Erik Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 A couple posts ago, you and I were fine with each other. Someone takes a stab at you, and suddenly I'm sanctimonious? I feel I can speak for most "sanctimonious Americans" when I say we're a bit deeper than basing a breakup on the fact that we don't have any new stories to tell each other over dinner. OK, peace. I've been taking lots of stabs, not just from you, and I'm trying to behave. (Battle axe has not been applied yet, has it?) If I am in a relationship with no kids and both parties think it is time to move on, I see no shallowness in this. Live and learn, is the idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 And how about the divorce rates, then? Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 Depends on their educational level. This girl is a doctor, I think she can spell 'condom.' Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 Are you seriously trying to tell me that only ignorant people get STD's? Basically, yes. The lower your education, the higher the risk you contact STD. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted March 21, 2007 Share Posted March 21, 2007 I am not faulting Erik for his viewpoint on this. Anyway I did a little research myself on Danes and the marriage rate is going down. Danes are saying "Why would I want to get married? That's crazy." Marriage as an institution is losing its appeal over there. That is what this study I read stated anyway. They definitely have a point. I'm 38 and not married, maybe I am a Dane and don't know it. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 It's not marriage that's the issue. I, for one, would find it very depressing to know, going into a relationship, that I was going to end it out of sheer boredom some day. Do you tell the women you date that you plan to eventually end every relationship you're in when the conversation runs out, Erik? All I'm hoping for is to share a relationship where, even after years together, I can still look at the cute little curls on the back of my baby's neck and still feel that warm, loving feeling inside that I have for him now. It seems that people put on whatever persona they feel you want to see, but eventually their true colors come shining through, and pretty soon they've either broken your heart, or you come to find that you can't believe what a selfish prick or a mama's boy you're with. Can't fault you for that. All people dream of undying love, and till death do us part, but it so rarely happens these days. And yes, I told them in no uncertain terms what I expected from our relationships. I go out of my way not to lie to woman, that how you and I originally started upon this subject. (And that's how my relationships worked so well, although people thought I was crazy to be talking to my women like I did.) Moreover, I didn't have to tell them, it's fairly understood over her: better a divorce than 20 years of nupital misery. I told them anyway, they didn't like it very much, they knew the rules of the game, but preferred they to remained unspoken. Speaking for myself, I've had two consensual divorces: tears, regret, pain, yes, but not very much, perhaps a day or two of it. (A matter of dignity too, consensual or not, it wouldn't be right without it.) I still see these women (and their new husbands) on a social basis. My first divorce was bad, I blame it on youth. We don't see each other socially, but speak on the phone from time to time. BJ is rigth about marriage rates. Marriage is no longer an economic necessity for a woman. A lot of European women - not only Danish, the Italian women are famous for it - don't want to be mothering a man unless they have to; i.e. when they are ready for kids. Birth rate in Italy, a catholic country, is the lowest in Europe, or was last time I checked. A lot of Danish women (10% would be my guess) are doing their Italians sisters one better and consciously choose to become single moms. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Oh yeah. I certainly am a self sufficient gal. I have a good job and own my own home on 40 acres. I know how to do many of the things around my home that most women don't - such as how to prime the oil furnace (lol). . Good for you! Don't let no man or woman take your options away. Always let the guy prime the furnace, but always know how to do it yourself. That said, I LOVE skanky whores! I married one once. It was the one relationship that ended bad, but we had one hell of a ride. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Ponder the wisdom of Jerry Hall, wife of Mick Jagger: "My mother said it was simple to keep a man, you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. I said I'd hire the other two and take care of the bedroom bit." Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 ...and Jerry has kept one of the most desirable men in the world for ages. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Don't tell any of the guys in here, but I love to cook. Hate giving massages, though. Maybe I don't really know what skanky means. Skank=porn, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Well, seems I understood 'skanky' perfectly well. Men are flattered that a woman would want them for their body and their body alone. If a girl loves you, of course she beds you, but if she beds you without loving you, that makes you a stud. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Skanky is that she'll bed just about any guy whose head she doesn't have to put a bag over. This one obviously didn't think this guy was anything special as she quickly moved right on to the next warm piece of meat. I've been in a friends-with-benefits relationship before during a time when I did NOT want a relationship (a hot blooded woman has her needs!). But I wouldn't just take home whoever looked the best in the near vicinity at any given time I was feeling "frisky." That's the difference between men and women. The fact that a woman only considers me a piece of meat is a great turn-on. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Not exactly the same, but very telling about men: I once talked to a girl that worked as a phone operator at a brothel. There was this gorgeous guy, a regular. She asked him why he came, he could have any woman he wanted. He said that he loved to be able to just put down money and f*ck a completely strange girl, no strings attached. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Trust me. That was the only thing I was considering during my FWB relationship - his "piece of meat" ('cause he was very fortunate in that department!). Unfortunately, though I did treat him very well, and I made it very clear from the beginning how things were going to be between us, he was hurt very deeply and I had to end it. I still feel bad about that whole thing. Of course he was hurt. His meat was no longer good enough for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 ... and what does FWB mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Friends With Benefits Friends With Benefits... How thoroughly immoral! Americans never cease to shock me! Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Well, yes of course, but to come out and say it just like that... Shocking! Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 I'm only half kidding, with all the danishness and whatnot, FWBs would be, well.. I dunno, we don't do FWB here. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Loggin off now, it has been interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 Not entirely logged off yet, I'll sleep on this. The business about being 'exclusive' is quite foreign to me, either you are GF/BF or you are not a couple. In bed, all people, boys an girls, shold be selfish, it works better that way for all parties. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 22, 2007 Share Posted March 22, 2007 As I noted on another occasion, American youths are polygamous. Very disturbing... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dadaal Posted March 22, 2007 Author Share Posted March 22, 2007 Erik is good at twisting topics. His talks are only based on his homeland experience. He looks for comparisons but never depicts them well in all his topics. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dadaal Posted April 2, 2007 Author Share Posted April 2, 2007 That's what I thought so, too. Link to post Share on other sites
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