Author strongertoday Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 ** says a prayer for Magpies** thinking of you both Link to post Share on other sites
Kir13ear Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 o0oscar0o... you and your SO got married!? One was American, the other Canadian? You're now my new favourite person. How long did it take? How did you do it? I'm in the exact same situation, and being apart from my SO is hurting me more and more every day... Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 All requested paperwork is now submitted (hopefully there won't be anymore changes!). Now we are waiting for the interview which should be in the next 30 days. Then we wait - hopefully not too long - for Visa approval. Money for the plane ticket and he should be here... The thought of seeing him again, here, seems surreal. It has been so long... Link to post Share on other sites
Magpies Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 ** says a prayer for Magpies** thinking of you both It worked! I just got off the phone and he got it in the mail today! It was dated Jan 7th! I'm officially the newest Swedish resident! Strongertoday, thank you so much for all the well-wishes and support! Island Girl, you're in my thoughts as well! I hope everything wraps-up smoothly for you and your husband! 50 days, 1 hour, 46 minutes and counting ... Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 It worked! I just got off the phone and he got it in the mail today! It was dated Jan 7th! I'm officially the newest Swedish resident! 50 days, 1 hour, 46 minutes and counting ... CONGRATULATIONS!! That is wonderful news! A little over a month and BLISS is yours! Perhaps by then his interview will be done and we may know when he will be able to come as well! Great news Magpies! Thank you for sharing. Link to post Share on other sites
Magpies Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 40 days, 13 hours Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 waiting for his interview to be scheduled. GAWD will it EVER happen?! We are hoping for an emergency quick turnaround at this point Waiting is just terrible. The closer it seems the harder it gets and I am an old hand at this stuff... Link to post Share on other sites
Magpies Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 waiting for his interview to be scheduled. GAWD will it EVER happen?! We are hoping for an emergency quick turnaround at this point Waiting is just terrible. The closer it seems the harder it gets and I am an old hand at this stuff... Island Girl, it'll be just fine! Just think - you'll be together forever after this! For good! You've been so strong for so long ... it'll make things all the more sweeter when you reunite! *huuuuuuuuugggs* Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Well we are still waiting to meet which hopefully will be SOON!!! If all goes well with the meeting than we will have about 2 years until we can be together without the distance. Maybe sooner once I finish up my teaching certification. I want to go back for my Masters in Psych but we both agreed that I could just go to one of the excellent schools near him because my god we can't wait any longer!!!! It's only been seven months which I know isn't long at all but jeeze it's torture!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Island Girl, it'll be just fine! Just think - you'll be together forever after this! For good! You've been so strong for so long ... it'll make things all the more sweeter when you reunite! *huuuuuuuuugggs* Thank you so much Magpies. It was easier when it wasn't imminent. Now, I keep waking up thinking are we going to get the date for the interview today? then no. today? then no. today? then no. GAWD over and over. I guess it is the stress with the economy too. I am commissioned sales and work with small businesses and they are just not buying, or they are closing their doors because of lack of funding. It is so scary. But soon I won't come home to an empty house (where it goes around and around in my head) right?! The power of positive thinking. Thanks again Magpies! Glad you are still here Isn't it 38 days and 16 hours now... Link to post Share on other sites
Magpies Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 37 days, 8 hours Island Girl, it is pretty scary everywhere and all the more blessed it'd be to be with the love of our lives. We need each other now more than ever! I hope all goes well with your work and it "wither the storm". I just spoke to my Mom and her work is sending people home early because they have no oders. Scray ... As for me, I hope I'll be able to find work when I arrive. It'll be tough but gotta hope for the best and I'm preparing for the worst. *hugs* Cora, good luck on your meet. May it be everything that you hoped for and more! Keep us updated! Link to post Share on other sites
Kamiano Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 2 years of waiting ending in either 2 months of 7. hopefully things get better before then Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 I am so so so exctied for you Magpies! That's absolutely the best news in the entire world to hear that your waiting is over! Unfortunately for me, my countdown has come to a halt because he wants me to meet his parents before he tells them that he's getting married to a girl they've never met. I can kind of understand the concept, but when I live 1000 miles away from him, and he lives around 800 from them it's going to be a bit hard. I honestly dont think that they'd mind if he told them how strong his feelings are for me and mine for him. Heck, as much as they all talk about me, you'd figure they'd know! It all just feels a little high schoolish at the moment, like I'm waiting for my dads okay to go out on a date. I'm flying to Canada in June for his birthday, and hopefully they'll meet me then if they decide to come and see him, but if not, I may be waiting a long long time to get my new last name. I can't even pronounce it the way he does, but I think it looks beautiful at the end of my first. Maybe it's just because it's his. Link to post Share on other sites
