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bish Established Member

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Oups.. I said in a previous post that I don't think your relationship will last 2 years.. I just changed my mind.. now I say one year..

 

I feel soooo sorry for you... really your bf is a total loser... :o

 

I find myself in the unusual and uncomfortable position of agreeing with Lizzie here.

Lizzie60 Established Member

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Yeah no kidding. My bf didn't even plan this crap, his best friend did. And I think my bf is to chicken to tell them they can't come because his gf disaproves. They are going to Las Vegas in like 6 weeks or something and forking out a lot of money so thats why they are using our apt as a crash pad. I don't know why they have to have both an unbachelor party and a bachelor party within like 6 weeks times.

 

He is having this weekend guy thing THIS weekend.. then another bachelor party in 6 weeks.. and you said in a previous post that he had one guy thing last weekend... WOW...

 

Next time.. tell him to get lost.. it's YOUR apart..

 

I have to agree with vedder.. it's very unrespectful.. and he needs to grow up.. in fact you BOTH need to grow up..

bish Established Member

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Also, what's up with all these elaborate plans?

 

Can't you just get a change of clothes and go to your parents' house and just chill and have a cup of coffee?

 

It seems like you want to prove to him that you also "have a life" and that you are going to be doing all this stuff.

 

Sounds very elaborate and high maint to me.

 

So he is allowed to kick her out of her own place, party it up, and she is suppose to sit at her parent's with her thumb up her ass?

Lizzie60 Established Member

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Oh I forgot:

 

Yeah no kidding. My bf didn't even plan this crap, his best friend did. And I think my bf is to chicken to tell them they can't come because his gf disaproves.

I think your bf, next time should tell his friend that if they want to 'organize' some parties.. they need to do it at THEIR place.. What a loser these guys are.. really..

I hope you get stronger and put your foot down with all this nonsense.. LB.. I really do.

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LB, don't let all these people get to you.

 

Its plain and simple, you are being kicked out for the weekend so your bf can do his male bonding....with one of whom directly disrespected you and your bf didn't do anything about it.

 

So just leave the apartment, and if I were you, I wouldn't come back til Sunday night. Then when you come home I'd simply tell him, "I didn't appreciate the way you disrespected me" and sleep on the couch.

 

I think his disrepectful friend got to him and he cares more about what he thinks than what you think.

 

I'd never dream of expecting my live in SO to leave our place if I had guys over.

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LB, don't let all these people get to you.

 

Its plain and simple, you are being kicked out for the weekend so your bf can do his male bonding....with one of whom directly disrespected you and your bf didn't do anything about it.

 

So just leave the apartment, and if I were you, I wouldn't come back til Sunday night. Then when you come home I'd simply tell him, "I didn't appreciate the way you disrespected me" and sleep on the couch.

 

I think his disrepectful friend got to him and he cares more about what he thinks than what you think.

 

I'd never dream of expecting my live in SO to leave our place if I had guys over.

 

I agree....

Lizzie60 Established Member

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LB, don't let all these people get to you.

 

Its plain and simple, you are being kicked out for the weekend so your bf can do his male bonding....with one of whom directly disrespected you and your bf didn't do anything about it.

 

So just leave the apartment, and if I were you, I wouldn't come back til Sunday night. Then when you come home I'd simply tell him, "I didn't appreciate the way you disrespected me" and sleep on the couch.

 

I think his disrepectful friend got to him and he cares more about what he thinks than what you think.

 

I'd never dream of expecting my live in SO to leave our place if I had guys over.

 

Ah shoot.. I have to agree with Bish... ewwww... :p

sb129 Established Member

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I think the friends sound like a bunch of dweebs. They are being really disrespectful of the fact that LBs BF is in a R.

 

My fiances friends are my friends too and vice versa. We do things separately but "my" friends would never specifically request that my fiance not come to something, and his friends wouldn't either.

 

I have been partying with my BF and his friends on quite a few occasions... I can handle it when they talk guy stuff (I join in!) and I don't mind a drink or three. we have had some crazy nights with his friends/my friends or a combination of both, and its great because we have all got to know eachother and have a good time TOGETHER.

 

When WB has a poker night, girls generally aren't invited because they don't want to play or in my case want to but aren't good enough. Thats when I get to stay home on my own with TOTAL control of the remote and I can eat ice cream for dinner and not have to listen to his snoring.

 

Either way, balance is key.

Nevermind Established Member

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So just leave the apartment, and if I were you, I wouldn't come back til Sunday night. Then when you come home I'd simply tell him, "I didn't appreciate the way you disrespected me" and sleep on the couch.

Honestly? I think this would be a much better way than the newest plan. I never said that her boyfriend was right to begin with, did I?

 

edit: On second thought, he should be sleeping on the couch. Still, this scenario is better than the way it turned out, imho.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Why is everyone dredging up things that the b/f did? They came to a supposed compromise. He agreed that he should have been more respectful and told her he owed her one for being so good about it.

 

Now that it's inconvenient for the OP, this stuff gets brought up again?

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Why is everyone dredging up things that the b/f did? They came to a supposed compromise. He agreed that he should have been more respectful and told her he owed her one for being so good about it.

 

Now that it's inconvenient for the OP, this stuff gets brought up again?

 

 

Well, its easy because the weekend still hasn't happened yet, and its a good way of shifting blame back towards him.

 

I wouldn't be surprised if there is another thread on Monday describing the weekend in its entirety and the subsequent issues that arise as a result of the event having taken place.

