Author LisaUk Posted March 1, 2010 Author Posted March 1, 2010 [quote=Gunny376;2680769 Now you can move forward and onward with yourself and your life and find something that is worthy and deserving of your love and all have to offer. (Me? ) I saw your marriage proposal on another thread Gunny! And here was little old me thinking I was sonething special b/c you proposed to me way back in the summer! Humph Seems you're asking all the girls! LOL Just kidding.
tojaz Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I hate him. :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: Lisa my dear! you have close to 2,000 posts. I've read every one. THIS IS MY ABSOLUTE FAVORITE!!! Good for you doll! :love: TOJAZ
trippi1432 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 I hate him. YOU ROCK GIRL!!!! I just signed up tonight for a contest to sing the US National Anthem.....if I get my chance...I'm dedicating it to you girlfriend. My day started out in hell with my son and ex, but this put a smile on my face...keep going honey, because you are worth more than that man ever deserved. XXXOOO
Gunny376 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 trippi1432 and LisaUK? Your both making me proud that your breaking out of Shawshank Prison,
sumdude Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 trippi1432 and LisaUK? Your both making me proud that your breaking out of Shawshank Prison, Loveshack Redemption!
Author LisaUk Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 I am angry, but I keep thinking I have no right to be. Do I have a right to be angry when I contributed to this? Doesn't that make me a bit arrogant? I am so p****d right now, yet I feel unable to let it out b/c I keep thinking this was my fault.
sumdude Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 (edited) I am angry, but I keep thinking I have no right to be. Do I have a right to be angry when I contributed to this? Doesn't that make me a bit arrogant? I am so p****d right now, yet I feel unable to let it out b/c I keep thinking this was my fault. Don't deny your emotions.. emotions just are. They are not rational, they don't need to make sense. In fact they usually can't make sense really. They need to simply be acknowledged and expressed hopefully without being destructive. Holding them inside and denying them is self destructive. Of course you played your part in the relationship but that doesn't mean you're not allowed to be royally PO'd at him and his actions for a while. Doesn't make you a bad person, just human. He totally pulled the rug out from under you for effs sake! Edited March 2, 2010 by sumdude
Author LisaUk Posted March 2, 2010 Author Posted March 2, 2010 YOU ROCK GIRL!!!! I just signed up tonight for a contest to sing the US National Anthem.....if I get my chance...I'm dedicating it to you girlfriend. My day started out in hell with my son and ex, but this put a smile on my face...keep going honey, because you are worth more than that man ever deserved. XXXOOO Glad I could cheer you up Trippi! If you all liked that, then if I ever manage to allow myself to express what I would like to, you are all gonna love that! LOL
FeelingLonely98 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Glad I could cheer you up Trippi! If you all liked that, then if I ever manage to allow myself to express what I would like to, you are all gonna love that! LOL Give it to us Lisa!!!
Author LisaUk Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 Give it to us Lisa!!! The anger has subsided, weirdly! Is it possible to skip a stage of grieving, or will it come back do you think? I had what I think may be a breakthrough last night? Whilst reading some others stories on here I suddenly realised what a **** my ex is/was for leaving me. I almost don't want to say this, b/c it sounds so ego inflated, but I'm going to anyway. Compared to what some men on here have had to put up with from their ex wifes, if my ex was stupid enough to leave me, someone who loved him more than my own life, would have done anything to make him happy, cared for him as if he was a part of my own being, hurt when he hurt, all b/c he wanted a friggin motorbike and to go out more than he already did, he is a complete idiot! And, he is in for one rude awakening when he eventually gets tangled up with a women like some of your exes on here! BOY OH BOY IS HE IN FOR A SHOCK! :laugh::lmao: I don't really care about being with him anymore, he was not only stupid to let me go, he was horrible to treat me like that. I don't need or want someone like that in my life, my life is better now without him, my life isn't great, but I am enjoying school and doing more for myself than I ever did when I was him. I also have the hope of finding someone special to share life with, who WILL treat me as an equal partner and appreciate me. Is this indifference?
