EYECANDY000 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 It seems that he wants to date , but didint really have any sparks with you. Ultimately it could be that he is still having relationship blues. But just dont want anything serious. People do this all the time where the date people and they are emotionally unavailable. But he told you upfront that hes not looking for anything serious.
hopesndreams Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I was in a situation pretty similar to the OPs and this is exactly what I did. It was a blast. I did it too.
kalikula Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I agree that he probably didn't feel any sparks though... I saw the guy I was dating somewhat casually (but I knew he wasn't dating anyone else ATM) back on the dating site we met, and that was a very easy way for me to realize that he wasn't interested in me at all anymore! (Meanwhile I have already met someone in RL way more promising and I very much doubt he has, ha ha) I would just ignore it and probably not see him anymore..
mixwell Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) It sounds like this guy is just playing the field and to be honest it seems like a pathetic/stalkerish attempt to try and gauge him.. You even admitted that you two weren't exclusive so he has no commitment so I don't know what you're upset about... Maybe he didn't feel you enough or wants to have greater odds by dating multiple women ? I don't think he is doing wrong because you've BOTH agreed that it isn't serious and date who you want.. If that's not how you feel than you should't have let him to believe this.. It kinda appears like the non interested mood has bit you in the arse and you get what you pay for.. Id you REALLY aren't cool with him seeing someone else you what you ak for. you should have said so but with you giving him that option it seems like he has taken it and you appear to be insecure by even making a fake account and contacting him to gauge he his interest.. You should have let him know you were interested and not cool with seeing other people instead of trying to play it off like you don't care.. You should re-think your strategy next time not try not to use creepy/stalkerish approaches to gauge someone's interest especially when you BOTH agree that its alright to see other people and no strings attached... Edited July 20, 2010 by mixwell
mixwell Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) Just to add.. If I were in his situation and found out a chick was playing double/jealous agent against me, I'd be highly turned off and your insecurity would shine in dark like as a red flag to not date you because you're that psycho and insecure at this point who knows what you'd do if we ever became a couple. Beware for what you wish for... Sounds like he took you up on your offer on not being serious and you can't handle it... You never should have said that because guys will take it literally even if you're just trying to test him this early on.. By showing these reactions early on before you're in a committed relationship would be enough (if i knew) for me PERSONALLY to not talk to you because if you're like this now I could only imagine how insecure you would be if we were boyfriend/ girlfriend.. You have way to much interest in this guy for being casual, do what you want buddy buddy but again you've led this guy to think this way by your conversations with him so that is your bad... Edited July 20, 2010 by mixwell added more...
D-Lish Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 OP, he's obviously attracted to the same type of profile over and over. If you are stating that you are only looking for "just friends", he's probably thinking "no commitment" and that must be appealing to him. You should take that as a red flag. This dude is never going to be your knight in shining armour. That's reason enough to call it a day and move on if you are looking for a little more.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Man Gamma1.. you are way to serious in life.. Life is supposed to be fun and if you can't make fun of some douche on a dating site then we are all in big trouble.. It isn't like he DIDN'T contact her.. He DID contact her.. just hours after he told her he wasn't into dating right now.. I'd have fun with him.. in a heartbeat.... Gamma1 has a point Art.... not that you were doing anything but being funny. I seriously think this guy was just letting her down easy. Can you really be advocating I mess with every girl who tells me.... "it's not you... it's me"
threebyfate Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Gamma1 has a point Art.... not that you were doing anything but being funny. I seriously think this guy was just letting her down easy. Can you really be advocating I mess with every girl who tells me.... "it's not you... it's me"If you catch her lying like what happened in the OP, I see nothing wrong with messing with her. It would certaintly teach people to be more upfront.
Author Jollyshandy Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Wow thank you brothers and sistas!! No..I didn't sign up a fake account to stalk him, I created a new account because I forgot the password to my old one. Also I reposted my ad because I was indeed looking to meet more people and I assume he should have expected I'd post on the Internet again as like I said, we agreed we are not exclusive as we really don't know each other well enough, though like other people, I do hope I can find the one along the way, and in my ad I actually stated that I am looking to date but I welcome friendship too as really you never know.. just that now I was surprised to get his reply as he said he's got the blues, so I was trying to get some input, yes it seemed to be a white lie and yes that made me think a little because I do like him, but I'm not heartbroken, not yet..
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