doomage Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 So this is another rant on the girl I was dating, but when we first met at the party, she was sobre, well she was drinking a canned alcoholic beverage but was relatively sobre, and within thirty minutes she went to do her thing in the house and talk to people and she went in the bathroom with her friend and snorted ecstasy, so then when i ran into her again i seduced or or whatever but she looked sobre, we went to my car and we made out and she gave me oral, i asked if she remembered my name and if she is sobre and she said yes she was but that she was rolling. I was so interested that i still considered her girlfriend material, maybe cuz im new at this, but then i found out she goes to raves and she likes to party or whatever, and she has done shrooms, weed, but mostly ex. The thing about her is that she is very responsible about school and she says she is not addicted to drugs, but she just thinks their fun. She is almost done with nursing school and she isn't even 21 yet, i believed everything she said that during raves she controlls herself and that any guys that try to talk to her she gets away from them, so what set me apart? I on the other hand don't need to drink to have a good time, i have only done weed, and i would try shrooms or ex just to try it but i don't feel the urge to, so maybe she thought i was boring because of that. My question is even though she is a responsible girl when it comes to school, should the fact that she does drugs eliminate her from being taken seriously as a girlfriend? Should i still be pining for her, i miss her, we were texting today and she said she was in california for a rave massive, i got jealous alittle, the fact that she is having so much fun and im lying like a sack of desperate jello in the house. Now she's on the market again and free to have sex with strange guys shell meet at parties and raves, i miss her..
Author doomage Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 During the time we dated (1 month, some days) she wasn't doing extascy or any drug, just drinking and stuff with her friends until we went to a bondfire and she snorted ex, but it seemed like she didn't need it and i found out alot of stuff about her like that she liked anime, and she knew japanese so she even brought some books over to teach me, and she's very smart, i just wish she wasn't a party girl so i could have had her. fkkk
Choboto Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 people so many times find drugs as bad cause all they see are the killing, when really drugs are just a recreational acitivty like soccer. If done in moderation and responsibility i dont see what the issue is with someone liking halucinogens, or X. Now a problem comes up when they cant control it. Sure you can have fun sober, we all can, but its a different kind of fun. It just depends on what you find fun. I love droppin DXM and just chillin.i love smokin weed becuase it chills out out and lets the stress flow. All i can say is dont judge someone on how they have fun. If she cna moderate it and come to a middle ground with you(without oyu forcing her to stop completely)it shouldnt be a problem.
USMCHokie Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 All i can say is dont judge someone on how they have fun. If she cna moderate it and come to a middle ground with you(without oyu forcing her to stop completely)it shouldnt be a problem. I have absolutely no problem judging the character of a person based on drug use. Insta-LAUNCH.
Fra Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 Well... I honestly do not support the use of drugs for "fun" any time. Cause often times there come a lot of issues with that... And then more drugs... then more issues.. So yeah. I'd say get over the drugs and ask her to do the same and go have some fun together. If you do not have fun... then drugs will not help y'all out.
Maggotface Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I think you should go for it. Like you said she is responsible and drugs do not make her vulnerable to guys at raves. If you are interested in her and don't want her messing around with other guys tell her you want a commited relationship. Sorry my spelling is **** tonight.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 So this is another rant on the girl I was dating, but when we first met at the party, she was sobre, well she was drinking a canned alcoholic beverage but was relatively sobre, and within thirty minutes she went to do her thing in the house and talk to people and she went in the bathroom with her friend and snorted ecstasy, so then when i ran into her again i seduced or or whatever but she looked sobre, we went to my car and we made out and she gave me oral, i asked if she remembered my name and if she is sobre and she said yes she was but that she was rolling. I was so interested that i still considered her girlfriend material, maybe cuz im new at this, but then i found out she goes to raves and she likes to party or whatever, and she has done shrooms, weed, but mostly ex. The thing about her is that she is very responsible about school and she says she is not addicted to drugs, but she just thinks their fun. She is almost done with nursing school and she isn't even 21 yet, i believed everything she said that during raves she controlls herself and that any guys that try to talk to her she gets away from them, so what set me apart? I on the other hand don't need to drink to have a good time, i have only done weed, and i would try shrooms or ex just to try it but i don't feel the urge to, so maybe she thought i was boring because of that. My question is even though she is a responsible girl when it comes to school, should the fact that she does drugs eliminate her from being taken seriously as a girlfriend? Should i still be pining for her, i miss her, we were texting today and she said she was in california for a rave massive, i got jealous alittle, the fact that she is having so much fun and im lying like a sack of desperate jello in the house. Now she's on the market again and free to have sex with strange guys shell meet at parties and raves, i miss her.. 1st off this girl blew you in your car on your 1st meeting im guessing? That would be a bigger issue for me then the drugs. It means she is easy would you want that trait in a gf? You cant wash the stripes off a zebra trust me op let her go...