And that will still hark back to how he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

 

Sigh.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Well, its easy because the weekend still hasn't happened yet, and its a good way of shifting blame back towards him.

 

I wouldn't be surprised if there is another thread on Monday describing the weekend in its entirety and the subsequent issues that arise as a result of the event having taken place.

And that will still hark back to how he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

 

Sigh.

I really, really hope this weekend doesn't crank up the drama level within their relationship. :(

sb129 Established Member

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I really, really hope this weekend doesn't crank up the drama level within their relationship. :(

 

Its a little too late for that don't you think?

 

Whether there is real drama or not, there is perceived drama from the perspective of the friends.

 

I don't know if LB is going to be able to resist calling or texting to see if he is having fun, and then get offended when he doesn't call back etc etc. Yes, yes I know this is speculation and its probably unfair on my part.

 

I just think she is trying to put on as brave a face as possible, when really this weekend is going to be awful for her.

 

I can kind of understand why, and I still maintain that her BF has handled things in a suboptimal way...........

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Its a little too late for that don't you think?

 

Whether there is real drama or not, there is perceived drama from the perspective of the friends.

 

I don't know if LB is going to be able to resist calling or texting to see if he is having fun, and then get offended when he doesn't call back etc etc. Yes, yes I know this is speculation and its probably unfair on my part.

 

I just think she is trying to put on as brave a face as possible, when really this weekend is going to be awful for her.

 

I can kind of understand why, and I still maintain that her BF has handled things in a suboptimal way...........

Which he has admitted to and apologized for, which she claims to have accepted at one point, so she needs to let it go. You either take a hard(er) stance as at the onset or you have to live with your own agreement. This type of resentment harbouring is what kills relationships.

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I couldn't agree more, TBF.

 

She's either going to have to make peace with this or she'll continue to harbor resentment. Do the latter and it's the beginning of the end. No question.

sb129 Established Member

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Yes, yes I do agree with that too Goddesses, however this constant rehashing/ rearranging of it by starting thread after thread about it means that the original issue can't help but be brought up again.

 

LB herself keeps changing the goalposts and by doing so forces him to change his and its going to ruin the whole weekend for both of them, creating unnecessary drama and dragging the whole issue on and on and on, thats why I don't think that the end of the weekend will necessarily be the end of the issue.

Star Gazer Established Member

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Why not just focus on the issue at hand instead of turning it into a critique on her character? Calling her selfish and controlling is unproductive because it will only push her away and make her less likely to follow your advice.

 

I genuinely like LB and actually think she's a lovely, kind person. I've never attacked her character, ever. If there's anything I'm "attacking," it's her behavior and thought process, which she's more than capable of improving.

 

I think you're just projecting.

Star Gazer Established Member

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Which he has admitted to and apologized for, which she claims to have accepted at one point, so she needs to let it go. You either take a hard(er) stance as at the onset or you have to live with your own agreement. This type of resentment harbouring is what kills relationships.

 

Absolutely!!

Touche Established Member

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Yes, yes I do agree with that too Goddesses, however this constant rehashing/ rearranging of it by starting thread after thread about it means that the original issue can't help but be brought up again.

 

LB herself keeps changing the goalposts and by doing so forces him to change his and its going to ruin the whole weekend for both of them, creating unnecessary drama and dragging the whole issue on and on and on, thats why I don't think that the end of the weekend will necessarily be the end of the issue.

 

Too cute, SB with the "Goddesses.":)

 

And I wholeheartedly agree with the last sentence unfortunately. I said as much earlier. Because although this particular situation might be isolated, the whole dynamic that is at the crux of it is not. And that's what will eventually have to be addressed in a very concrete way.

Star Gazer Established Member

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I don't think that the end of the weekend will necessarily be the end of the issue.

 

You and Touche are spot on about that one... :(

Star Gazer Established Member

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Let's put it this way, people: I may not know how to make a relationship thrive :laugh:, but I certainly know how to KILL one :p, and this is it! :(

Touche Established Member

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Let's put it this way, people: I may not know how to make a relationship thrive :laugh:, but I certainly know how to KILL one :p, and this is it! :(

 

:lmao: That was priceless!

 

Yeah, listen to SG, Laurie. She's the expert on this!

 

Ok, I'm kidding, I'm kidding. But that was funny.

Star Gazer Established Member

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:lmao: That was priceless!

 

Yeah, listen to SG, Laurie. She's the expert on this!

 

Ok, I'm kidding, I'm kidding. But that was funny.

 

I was being serious! :mad:

 

;)

 

But seriously... if there's one thing I do know, and I know well, it's how to sabotage and irreprably harm a relationship.

Touche Established Member

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I was being serious! :mad:

 

;)

 

But seriously... if there's one thing I do know, and I know well, it's how to sabotage and irreprably harm a relationship.

 

That's making me laugh but you know what?

 

Knowing what NOT to do to have a successful relationship is as important as knowing what to do.

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LB, seriously, this guy weekend thing is really not such a big issue. My ex-HB used to do the same thing, luckily we had a separate guests house so I didn't have to move out of our main house. But if he asked me to, I would have happily done so. No biggie, let him have fun with the guys if that's makes him happy. I hated to do all the cleanup when my ex had these guys parties, but his happiness was more important to me. Several times he also compromised himself for my happiness. And that's what a good relationship is all about.

 

Trust me, after this weekend he'll come back refreshed and in a happier mood than before. Don't you want that for your man?

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