JaneDoe35 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Hey Lisa, you are turning a corner. You will still have really down times but come back and read that post of yours or print it off and read it as soon as the sad feelings creep in. You are a wonderful person and he is obviously a fool. There is just no reasoning with these WA's. It is like they are compelled to go down this path no matter what. My husband regrets what he has done but still continues on his merry way. Your last post was the 'TRUTH' JDxx
aimchase Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 The anger has subsided, weirdly! Is it possible to skip a stage of grieving, or will it come back do you think? I had what I think may be a breakthrough last night? Whilst reading some others stories on here I suddenly realised what a **** my ex is/was for leaving me. I almost don't want to say this, b/c it sounds so ego inflated, but I'm going to anyway. Compared to what some men on here have had to put up with from their ex wifes, if my ex was stupid enough to leave me, someone who loved him more than my own life, would have done anything to make him happy, cared for him as if he was a part of my own being, hurt when he hurt, all b/c he wanted a friggin motorbike and to go out more than he already did, he is a complete idiot! And, he is in for one rude awakening when he eventually gets tangled up with a women like some of your exes on here! BOY OH BOY IS HE IN FOR A SHOCK! :laugh::lmao: I don't really care about being with him anymore, he was not only stupid to let me go, he was horrible to treat me like that. I don't need or want someone like that in my life, my life is better now without him, my life isn't great, but I am enjoying school and doing more for myself than I ever did when I was him. I also have the hope of finding someone special to share life with, who WILL treat me as an equal partner and appreciate me. Is this indifference? Babe, you're cooking on gas! You finally see that you're the better person and will offer more in the future. I also had a very short anger period, but it was still long enough to recognise that the ex is a complete tw*t. I'm off to drink a glass of vino, and will toast it to you!
Gunny376 Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Good women (for men) and good men (for women) are like good jobs? Oh there out there all right! Trouble is? They generally are already taken, and the ones that got them? They've had them for a good long while, plan on hanging on to them and your just about going to have to fight them to to the death to get them away from them. Every now and again a "good one" like you and trippi1432 and Jane will pop up on the market. And they don't stay lonely long. Compared to your average run-of- the mill Joe Smoo, I know what I've got to offer and bring to the table. All of this separation/breakup/divorce really does a number on one's head for awhile. But then you begin to snap out of it and begin to thinking? "Hey! Wait just one damn minute,........ In the words of the late and Great Richard Pryor,................ If you @zz is lucky enough to find a good woman, true love, one that truly and really does love your @zz? Don't **** it up!!!!!!
aimchase Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 Glad I could cheer you up Trippi! If you all liked that, then if I ever manage to allow myself to express what I would like to, you are all gonna love that! LOL You're gonna say he was cr*p in bed, aren't you!
Author LisaUk Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 You're gonna say he was cr*p in bed, aren't you! Actually I was going to say that my ex was/is a completely selfish ******* that only cared about himself and about me only if I towed the line. He never once made me a priority in his life. The first time I had to have an operation and was as scared as h**l, he could not be bothered to take one lously day off work. My mum had a heart attack whilst I was an undergrad and he although he came to the hospital he would not come back to my uni with me (I had to go back, exams) b/c and I quote "its my last couple of weeks at uni and I will miss the time hanging out with my friends". As long as I fitted in with what he wanted all was a OK, but whenever I asked for anything, for my feelings to be taken into account, row. He said, amongst other things after he left, that he left b/c he had kept his feelings hidden and lied to me to avoid an argument. So basically then, if I ever expressed a different opinion or a need that would "cause" an argument b/c it was different to what he wanted, like I said, so long as his needs were being met that's all that mattered. I cleaned the mans d**m shoes for him for **** sake! He can't commit, pure and simple, he actually said he wanted an independant women who would have a family wth him whom he could just see when he felt like it! Yeah, GOOD LUCK WITH THAT ONE PAL! A family and total independance- duh! Anyway, that was some of it, there's plenty more!
aimchase Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 My ex ended up in hospital about three months ago. I went every evening to see her as nobody else was making much of an effort. She was in for about five days. She was released on the Friday, expressed no gratitude whatsoever. Then the following day I went to drop off the children as i'd been looking after them. Would you believe, the OM was there in the house. I can't say what I mean on here as i'd be banned for life, but it consists of many four letter words, some with 'ing' on the end, and all refers to the ex. Sorry for pre-guessing your rant......incorrectly........
