FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Ugh! I have to say, I am 40 and just went out with a really good looking guy the same age. Well....now I know why this handsome guy is NOT married. I described my excitement about my early dates in previous posts. Oh boy! Once the paint wears off.......... He uses the F word several times during routine conversation. Sometimes, i don't think he noticed, maybe his personality, but he was kinda rude. (e.g., remote control hog, didn't like that I'm an early bird in the morning and would groan when I woke up early, and even asked why I used his hairbrush? Please- give me a break. It's his special hairbrush when he uses gel in his hair. It's only been a month and I'm over it. I don't care if I never see him again. Met him in an airport and we both travel a lot. He's hot but a PIA. I'm attractive too and would take a regular guy any day over a roll in the hay with him again - ever.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Eww, a potty mouth.. now that's not the kind of person to bring home to the 'rents. Now, since he's so " handsome" I can only assume he's a confirmed bachelor. Because really, a 40 year old guy that's still single is still playing the field.
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Yes-he probably is a confirmed bachelor and I gladly offer him up to the next lady.
Serenitynow Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 He's hot but a PIA. I'm attractive too and would take a regular guy any day over a roll in the hay with him again - ever. So why not go for the regular guy in the first place ? Another story that proves my point Too many women go after the hot guy but once the novelty wears off, they are left disappointed. I think its different with guys. When a guy goes after a HOT girl, he kind of expects her to be shallow and self absorbed . . But too many women have memory loss, and continue to go after the hot guys, never learning from previous encounters that the outcome is usually the same with them
D-Lish Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 So why not go for the regular guy in the first place ? Another story that proves my point Too many women go after the hot guy but once the novelty wears off, they are left disappointed. I think its different with guys. When a guy goes after a HOT girl, he kind of expects her to be shallow and self absorbed . . But too many women have memory loss, and continue to go after the hot guys, never learning from previous encounters that the outcome is usually the same with them Don't turn this into a gender war, there's no room for it. There is nothing wrong with wanting an attractive partner- the hope is that once you get to know them that they'll have a personality to go along with it. OP figured out the guy was a douche, and she ended it because he didn't meet her expectations with his personality...How can she be faulted for leaving a relationship that wasn't going anywhere? She made a good choice, and should be congratulated for it. All attractive people aren't vapid, unworthy people.
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 So why not go for the regular guy in the first place ? Another story that proves my point Too many women go after the hot guy but once the novelty wears off, they are left disappointed. I think its different with guys. When a guy goes after a HOT girl, he kind of expects her to be shallow and self absorbed . . But too many women have memory loss, and continue to go after the hot guys, never learning from previous encounters that the outcome is usually the same with them I do like hot guys and have had good experiences, but this one took the cake. My ex husband was/is a 5-6 on a scale to 10. My problem was I lost my sexual attraction to him. Men would hit on me (even while married) and I would brushwood them off.....for the most part..... So, my point is.......and we probably agree attractiveness does count.
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 I do like hot guys and have had good experiences, but this one took the cake. My ex husband was/is a 5-6 on a scale to 10. My problem was I lost my sexual attraction to him. Men would hit on me (even while married) and I would brushwood them off.....for the most part..... So, my point is.......and we probably agree attractiveness does count. Sorry!!! Typo. I meant I would brush off the cute flirters.
Serenitynow Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I do like hot guys and have had good experiences, but this one took the cake. My ex husband was/is a 5-6 on a scale to 10. My problem was I lost my sexual attraction to him. Men would hit on me (even while married) and I would brushwood them off.....for the most part..... So, my point is.......and we probably agree attractiveness does count. LOL so you lost your attraction to him BECAUSE he was a 5/6 and you were getting better offers ?
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 LOL so you lost your attraction to him BECAUSE he was a 5/6 and you were getting better offers ? Yes.... Truthfully. Remember women hit their sexual peak in their 30's. I had no sexual attraction to my husband - although he was a super nice guy, good friend, loyal, etc.
alphamale Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 He uses the F word several times during routine conversation. Sometimes, i don't think he noticed, maybe his personality, but he was kinda rude. (e.g., remote control hog, didn't like that I'm an early bird in the morning and would groan when I woke up early, and even asked why I used his hairbrush? Please- give me a break. It's his special hairbrush when he uses gel in his hair. those aren't really valid reasons to ditch someone
alphamale Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I had no sexual attraction to my husband - although he was a super nice guy, good friend, loyal, etc. hmm, how typical
D-Lish Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I do like hot guys and have had good experiences, but this one took the cake. My ex husband was/is a 5-6 on a scale to 10. My problem was I lost my sexual attraction to him. Men would hit on me (even while married) and I would brushwood them off.....for the most part..... So, my point is.......and we probably agree attractiveness does count. You don't have to justify wanting to have the physical element present in a relationship! You can opt for "companionship" when you're 80.
