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LuCidiTy Established Member

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wonder if sedge would teach us how to belly dance?!

Walking away Established Member

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I took bellydancing lessons.

 

Loved it.

 

Get this:

 

I've been married, so I thought this would be really cool for the next man I marry.

 

I obviously can't give him my virginity on our wedding night, so I thought I had better think of something really special to give him that no other man has had from me.

 

I am going to bellydance for him. (I have the costume already...)

 

It's getting dusty in my closet, but I HAVE the costume... :)

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We are all thin enough and have flat tummies from the anxiety diet. We could write a weight loss book...hey, there's a thought.

LuCidiTy Established Member

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I took bellydancing lessons.

 

Loved it.

 

Get this:

 

I've been married, so I thought this would be really cool for the next man I marry.

 

I obviously can't give him my virginity on our wedding night, so I thought I had better think of something really special to give him that no other man has had from me.

 

I am going to bellydance for him. (I have the costume already...)

 

It's getting dusty in my closet, but I HAVE the costume... :)

 

i'm thinking any man would be thrilled! lol

 

i took a pole-dancing class. that was a riot! there i was hanging upside down with no clue as to how to get out of it!!! then i had to give my friend robyn a lapdance! she was brutal!

LuCidiTy Established Member

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We are all thin enough and have flat tummies from the anxiety diet. We could write a weight loss book...hey, there's a thought.

 

maybe like we have our respective talents (see above) certain men have a talent for this? maybe that's their purpose in life?!

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maybe like we have our respective talents (see above) certain men have a talent for this? maybe that's their purpose in life?!

 

OUR talents are PRICELESS.

 

(See...he's gone again...)

sedgwick Established Member

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My friend can't even talk. No kidding. She texted me this morning writhing in agony.

 

I called her when I got off work and she couldn't even talk. She just sobbed.

 

And you guessed it.

 

She is beautiful, accomplished and successful.

 

What is WRONG with this picture...?

 

Oh that poor woman. I remember that feeling. The day after mine broke up with me, I lay in the floor curled in a ball screaming over and over. I felt like I couldn't scream loudly enough. I just couldn't push all the hurt and anger out of my lungs.

 

I still feel like I will never push out all the humiliation and fury. I tried to explain to him, the last time we spoke, how embarrassed I felt, and he just said, "Why? Why would you be embarrassed?" I said, "Because I misjudged you so badly and I opened up to you." He didn't seem to get it at all. He just kept saying, "Well, I don't know why you would feel embarrassed."

 

I think there's a fundamental disconnect from human emotion that kicks in with these guys. Something in them just disengages, and they don't get it that not everyone works like that. The idea that some people stick around and fight for what they believe in, even when that's -- gasp -- not EASY, is an alien concept to them. It's so much simpler just to bail.

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Sedg!

 

We were just talking about you!

 

Join us...

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Oh that poor woman. I remember that feeling. The day after mine broke up with me, I lay in the floor curled in a ball screaming over and over. I felt like I couldn't scream loudly enough. I just couldn't push all the hurt and anger out of my lungs.

 

I still feel like I will never push out all the humiliation and fury. I tried to explain to him, the last time we spoke, how embarrassed I felt, and he just said, "Why? Why would you be embarrassed?" I said, "Because I misjudged you so badly and I opened up to you." He didn't seem to get it at all. He just kept saying, "Well, I don't know why you would feel embarrassed."

 

I think there's a fundamental disconnect from human emotion that kicks in with these guys. Something in them just disengages, and they don't get it that not everyone works like that. The idea that some people stick around and fight for what they believe in, even when that's -- gasp -- not EASY, is an alien concept to them. It's so much simpler just to bail.

 

Wow...so the same. The day after, he txt'd me "work bla and hope you're ok, thinking of you,x"

 

I txt'd back "utterly embarassed but I'm fine"

 

he txt'd later "don't be embarassed!"

 

argh!!

sedgwick Established Member

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I took bellydancing lessons.

 

Loved it.

 

It's getting dusty in my closet, but I HAVE the costume... :)

 

Bellydance yay WOOOO! I'm bringing a dancer from CA to NYC this week as a guest artist for the company I'm in. She's teaching workshops and staying with me. She rocks. I'm really excited! I've wanted to bring her out here forever and I finally made it happen.

 

As for bellydancing for the menfolk, I used to dance naked for that ingrate on a regular basis, and then HE STOPPED SPEAKING TO ME BECAUSE I DON'T PLAY THE FIDDLE.

 

This makes me want to tear my eyeballs from their sockets and stand on his doorstep with my optical nerves hanging out, screaming, "YOU DID THIS TO MEEEEEE!"

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LMAO!

 

Sedg -

 

He is a FOOL.

 

You are awesome!

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Bellydance yay WOOOO! I'm bringing a dancer from CA to NYC this week as a guest artist for the company I'm in. She's teaching workshops and staying with me. She rocks. I'm really excited! I've wanted to bring her out here forever and I finally made it happen.

 

As for bellydancing for the menfolk, I used to dance naked for that ingrate on a regular basis, and then HE STOPPED SPEAKING TO ME BECAUSE I DON'T PLAY THE FIDDLE.

