Author Fun2BMe Posted March 5, 2009 Author Posted March 5, 2009 You don't have to turn off your feelings You just have to stop them getting in the way of using your brain, because right now, your reasoning is controlled by a guided emotional missile with self-destruct written all over it. That last comment of yours really sunk in. Maybe I have to go against the guidance of my feelings for him and resist alll the steps I am taking towards him and instead step back for a minute. It's just really hard to do and I'm scared to lose him if I do.
Author Fun2BMe Posted March 5, 2009 Author Posted March 5, 2009 Let him show he is interested. He can't do that if you are constantly initiating contact and throwing yourself at him. That's another really good point. But it is seems impossible to do, to wait for him to initiate contact. I'd like to PM someone the last thing that happened to avoid negative public comments so if someone would like to give me their feedback and hear it please let me know.
Geishawhelk Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Ask yourself, given the level and quality of his input, what it is that you are losing. The only thing you are in line to lose, if you continue in this way, is your self-respect, dignity and reputation. No man* is worth even thinking of doing that for. (*And, just to balance things up guys, the same goes for men with similar women.... )
Geishawhelk Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 That's another really good point. But it is seems impossible to do, to wait for him to initiate contact. I'd like to PM someone the last thing that happened to avoid negative public comments so if someone would like to give me their feedback and hear it please let me know. Go for it.
Island Girl Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I'd like to PM someone the last thing that happened to avoid negative public comments so if someone would like to give me their feedback and hear it please let me know. I will too.
Touche Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 That last comment of yours really sunk in. Maybe I have to go against the guidance of my feelings for him and resist alll the steps I am taking towards him and instead step back for a minute. It's just really hard to do and I'm scared to lose him if I do. If you don't you'll surely lose him and any shred of respect he might have left for you. I see you already got volunteers for PMing so I guess you're not going to post an update. Oh well...I wish you luck anyway, Fun.
semi spritzer Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Wow. I read this thread and responses with increased amusement and incredulity but now I only feel despair and pity for you. Fun did I miss how old you are? As another female this made painful reading. You don't know this guy yet you obsess and hup to him despite watery (and that should tell you something) efforts on his part. Sounds like he is busy elsewhere and Lord only knows where your pics are now. Madness. You are ridiculing yourself please stop I wish you to retain what self respect you have left and find yourself before meeting another fellow. Asides, I'd just be repeating what others have already told you and this is now a tired thread. All the best
Trimmer Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 That last comment of yours really sunk in. Maybe I have to go against the guidance of my feelings for him and resist alll the steps I am taking towards him and instead step back for a minute. It's just really hard to do and I'm scared to lose him if I do. I understand the feeling, but this is a bad motivation to allow to drive your choices, especially after one or two dates.
Author Fun2BMe Posted March 6, 2009 Author Posted March 6, 2009 If you don't you'll surely lose him and any shred of respect he might have left for you. I see you already got volunteers for PMing so I guess you're not going to post an update. Oh well...I wish you luck anyway, Fun. I have to delete too many PMs to send one out so I have it on hold for now. But like right now I am fighting another urge to email him:o
Touche Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 I have to delete too many PMs to send one out so I have it on hold for now. But like right now I am fighting another urge to email him:o Ok, it's ok. Now why on earth would you do that? I guess you're just going to do what you're going to do. You're very self-destructive in my opinion. As I think I may have stated a few days ago, you're the poster girl for doing everything you do in order to push a guy away and make him lose all respect for you. He might stay and use you though. It's like that movie How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days..I think that was the title. That's you, Fun. Why do you feel the need to email him? Didn't he say he'll see you when he gets back? Is he back yet? Why do you want to look so desperate? Why don't you feel worthy of a man who will chase after YOU some. Don't you feel like you deserve that? Email him all you want if that's what you want to do. Tell him he's the ONE and your love is forever or whatever it was you texted him with that time. See where that gets you.
Author Fun2BMe Posted March 6, 2009 Author Posted March 6, 2009 Now why on earth would you do that? I guess you're just going to do what you're going to do. You're very self-destructive in my opinion. As I think I may have stated a few days ago, you're the poster girl for doing everything you do in order to push a guy away and make him lose all respect for you. But because he responded to me the other day I feel like why not try again. It's like if one out of x number of contacts he's going to respond, then shouldn't I keep trying instead of giving up? Also it will let him know I am thinking of him. I took some cute (rated PG-13) pictures I think he will really like, and I can add a note saying something simple like 'hi' or 'thinking of you.' Isn't that harmless enough? And I do feel the more I think about it that he wouldn't share my pics with anyone, he's too classy for that...But I can't just sit here waiting for him to contact me day after day. It's so frustrating! OR---- Should I do NOTHING and look like I'm playing hard to get and just sit back and wait for him to contact me when he gets back from his trip for our dinner, risking he will have forgotten? You know how guys can forget things, I feel like I should be more pro-active with him, especially he's the type who another girl can grab his attention maybe if he is not taken.
Touche Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Wow. Unreal. So you took more pics. And you think that guys just "forget" to pay attention to the woman he's interested in? Nope. He only forgets when it's one who he's NOT interested in and who he might just want to use. Why don't you get that? This is not how you act, Fun. OR---- Should I do NOTHING and look like I'm playing hard to get and just sit back and wait for him to contact me when he gets back from his trip for our dinner, risking he will have forgotten?/QUOTE] Yes, that's what you should do. Unless you're just "easy." Then just keep on doing what you're doing. He'll never value you. You think it's a risk that he'll forget you? That's not saying much for your big connection with him now is it? You're not getting any of this are you, Fun? Sometimes I even wonder if you're joking. No offense, I swear. Do whatever you want.
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