than women, all factors the same.
Sabali Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 And as for your burn example, I think most folks would stick in there because of shame, if nothing else, even the terrible, shallow people. (Also, you'd probably be dead. 80% of your body? That's a pretty severe burn case. But that's me being literal. . .) Well, not necessarily. There are three different degrees of burn. A first degree or second degree of burn throughout 80 percent of your body wouldn't necessarily kill you if you receive medical attention in time, especially first degree. It's would be enough for you not to win a beauty pageant in any case. I am certainly not judging FL Lady. She had her reasons and the guy could have really deserved it. I just can't imagine myself ever getting a divorce if I got married but then again, my imagination has not spent a lot of time on this subject at this point.
Author FL Lady Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 So what happened to airport drinks traveling man non-committal date deal...? Not sure? I meet folks pretty routinely- although i never share my name/number but rarely This guy I did meet in an airport though. Had the true chemistry for him till we spent some serious time together. That when the F word kept being dropped (not at me, just general convo) & the other high maintenance stuff popped up. To this day, I believe what's in your heart comes out your mouth.
Author FL Lady Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Well, not necessarily. There are three different degrees of burn. A first degree or second degree of burn throughout 80 percent of your body wouldn't necessarily kill you if you receive medical attention in time, especially first degree. It's would be enough for you not to win a beauty pageant in any case. I am certainly not judging FL Lady. She had her reasons and the guy could have really deserved it. I just can't imagine myself ever getting a divorce if I got married but then again, my imagination has not spent a lot of time on this subject at this point. Just to be clear, I didn't get divorced over superficial stuff. This is a totally new guy that I decided to pursue further.
carhill Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Not sure? The guy you were supposed to meet this past Monday and he was being non-committal about the time/place, etc. You had a thread on it last week.
zengirl Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Well, not necessarily. There are three different degrees of burn. A first degree or second degree of burn throughout 80 percent of your body wouldn't necessarily kill you if you receive medical attention in time, especially first degree. It's would be enough for you not to win a beauty pageant in any case. I am certainly not judging FL Lady. She had her reasons and the guy could have really deserved it. I just can't imagine myself ever getting a divorce if I got married but then again, my imagination has not spent a lot of time on this subject at this point. Ah, yes, sorry. . . I was thinking serious (3rd degree) burns due to the scenario you'd given. My bad.
Sabali Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 The guy you were supposed to meet this past Monday and he was being non-committal about the time/place, etc. You had a thread on it last week. Yeah, she did. I thought we all saw this coming. He wouldn't even solidify there plans that Monday until he was damn near stepping off of the plane, right?
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