 

This makes me want to tear my eyeballs from their sockets and stand on his doorstep with my optical nerves hanging out, screaming, "YOU DID THIS TO MEEEEEE!"

 

What the hell is his big deal about playing a freaking fiddle anyway?

LuCidiTy Established Member

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embarrassment. my friend and i had a talk about that very thing, sedge...she felt it and i didn't. then i got it...it's a hard feeling to describe and i think people use different words for it maybe...when you really should have known better than to trust someone with your deepest thoughts and secrets but you feel like you got fooled into doing it and then you feel somehow deceived and ashamed at the same time for not trusting yourself first? ugh i totally blew that description...but something like that?

LuCidiTy Established Member

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Bellydance yay WOOOO! I'm bringing a dancer from CA to NYC this week as a guest artist for the company I'm in. She's teaching workshops and staying with me. She rocks. I'm really excited! I've wanted to bring her out here forever and I finally made it happen.

 

As for bellydancing for the menfolk, I used to dance naked for that ingrate on a regular basis, and then HE STOPPED SPEAKING TO ME BECAUSE I DON'T PLAY THE FIDDLE.

 

This makes me want to tear my eyeballs from their sockets and stand on his doorstep with my optical nerves hanging out, screaming, "YOU DID THIS TO MEEEEEE!"

 

omg i'll be in nyc saturday through wednesday!!! are you appearing anywhere?! i'd love to see you!

 

grrrrrrrrr i'm honestly beginning to hate this fiddle thing!!!!!!!! he has got to be the most insane man ever!

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Wow...so the same. The day after, he txt'd me "work bla and hope you're ok, thinking of you,x"

 

I txt'd back "utterly embarassed but I'm fine"

 

he txt'd later "don't be embarassed!"

 

argh!!

 

God, so much the same!! I was sobbing on the bed when mine left, and then two days later I got a text from him that was something like, "I'm at an outdoor concert in Michigan! It's nice here!" I ignored it, and then the next day he sent one saying, "I'm camping in the woods by a lake!" They were like postcards to your aunt. Finally he sent one asking how I was, and I wrote back, "I'm very sad, but I'm getting ready to go perform at the festival." (He knew I had a big Middle Eastern dance festival coming up.) No response. A few days after I got back, he sent a text that said, "Hope your festival was fun!"

 

Sometimes when we'd have deep conversations or the slightest disagreement, he'd just sort of shut down. It's like you'd look into his eyes and he just wasn't there. He'd just stare at you and not say anything.

 

And yet still I miss him and want him back...and still he completely ignores me. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I don't want this to ruin my ability to love and trust. It feels like it has, but there has to be a way out from underneath the self-loathing this has brought about. There has to be some way to find your way back to believing in love again.

sedgwick Established Member

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omg i'll be in nyc saturday through wednesday!!! are you appearing anywhere?! i'd love to see you!

 

Nope, next show is on the 11th! Damn!

LuCidiTy Established Member

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you'll find your way back to believing in love again. that's for certain. thing is, there aren't any real steps you can take. it can't be forced, and there's no formula or timetable. it just kind of happens one day. just like that. it's in you...the ability, the feeling, the possibility...love being ready to escape from you again once its healed you, the will to try, letting go of the past or your fears, the person at the right time, combinations of these and so many other things...who knows what really does it.

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Nope, next show is on the 11th! Damn!

 

figures! i would have been there till the 13th but the kids decided they wanted to do FL too so we're only staying till wednesday! my sis lives in midtown.

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What the hell is his big deal about playing a freaking fiddle anyway?

 

Oh my god, the million dollar question. I DO NOT KNOW. He's like way way super obsessed with old-time square dance music. Like Rainman-and-toothpicks obsessed. At first I found it charming, but it really started to get in the way of our relationship before long. He just couldn't stop playing music. He was totally killing himself physically and mentally in order to play music ALL THE TIME.

 

His two gfs before me were both fiddle players. One he dumped out of the blue because he apparently decided she wasn't a good enough musician. The other dumped him because he wouldn't play with her whenever there were BETTER fiddle players around, and he hurt her feelings so badly she stopped wanting to play music around him at all.

 

Why do I miss this moron? I don't know. But I totally do. I just want him back here now.

LuCidiTy Established Member

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what do you think would happen if he walked in right now?

 

would it really be the same?

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I understand.

 

I miss my moron too.

 

Sad, isn't it?

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--a smelly tattooed square dancing fiddle player?

 

Sedg: We MUST go out! Will be too hilarious! Let's ALL go out!!!

 

---will be in NYC mid-end April...dates unsure....it'll be a weekend for sure..

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what do you think would happen if he walked in right now?

 

would it really be the same?

 

 

:) sorry...was the first thing that came to my mind! ;) lol

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I posted like 20 pages back that I dated a celebrity. Actually, it is a celebrity's ex-husband but he is well known in NYC in his own right...

 

Well, he has invited me to visit him and stay at his house in the Hamptons.

 

I have declined thus far, but perhaps I should make a trip out there...

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I posted like 20 pages back that I dated a celebrity. Actually, it is a celebrity's ex-husband but he is well known in NYC in his own right...

 

Well, he has invited me to visit him and stay at his house in the Hamptons.

 

I have declined thus far, but perhaps I should make a trip out there...

 

does he fit the description I gave you? lol

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