MyNameIsJane Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I didn't read everyone's replies - so this might be redundant. Sounds more like a blow off. There are always exceptions - she could be really busy and she may have gotten sick. But I do know that when I have gone on a date with a guy and enjoyed myself... when I want to see him again... it is NOT hard to reach me, despite how busy I may be... and usually I do try to engage. I normally wont call them up, but I will text. And because your text is broken, I probably would have sent a message via the dating service... a message that wasn't "I'm getting rid of this account and I'll be out of commission for a few days." The pro: she gave you her email. Email it. That way she has your email too. Sometimes girls are shy about direct communication (even when they like a guy) and your non-texting abilities makes that coyness even more difficult. Email her once. You can essentially say the same things you have already said. Ask her how she is feeling/doing. Tell her you'd love to see her again (or don't. you dont have to say that.) Then wait. She may come back with a response. But if it isn't anything about hanging out, don't ask her to hang out. Wait until she comes to you - otherwise, she just isn't interested and is going to keep doing the brush off "oh life is just so crazy" response.
Bogo123 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Its always a pattern. She'll say, oh I can't this weekend *insert excuse* but let's do next weekend. She won't contact me at all during the week. I'll contact her that weekend. Rinse, wash, repeat.
Jilly Bean Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 At BEST, she's lukewarm about you. Stop contacting her. When a woman doesn't respond favorably after a date, back off, and give it some space. If I was lukewarm about a guy, as I do believe she is with you, continuing to hound me would turn me off completely. I'd keep pursuing other women, if I were you.
dispatch3d Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 In the original phone convo she had said she was busy checking out some apartments or something. I didn't want to take up her time if she was busy or appear too needy. Should I have demanded her time right then and there? If I was out with friends/shopping/driving, I'd feel the same way too. If it's going to be a convo > 1 min and I need to coordinate something, easier to do it when I'm free. WHich return e-mail are you talking about? Hers or mine? How'd I give her mad attention? When I called her and left a voicemail? When I replied back 2 days later to her msg on the site via e-mail? I would have just attempted to call her back later. I wouldn't make an issue of talking to her right then (needy much?). Just don't put the ball in her court to call you back - unless you are prepared to just let her go if she doesn't call you back (like I said early its a gamble on how attracted she is). The email thing I think you probably have to pull some mad ninja skills after being downgrounded to get anywhere. I agree with the advice of 1-2 emails max is good. I personally am not interested in being someones email penpal. Things likely could have went better somewhere in the date. Probably best to focus on improving that than what you did wrong in the interm time setting up a second date (since this is less likely to be the real issue)....
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