Amour Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 DUUUDE, You don't need this, trust me...I've had a few of those "easy drug using chicks"...Most of them were one-night stands..Some of them looked "innocent" and "cute". Now I don't consider weed a drug, but cocaine, X, shrooms, etc. I do. Chicks using drugs = Short-term fun + Long-term drama. I'm sorry to sound like a d*ckhead but a lot of them s*ck cock for getting these drugs...Plus coke is addictive. Me and my buddy gangbanged some f*cked up druggies..I know this really hot girl who has a cool poor unsuspecting boyfriend but she is addicted to coke. I've seen it with my eyes how she goes and does coke with couple of people I know and they f*ck her both. Not once... These girls are big fun (always use a condom) BUT do you want to date them? HEEEEELLLLL NOOOOOO, MAN! Think with the big head. Trust me "been there done that", it ain't worth it.
Author doomage Posted July 26, 2010 Author Posted July 26, 2010 Well were not dating anymore but i still can't get over it, i got attached to her in that one month we were dating lol, I believed her though when she said she was only dating me and having sex with me, she didn't seem like the hoish type, but at the same time while we were dating me she said she would "hook up" or kiss at parties and raves before she met me. I always used a condom with her except for a couple of times, when i didnt have none, (i know stupid) first time i have ever done that. She didn't call weed or shrooms a drug, she said they were a natural part of the earth. I know i should get over her and not bat an eye lash but i can't help but feel lonely. we had fun together. except for the last two weeks when i knew it was gonna end soon.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 She didn't call weed or shrooms a drug, she said they were a natural part of the earth. . Um yeah do you know what cocaines main ingredient is? why its the coca plant that also comes "from the earth" shes a addict don't let her double talk you! If she wants to toss her life down the flusher by all means let her. My suggestion again move on and find a new girl hard as that may seam right now its truly in your best interest.
Lady vs Panda Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 DUUUDE, You don't need this, trust me...I've had a few of those "easy drug using chicks"...Most of them were one-night stands.. Chicks using drugs = Short-term fun... Me and my buddy gangbanged some f*cked up druggies.. These girls are big fun (always use a condom) BUT do you want to date them? HEEEEELLLLL NOOOOOO, MAN! . The funniest part of this is where you admit you use drug addicts for sex and treat them like garbage but think you're some kind of morally upright superior "catch":lmao:
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I believed her though when she said she was only dating me and having sex with me, she didn't seem like the hoish type, but at the same time while we were dating me she said she would "hook up" or kiss at parties and raves before she met me. I always used a condom with her except for a couple of times, when i didnt have none, (i know stupid) first time i have ever done that. You realize that they all say this right? What is she going to tell you that she is messing around? She dumped you for a reason. You had your time together... now you have to let her go and move on. She didn't call weed or shrooms a drug, she said they were a natural part of the earth. :laugh:
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 The funniest part of this is where you admit you use drug addicts for sex and treat them like garbage but think you're some kind of morally upright superior "catch":lmao: I walked away from a situation like that... and she just had sex with someone else. I don't think you can really blame him for buying what was being sold.
Raderick Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I come from a family with serious drug addictions. While I do advocate the decriminalization of all street drugs, I personally wouldn't date someone who does use drugs. Quite the catch-22.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I come from a family with serious drug addictions. While I do advocate the decriminalization of all street drugs, I personally wouldn't date someone who does use drugs. Quite the catch-22.
spookie Posted July 26, 2010 Posted July 26, 2010 I think it depends on how old she is, and how heavily she uses. Very young people oftentimes DO change their stripes. I knew lots of people in college who did all that s!ht, who grew up to be perfectly normal trustworthy people. And the fact that she's a drug user doesn't automatically mean she's a ho. It IS possible to be a drug addict/ drunkard, but not a slut. Perhaps the proportion of such drug addicts/ drunkards is small, but it's a significant enough minority. And he didn't say she cheated on him or anything. I mean, she was hooking up with guys while she was single. Pretty normal amongst the younger generation IMO. So, I don't know. I'd set my boundaries but I'd probably give her a chance.
Author doomage Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 I blieve she is a faithful woman when in a committed relationship, even while dating me, i know she wasn't messing around, but she has trust issues with guys and thinks they are players, and that guys are clingy or whatever which got me in trouble (being clingy), and probably a lot of emotional baggage, but you wouldn't know by looking at her she seems so bubbly alot of the time, always positive, i feel so bad i lost her, but i guess i was too nice, and i bored her. she was really sincere.