Author LisaUk Posted March 3, 2010 Author Posted March 3, 2010 My ex ended up in hospital about three months ago. I went every evening to see her as nobody else was making much of an effort. She was in for about five days. She was released on the Friday, expressed no gratitude whatsoever. Then the following day I went to drop off the children as i'd been looking after them. Would you believe, the OM was there in the house. I can't say what I mean on here as i'd be banned for life, but it consists of many four letter words, some with 'ing' on the end, and all refers to the ex. Sorry for pre-guessing your rant......incorrectly........ Well, that about sums her up doesn't it! You put up with a lot. (Posting here instead of Mikeys thread) No need to say sorry, I found what you said funny and very tempting to say! LOL
karnak Posted March 3, 2010 Posted March 3, 2010 As long as I fitted in with what he wanted all was a OK, but whenever I asked for anything, for my feelings to be taken into account, row. He said, amongst other things after he left, that he left b/c he had kept his feelings hidden and lied to me to avoid an argument. So basically then, if I ever expressed a different opinion or a need that would "cause" an argument b/c it was different to what he wanted, like I said, so long as his needs were being met that's all that mattered. I cleaned the mans d**m shoes for him for **** sake! He can't commit, pure and simple, he actually said he wanted an independant women who would have a family wth him whom he could just see when he felt like it! What a motherf****ng psycho! I don't know the man, but just from this example I can see he's trash! You're too good for this man, Lisa. And he seems to be too vain and selfish, so I don't think he would ever change. If he ever married you he would instead try to turn you into a selfish monster like him.
tojaz Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Tojaz has a new favorite post! Keep them coming Angel! TOJAZ
dgiirl Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 Hallelujah she has SEEN the light at the end of the tunnel! About fricken time!!!! Lisa, it's OK to feel anger. It's OK to feel your emotions. Let them out, acknowledge them, give yourself acceptance and love, its the only way to let them go. Your ex sounds as selfish as mine, and I was always the last priority in his life and got guilt when I requested more! Let me tell you now, my ex leaving was the BEST thing that had ever happened to me. It gave me the strength to know and ask for what I want, know myself, and demand much more from my current partner. My current boyfriend puts me as a priority, I simply would not settle for nothing less. He shows me the affection I desperately needed in my marriage. I feel like I've won the million dollar lottery. And I also know, I don't ask for much. There are SOOO many girls out there where I am appalled at their actions towards other men. So not only is my boyfriend an amazing catch, he also knows that I am a great catch too! And I strongly believe this will happen to you as it happened to me, and it happened to all my women friends who went through it too. You will grow from this experience. You will become independent and self assured, and you will never ever put up with mistreatment again.
trippi1432 Posted March 4, 2010 Posted March 4, 2010 The anger has subsided, weirdly! Is it possible to skip a stage of grieving, or will it come back do you think? I had what I think may be a breakthrough last night? Whilst reading some others stories on here I suddenly realised what a **** my ex is/was for leaving me. I almost don't want to say this, b/c it sounds so ego inflated, but I'm going to anyway. Compared to what some men on here have had to put up with from their ex wifes, if my ex was stupid enough to leave me, someone who loved him more than my own life, would have done anything to make him happy, cared for him as if he was a part of my own being, hurt when he hurt, all b/c he wanted a friggin motorbike and to go out more than he already did, he is a complete idiot! And, he is in for one rude awakening when he eventually gets tangled up with a women like some of your exes on here! BOY OH BOY IS HE IN FOR A SHOCK! :laugh::lmao: I don't really care about being with him anymore, he was not only stupid to let me go, he was horrible to treat me like that. I don't need or want someone like that in my life, my life is better now without him, my life isn't great, but I am enjoying school and doing more for myself than I ever did when I was him. I also have the hope of finding someone special to share life with, who WILL treat me as an equal partner and appreciate me. Is this indifference? Most likely indifference or just really seeing him for what he is. Grieving goes back and forth for many different reasons, my grief is more for my son than the ex. And in reading some stories on there, sometimes what is left unsaid or unknown is better than someone who continually makes your life he** like my ex tries to do. And yes, they are just words....but they still have an affect until we finally blow them off for the selfishness and ugliness that they were thrown in our face for. You, my dear, are young enough to still find someone truly worth having you in their life. Make sure he is worthy of your love. Hugs!
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