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 hmm, how typical Yes, and I did feel crappy about cheating on him. BUT I did not want to be in that relationship for LIFE. It's not fair to him or me.
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 You don't have to justify wanting to have the physical element present in a relationship! You can opt for "companionship" when you're 80. Amen!!! That's what I think too.
Serenitynow Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Yes, and I did feel crappy about cheating on him. BUT I did not want to be in that relationship for LIFE. It's not fair to him or me. You cheated on him with a hotter guy before leaving him ? LOL ohhh D-LISH I think you need to change your tune here.... I would have to say I was correct from the beginning with this thread
jamesum Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Yes.... Truthfully. Remember women hit their sexual peak in their 30's. I had no sexual attraction to my husband - although he was a super nice guy, good friend, loyal, etc. Tons of women marry men they have no physical attraction for. I think that is the worst thing a woman could do to a man.
Author FL Lady Posted July 28, 2010 Author Posted July 28, 2010 Tons of women marry men they have no physical attraction for. I think that is the worst thing a woman could do to a man. That is true. We were married for 8 years and I lost my sexual attraction to him after about 4. He was 9 years older and preferred the TV and a couple of Buds in the evening over me. So........
alphamale Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 He was 9 years older and preferred the TV and a couple of Buds in the evening over me. So........ i can see throwing away a good woman over domestic beer, imported maybe...
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Tons of women marry men they have no physical attraction for. I think that is the worst thing a woman could do to a man. That's when they stop partying and know they have to settle for the man who can love in return over the guy who still wants to play.
Serenitynow Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Yes.... Truthfully. Remember women hit their sexual peak in their 30's. I had no sexual attraction to my husband - although he was a super nice guy, good friend, loyal, etc. I do have to applaud you for your honesty. More women on this site need to give full disclosure when posting threads. It gives a much better insight to the situation, and allows more non biased answers.
Author FL Lady Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 i can see throwing away a good woman over domestic beer, imported maybe... Yup. Of course when it came down to the wire.. "I'm sorry. I'll change. I'll do this or that". Ugh. Too late.
Author FL Lady Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 I do have to applaud you for your honesty. More women on this site need to give full disclosure when posting threads. It gives a much better insight to the situation, and allows more non biased answers. Yes... I am very honest. He was a super guy. He's mad at me right now but will get over it. We were such good friends. But that was it. I didn't need a roommate. I make good money (more than he did- I'm not bragging, just stating a fact. ) So, I didn't need a provider. I wanted a protector, companion, lover, some who was super flirty, handsome (to me)....etc. I have 2-3 guys I am considering ( as potential) dates. It's fun. So this guy (in my OP) kinda threw me for a loop and I was like- no way. Over. Concerned about me using his hair brush? Please. Next. Hot or not. Ridiculous.
jamesum Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 That's when they stop partying and know they have to settle for the man who can love in return over the guy who still wants to play. And then those guys wonder why their marriage is sexless? Guess why? Because physically they disgust their wives. For me I wont get in a relationship with someone who does not have physical attraction toward me. Love is a chemical reaction caused by both emotional and physical attractions.
flying Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 I do have to applaud you for your honesty. More women on this site need to give full disclosure when posting threads. It gives a much better insight to the situation, and allows more non biased answers. Non-biased??? I may not be on the same page as FL Lady, but I also don't agree with you. Your first post in this thread was "see? women do suck." And now you're saying that because she confirms a negative belief you have about women, that means she's more "honest" than other women on these boards. whywhywhywhywhy does it always have to be a gender war? why can't she just be an individual? Oh, bleh.
zengirl Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Non-biased??? I may not be on the same page as FL Lady, but I also don't agree with you. Your first post in this thread was "see? women do suck." And now you're saying that because she confirms a negative belief you have about women, that means she's more "honest" than other women on these boards. whywhywhywhywhy does it always have to be a gender war? why can't she just be an individual? Oh, bleh. Because that would challenge his belief system that is holding his fragile ego in place. . . Women reject him, so he needs to find away to neutralize that rejection and rather than actually working it out, he decides women suck. (Plenty of women do this to by the way; not a gender war. I'm commenting on what I've observed of his threads.)
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