SarahRose Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I don't get why anyone would want to date a drug user? She must have been really hot? Guys says they want a girl who takes care of themselves but I guess doing drugs is ok as long as she isn't fattie.
Author doomage Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Ya she was hot she was my first phillipino girl, and she had amazing legs and nice butt, cute face, i guess what made her special to me was that that was the first girl that i saw, wanted her and actually got her, i never have done that in the past, i would always just settle for girls just because they gave me attention, or i was horny. But i was trying to get to know this girl but my stupid clingyness and having no life of my own besides her, i saw her as a cure to my boredom i guess, and now that were not dating, im back to square one, i texted her twice today, and she ignored my first but when i sent a second one saying i almost got robbed at my job she asked what happened, i told her and she didn't respond so i get it just leae her alone and if she wants to hit me up then thats ok.
Raderick Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 This is not the thread to get into a political rant. PM me if you're interested.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Drugs are great, don't be such prudes. Hahahahaha! We must have gone to the same school. Hallucinogens are aphrodisiacs and sex while on 'em can be spec-effen-tacular. But they are for the young as they deplete neurotransmitters and can cause a kind of depression after that can make one a procrastinator. The older one gets, the harder it is to bounce back and depression can become a lingering problem that is hard to understand chemically, physiologically, socially etc. Drug education is rarely given by anyone with any damn experience and a just say no repressive attitude. But there is the possibility for some experiences if you have the right kind of free mind that can actually be a liberating intellectual if not spiritual experience that can allow the identity to sustain a helluva good push. Because they are illegal and grouped by the unannointed into categories with other drugs that don't have this mind expansion property, they tend to be trafficked along with other "bad drugs" by criminals who don't give a shi+ about one's personal plight. The High School or College kid who innocuously seems to just deal in X or LSD or weed does not manufacture them and therefore takes away a degree of separation from those that would just as quickly sell ya narcotics--cocaine, oxys, Xanax, heroin et al. and this happens anew everyday somewhere in the world with a lot worse consequences than some minor depression following a trip on LSD. So if one can manage to sow some wild oats on hallucinogens for a few years and then gut it to rest in order to catch up with a career track or some good purpose in life, then wtf? But it's always a bloody illegal thing which forces one to be touched by OC and nothing can ever be guaranteed to be FDA approved or manufactured to spec by legit companies. We're stuck with that and what is supposed be a mean well policy often turns out to be the very means by which the government damns people to exposure to things that can ruin or take one's life.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I don't get why anyone would want to date a drug user? She must have been really hot? Guys says they want a girl who takes care of themselves but I guess doing drugs is ok as long as she isn't fattie. Spot on Sara thats why I never buy that "its because overweight is unhealthy" crap no its not because of that its because of how it looks! Lets call a spade a spade if you want to make judgments based on looks alone then fine but OWN it ok mini rant over sorry for going a tad OT..
alexlakeman Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Cliff's notes? All I read was "she's druged, I took advantage of her and got a blow job"... enjoy it... give her some x next time, enjoy it... pop her pooper, too... just use protection, as she's probably sleeping with more than one guy... at each party she goes to, lol... enjoy
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I think it depends on how old she is, and how heavily she uses. Very young people oftentimes DO change their stripes. I knew lots of people in college who did all that s!ht, who grew up to be perfectly normal trustworthy people. And the fact that she's a drug user doesn't automatically mean she's a ho. It IS possible to be a drug addict/ drunkard, but not a slut. Perhaps the proportion of such drug addicts/ drunkards is small, but it's a significant enough minority. And he didn't say she cheated on him or anything. I mean, she was hooking up with guys while she was single. Pretty normal amongst the younger generation IMO. So, I don't know. I'd set my boundaries but I'd probably give her a chance. Ok that said this guys admittedly not into drugs why should he then expose himself to a gf who is heavily into them? You know at some point down the road hes going to try them himself and more then likely get hooked. When that happens god knows how bad the addiction will get any drug use is a slippery slope once your on it. She needs to take better care of herself before she can be a good gf to anyone IMO. We need to keep in mind here that it doesn't sound like shes casualty having a joint here and there. Shes also into other harder drugs and sounds like a hardcore party girl to boot! Seriously I can't be the only one who sees the huge flashing red flags here? To me (and im not that old yet!) lol.. I just don't see blowing a guy you have known for a total of 5 mins and doing drugs to be caring for ones self as both are potentiality dangerous/degrading situations one must love them selves before they can love others. But it seams the op is intent in his pursuit of this toxic girl so to each their own and I wish him all the best...
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