Hot Carl Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 He will not be expecting to just never hear from me again. His expectations are irrelevant. Focus on your own expectations.
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 I think contacting someone who cares and will respond to try to make things better is always a good idea. I think contacting someone who doesn't care and won't offer any kind of satisfaction is most likely going to be a waste. You have a life to live. You're letting him dominate your every thought and waste your time. You'll be better off just letting it go. You have the opportunity, any time you want it, to sit back and realize that you already have gained something positive from all this. First you have to face the fact that he didn't let you down. You let yourself down, by going along for the ride and letting every term be dictated by him. Now you can feel a bit calmer knowing that you won't do that ever again. Yes if i call he will end up turning it around so its all my fault. I have never ever heard the words "sorry" come out of his mouth. I have also never ever heard him say my first name outloud. he is such an *********
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 I am just so angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just wish there was a way i could get rid of it. Because as long as i am angry i run the risk of contacting him
Hot Carl Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Quick find a pillow and beat the hell out of it.
skydiveaddict Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I am just so angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just wish there was a way i could get rid of it. Because as long as i am angry i run the risk of contacting him There IS a way to get rid of "it" CUT HIM LOOSE start having more respect for yourself! i'll bet you are a beautidful young gilrl. Why put up w/this crap for even one more day? the guy is a CHUMP and he's using you big time., Don't do that to yourself. Find a relationship. A guy that loves you, will protect you, accepts you for who you are. It makes no sense to me why you let him do this to you . YOU DONT NEED IT
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 There IS a way to get rid of "it" CUT HIM LOOSE start having more respect for yourself! i'll bet you are a beautidful young gilrl. Why put up w/this crap for even one more day? the guy is a CHUMP and he's using you big time., Don't do that to yourself. Find a relationship. A guy that loves you, will protect you, accepts you for who you are. It makes no sense to me why you let him do this to you . YOU DONT NEED IT its over and i am cutting him loose, but i feel so angry and want to yell and scream at him but on the other hand just disappearing might be my only chance at dignity
whichwayisup Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Yes, just disappear. For your own sanity, pride, ego, dignity. Cry and grieve, get it out of your system..Just know that you will feel alot better knowing that he won't be in your life anymore, treating you so poorly. I'm sure within a month or so, you'll really realize this guy wasn't worth crying over. Other than sex, what good did he bring into your life?? Hope you feel better soon.
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Yes, just disappear. For your own sanity, pride, ego, dignity. Cry and grieve, get it out of your system..Just know that you will feel alot better knowing that he won't be in your life anymore, treating you so poorly. I'm sure within a month or so, you'll really realize this guy wasn't worth crying over. Other than sex, what good did he bring into your life?? Hope you feel better soon. what good? apart from sex absolutely nothing. In fact the last time he came over, which was a drop in after 3 months of not seeing each other after he freaked out about me asking him to a movie- he came over, we had some chit chat, he massaged my back, and then he was really forceful and held my arms down with one hand (he is very strong) and tried to get my shorts off and forced his finger in me. I couldnt move and i told him to stop and he got up without saying a word or goodbye and left and drove off on his scooter. And i thought "what a complete moron." So i mean ...... the sex ???
whichwayisup Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Okay..Sex wasn't good either. So, what's left? Absolutely nothing! This guy isn't worth any of your tears. Say good riddence and be done with him forever. I think you've had enough crap from him.
skydiveaddict Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) its over and i am cutting him loose, but i feel so angry and want to yell and scream at him but on the other hand just disappearing might be my only chance at dignity The best way to save your dignity is to never see/speak to him again. That Will prove to yourself & him that you dont need him in your life ever again. Your dignity is yours and yours alone. Dont waste anymore time on him. He doesn't deserve it. And you certainly deserve better than him. Just one more word of advice, in the future, no more "sex buddies". Find a guy who truly loves you Edited February 8, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Okay..Sex wasn't good either. So, what's left? Absolutely nothing! This guy isn't worth any of your tears. Say good riddence and be done with him forever. I think you've had enough crap from him. Most of the sex was good, but it certainly wasnt worth all the tears i have spent on him.
soulm8 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I couldnt move and i told him to stop and he got up without saying a word or goodbye and left and drove off on his scooter. And i thought "what a complete moron." Just date other guys and never contact the moron again. It's difficult I know, but holy shyte Mishy... wtf? Why are you hung up on such a freak? Watch some chick flicks and move on.
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Just date other guys and never contact the moron again. It's difficult I know, but holy shyte Mishy... wtf? Why are you hung up on such a freak? Watch some chick flicks and move on. omg i just lol'd and lol'd when i read that lol freak moron, yep Ive been so brainwashed (by him) into thinking he is normal, it means the world when someone says that
soulm8 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) Good! He is absolutely NOT normal and does not DESERVE the time of day. Honestly... do some girly stuff and pamper/love yourself. Please! Btw, I found posting in this thread very helpful instead of contact my moron: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t117844/ Edited February 8, 2010 by soulm8 link
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 it makes me wonder if perhaps it IS normal behaviour for fck buddies (i had never had one b4 him), or if he himself is the freak.
soulm8 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Casual_relationship One person always develops feelings... and it's usually the woman. It's just how we're wired sweety. There's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship. If that's what you want - learn from this experience and heal.
Author mishy Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 I read the wiki thankyou - But despite the fact that i wanted a relationship- is the guy just a freak anyway? or is this normal treatment for fb?
whichwayisup Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 or is this normal treatment for fb? No it isn't. The guy is a FREAK and an a-hole. Most FWB have respect for the person they are sleeping with.
ella23 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 No it isn't. The guy is a FREAK and an a-hole. Most FWB have respect for the person they are sleeping with. Agreed. This guy is an ******* and you deserve so much better.
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