Bostongirl Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 I am in Washington D.C., and he is in Boston. Three and a half months until the end of the semester. Then I am transferring to a school closer to home/HIM! So far we've been LD for 4-5 months... but even before that, we lived 40 minutes away from one another. Counting down the days makes me so teary. I see him once a month. But we will have spring break in March for a whole ten days!! Bliss. If I weren't 18-- I would marry that boy tomorrow. I'm praying that the time flies. Every day is an obstacle being without him. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamiano Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 hey boston girl! i know the feeling! im trying so hard in school so i can see her on spring break. after 4 and a half years i can finally see her again!!!! and even more importantly things are getting better with us! she's finally showing emotion to me again! hope everything goes great for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Bostongirl Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 My boyfriend has always suffered from depression/anxiety, and has recently slipped into a bit of a slump... Whenever he is down, it is hard for him to show me any affection. I understand completely because I am the same way. BUT as we all know, LDRs are sustained by communication and such -- it's hard to maintain when he just can't talk a lot. I'm optimistic that things will get better. I love him all the same. Link to post Share on other sites
haplorini Posted February 2, 2009 Share Posted February 2, 2009 There is still 2 more semesters (counting this one) in college before I move back home and closer to him. I have to wait one more year. I really miss him so much. I have problems making friends where I go to college (I find most people fake). He graduated before me, and I really miss being with him all the time. Long distance is so hard for me because I feel so alone where I am, and so depressed. I feel unmotivated at school, I can't pull myself together to eat healthy and I just want to cry everyday. I feel so much stress right now. I miss my family and high school friends. At the same time I don't want to transfer again, because I'm almost done. Just 3.5 more months, and its summertime. I just want to fast forward time. Link to post Share on other sites
Carmen82 Posted February 3, 2009 Share Posted February 3, 2009 I've been doing the LDR thing for a while and I have to say sometimes I feel the same as you haplorini, certainly demotivated to get on with normal life stuff like eating healthy or going to uni, the overwhelming feeling is sadness and a frustration that you can't resolve. I try to take each day at a time and find positives where I can to get me through (like really nice phonecalls). If you can't be without your partner then there's no option but to work through it and be strong. Sometimes I don't feel I have the strength and I just want to face it anymore but other days I feel more positive, I try to look at the big picture and tell myslef this is all for a good reason...so we can be together and have a great future. Like you said only 3.5 months till you will be in a good place again...stay positive, hope I offered some comfort to you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Bostongirl Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 I think that the thing to remember is that -- yes, it is awful and hard to miss someone so much -- but the fact that you have someone to miss.... that makes it worth it. If being with your SO is as magical as it is for me being with my boyfriend, regardless of how often or for how long... then the LD side of it, as much as it sucks, is livable and worth it. I feel lucky and grateful to be with him... even if it is not physically. Link to post Share on other sites
Double Oh Seven Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 This summer. Link to post Share on other sites
Skylar Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 This summer. This summer for me too! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Update: He is supposed to get his notice for his interview within the next 4 weeks. And the interview will be 4 to 8 weeks after that. We have a good chance for getting an immediate visa and he could be here directly after... Link to post Share on other sites
Bostongirl Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Island Girl, I hope that after your SO arrives you will still frequent this site. Your posts are always incredibly helpful and insightful. I'm so happy for you. Best of luck. Three months and counting for me! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Island Girl, I hope that after your SO arrives you will still frequent this site. Your posts are always incredibly helpful and insightful. I'm so happy for you. Best of luck. Three months and counting for me! THANK YOU And YES absolutely I will still be posting here! Hopefully in front of the TV with hubby next to me! --- Or more than likely while he is cooking dinner. I hope your man is doing better and I am so glad you get to see him soon. Link to post Share on other sites
gracielou Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 we have a year and 6months left... and time seems to crawl... Link to post Share on other sites
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