TandT Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I want to and he wants to but I am not sure how to go about getting one to take place. Any advice would be extremely helpful. I have never done this kind of thing before so I am at a total lose. He told me I would have to decide when and where. So any kind of help would be nice. Thanks TandT Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I want to and he wants to but I am not sure how to go about getting one to take place. Any advice would be extremely helpful. I have never done this kind of thing before so I am at a total lose. He told me I would have to decide when and where. So any kind of help would be nice. Thanks TandT 2 men or 2 women ? Link to post Share on other sites
JustinWolf Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 2 men or 2 women ? I'm guessing 2 girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Or three men? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TandT Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Two women and one man. Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Go shopping together? I have never really been into the 3some thing, so this is just a "what I've heard" type of thing. I don't know where you live, but there is likely clubs there or other social places where you can see if there is someone you are both interested in. Another choice is the internet. Most dating sites seem to have a section for something similar to this. Couples looking for fun or whatever. Just make sure you search together and both feel comfortable with making contact. Of course, you two should both be there for first contact. Sorry I can't be more help. Good luck, tho! Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 TandT, No matter how much both of you want to, be prepared for this relationship to go downhill if you do have a 3some. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 TandT, No matter how much both of you want to, be prepared for this relationship to go downhill if you do have a 3some. Says who??? it could make the relationship better.. who knows.. not you.. not me.. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Says who??? it could make the relationship better.. who knows.. not you.. not me.. I haven't seen one person post here yet that a 3some hasn't screwed up the relationship. but really, the R is already screwed up if there is a need to bring in a 3rd party for sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I haven't seen one person post here yet that a 3some hasn't screwed up the relationship. but really, the R is already screwed up if there is a need to bring in a 3rd party for sex. Maybe folks just have different sexual preferences. And why would they post if everything was dandy? "I had great sex and I just think everyone should know!" Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Practice on a blow up doll first to see if it works! Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Hire an escort imo. - She's a professional so no one will get emotionally attached - She knows what she's doing so it'll be good - You can set rules that she won't care about - There's more variety so you'll find someone hot easier - You don't know her so it won't be weird later Link to post Share on other sites
trubella Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 I haven't seen one person post here yet that a 3some hasn't screwed up the relationship. but really, the R is already screwed up if there is a need to bring in a 3rd party for sex. I know of a few Rs that are still intact after a threesome, doesnt necessarily mean their Rs are rocky, wanting to experience new things?is my guess to the OP maybe try a swingers site. i know one thing i hated was having couples approach me in random chatrooms:rolleyes: looking for a 3rd. think the best option is to join a group geared towards intimate encounters/swingers etc. Link to post Share on other sites
jalexa0905 Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 well. i have never had one but just as a general i guess you should find a girl that you know would not try to take things to another level with him aka date him . also try and make sure it is someone you are both kinda attracted too. as for the were and when . were some place private . this should be about the two well three of you not for the whole world to know . for the when i guess it should be when you feel 100% sure it should happen. not just because he wants to at the time but when you want to . this should be about a fun or new experience for the both of you *you and your boyfriend* not just for one of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TandT Posted July 30, 2008 Author Share Posted July 30, 2008 Our relationship is fine and the other is great, we just thought of maybe spicing things up a little. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Our relationship is fine and the other is great, we just thought of maybe spicing things up a little. Then get one of those chairs that hangs from the ceiling. Get a dildo the size of king kong's dong. Get some handcuffs, rope, have sex in a public bathroom, get a book on kama sutra, start your own personal home video porn collection. ANYTHING but introducing someone else in the mix. If both of you really want it though and think neither of you will get jealous, well then its your call. But I think it would be a huge mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Hire an escort imo. - She's a professional so no one will get emotionally attached - She knows what she's doing so it'll be good - You can set rules that she won't care about - There's more variety so you'll find someone hot easier - You don't know her so it won't be weird later TandT.. this is the best advice!!!! good post Enema.. as usual.. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Dont open pandoa's box... Not everyone works things' out after a three way. lol. Not that I wouldnt know. but ive heard things. Hiring an escort could possibly be the best thing for you guys. Link to post Share on other sites
BadashkaPeep Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 My husband and I had a threesome with another guy before we got married. It was great except we totally picked the wrong person to do it with. It was a friend that we saw a lot and he definitely overstepped his boundaries afterwards. My husband and I have a great relationship and thoroughly discussed our decision before acting on it. We would absolutely do it again. Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Go with Enema's advice and hire an escort; do not let the third party be anyone you two have regular contact with (or have a crush on). Discuss in advance what's cool with everyone and what's off limits. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Our relationship is fine and the other is great, we just thought of maybe spicing things up a little. Good for you guys! There's absolutely no point or purpose in trying to box yourselves into anybody else's (limiting) beliefs and traditions. I also vote for Enema's as sounding the most sane and practical. ENJOY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
CanadaGuy Posted September 20, 2008 Share Posted September 20, 2008 If you are in toronto, call me! If not, the best place to start is Desire in Mexico. Was there a few years ago, and had an amazing time. It is couples only, so 3 somes won't happen, only 4 somes. For 3 somes, go to Hedonism. Swingers bars are not an easy start for most people. Mexico, you don't know anyone, no one know you, and you can try stuff ans see how you like. What happens in Mexico can stay in Mexico. P.S. It was the most fun trip we have ever had!! P.P.S. Get in shape, stay shaved or neatly trimmed. Depends on what you want, but you will only get people of a similar body size. Link to post Share on other sites
officegirl Posted September 20, 2008 Share Posted September 20, 2008 This is not a decision that anyone should make lightly. In my experience, the foundation of any decision to bring additional people into your sex life is trust. I've only been on one side of this scenario. The other woman. The 3rd brought in. The only reason that this worked is because the woman had 100% trust in me that I would not have any inappropriate dealings with her husband post 3some. And eventually the husband did try to have conversations with me without the wife present. I was loyal to her and her alone. Some woman and men out there will try to infiltrate your relationship because of a power trip. Make sure that whomever you choose is on the up and up. Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted September 20, 2008 Share Posted September 20, 2008 I had a threesome last year with one of my best friends and his wife, we are still friends. Although I will add; right after that weekend his wife kept calling and texting me saying she wanted to do more with me, without her husbands (my friend) knowledge. At that point I stated to her that I cannot do anything under the nose of my friend, it's not right. She got mad and made some derogatory statements saying she would never cheat on her H blah, blah, blah. Personally I think it is risky engaging in multiple partners, but it can work if everyone is mature and understands the implications up front. Cheers! Link to post Share on other sites
Krajt Posted September 20, 2008 Share Posted September 20, 2008 Why anyone would want to have a threesome when in a relationship is beyond me. It speaks volumes of amorality within the human race. I will add that from what I have heard and read threesome's destroy even the most solid relationships, is it worth it? I will never have a threesome because they do not interest me, just like Lesbian's do not interest me. Link to post Share on other sites
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