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Old 5th March 2018, 8:06 PM   #46
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Yea whatever my car was vandalized this morning when i woke up.
I had to drive my own daughter to school with a threat written on my window.
Sorry. But now you know those people really are dangerous and abusive. No doubt about it. You should report the threat to police! I guess you took it off by now.
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Old 5th March 2018, 8:35 PM   #47
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Yes, report it. Report the one where you moved from as well!
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Old 7th March 2018, 10:11 AM   #48
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shellybing, March 3, 2018,


This woman here at my new place has been picking at me since she moves in. There is much more to her than just beating her child. She has complained so much about where I parked that management asked me to move so she could park there. So I happily did. Then, her guests started parking in my new space. So even if I leave for 5 minutes, when I return someone is there. I left notes and even more recently got approval to town cars from the space that it happens so often.

I am getting a dash cam. And the apt manager has told me to send her pics of the cars that park there. So I'm good for now. I'll call the police when I have proof.


So, shellybing, how's it been at your apartment, any improvements. Is the bully still wreaking havoc? Hope things are improving .
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Old 18th March 2018, 2:42 AM   #49
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Sorry. But now you know those people really are dangerous and abusive. No doubt about it. You should report the threat to police! I guess you took it off by now.
Freaking obviously why I was worried about reporting in the first place. I made it clear early on they were abusive and dangerous.
Now it's worrysome?

smdh

I avoid her.
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Old 18th March 2018, 4:35 PM   #50
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Well, instead of getting mad at me for telling you to do the right thing, if you report anytime they harass you to police, then you can apply for an Order of Protection, which is just a piece of paper, but then if they ignore it, they can be arrested.
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Old 18th March 2018, 5:13 PM   #51
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She'll just say that she had nothing to do with what happened to your car.

Dash cams only turn on if the car is struck or the ignition is on. They don't stay on wbile it's parked over night. They're big, hang off the windshield and a great way to get your window broken and stolen.

Don't let nobody shame you over what you do, they ain't the ones that have to deal with it.

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Old 18th March 2018, 11:58 PM   #52
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She'll just say that she had nothing to do with what happened to your car.

Dash cams only turn on if the car is struck or the ignition is on. They don't stay on wbile it's parked over night. They're big, hang off the windshield and a great way to get your window broken and stolen.

Don't let nobody shame you over what you do, they ain't the ones that have to deal with it.

I know really. Child services isn't even going to do anything.
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Old 18th March 2018, 11:59 PM   #53
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Freaking obviously why I was worried about reporting in the first place. I made it clear early on they were abusive and dangerous.
Now it's worrysome?

smdh

I avoid her.
The police can't do anything without proof. Like I said. This happened once before. Making a report is not the same thing as having proof.
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Old 19th March 2018, 12:05 AM   #54
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She'll just say that she had nothing to do with what happened to your car.

Dash cams only turn on if the car is struck or the ignition is on. They don't stay on wbile it's parked over night. They're big, hang off the windshield and a great way to get your window broken and stolen.

Don't let nobody shame you over what you do, they ain't the ones that have to deal with it.
I am not sure how they work, I'd still like to get one though.
I thought maybe there was a motion censored dash cam? who knows.
There really isn't a bunch of crime in my complex, it's just her.

I am tired of this **** already. I did take the car to the apartment manager and showed her and she took a photo. I am not sure, but maybe their antics got them a fine or something. My complex is wonderful except the neighbor. ugh ugh ugh. Nothing has happened since then. Freaking psycho people.

I can hear her yell at the child still, through the walls, that she is going to beat his ass. He is just a tiny baby kid. He doesn't even understand.

I did get a laugh the other day hahaha I had to move my bed because the bed was next to the wall that connects to her apartment. I could hear her snoring through the walls. It was a terrible night, but I got a laugh about it. hahaha
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Old 19th March 2018, 2:56 PM   #55
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I am not sure if this area of the forum is for families, or not.

Before I begin, I am not in danger.

I am inquiring for the little child that lives in the apartment next door.

I swear every time I move, I get stuck living next to someone who has a loud ass mouth, always angry, yells at their kids, and beats them.

I moved away from an apartment recently for the same reasons. A child who was very little was being beat, literally beaten. I am not talking about a spanking. I am talking I could hear this woman storm through the house on a regular basis berrating her child to the point of tears (the ugly face tears) for hours upon hours. This kid was no older than 8 years old. I could hear her slapping, hitting, etc.

I moved from that apartment, into what I thought would be a better apartment. This time, it is a grandmother and her daughter. Sometimes the boy is there, he can be no older than 6 years old.

I hear her throwing things that hit the wall, I hear her dragging him around, I hear slapping, constant crying through my bedroom wall.

I know this childs name because she screams at him so often.

This woman is not only just angry, she is angry at everything. She has yelled at several other people on the property for parking and whatever else. There was a threat written on the ground in sidewalk chalk because she thought that someone had stolen one of her chairs that had been lost in her move.
I was even walking out to my car once, and she was talking badly and venting about something I had done. I hadn't even spoken two words to the lady. I addressed her "greeting" when she moved into the building.

As I am sitting here now, I have heard this child cry his poor self to sleep.

It is very saddening.

I do not know what to do. Or when it is appropiate to call child services on someone.

Does anyone have any advice?



It don't think anyone's trying to shame you into what to do. It's more about reading what you've had to be exposed to and worse what these children,(the child in the first place & yet another), are going through. It's a natural reaction to want to help and protect.

What's more, the question was asked , what advice? The worst part is that the system doesn't always serve and protect the innocent. Then you clearly have a woman that has been in the system enough that she knows how to manipulate the system, as well as her neighbors with no recourse. You always hear, call the police, but then the police come and say, nothing they can do, no evidence. It's like who has to do the work to get help? Does someone have to die to get help that isn't help by then?


I hope you can figure out how to put up with it or how to outsmart her at her own behavior. My prayers to the innocent child, sounds like he needs some.

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Old 19th March 2018, 10:49 PM   #56
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It don't think anyone's trying to shame you into what to do. It's more about reading what you've had to be exposed to and worse what these children,(the child in the first place & yet another), are going through. It's a natural reaction to want to help and protect.

What's more, the question was asked , what advice? The worst part is that the system doesn't always serve and protect the innocent. Then you clearly have a woman that has been in the system enough that she knows how to manipulate the system, as well as her neighbors with no recourse. You always hear, call the police, but then the police come and say, nothing they can do, no evidence. It's like who has to do the work to get help? Does someone have to die to get help that isn't help by then?


I hope you can figure out how to put up with it or how to outsmart her at her own behavior. My prayers to the innocent child, sounds like he needs some.
My initial concern was for the child.
But knowing some people are horrible and abusive, I was more than positive the abuse would shift my way had I don't anything about it. I have my own family to protect too, first.

I am not sure what to do but to use the same bullying tactics that are used for children. Which is what I'm doing. It seems to be working for now, but I'm sure there will be more incidents along the way.
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Old 19th March 2018, 10:50 PM   #57
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And you are absolutely right Sky.

What has to happen before interventions can be made.
That s not my call. But I do know what I have witnessed, should be enough.
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Yes motion sensor cams. They come on like on alarm if your window were to be broken, but I don't know if someone merely touches your car. You need a mount like the kind people put their phone on. You can try it, let me just tell you, my window was broken and car burglarized one night I parked out on the street and what I had was an empty mount with nothing on it. The mount, my phone charger, my knife and handgun were stolen.

What I'm trying to tell you is the people who jack look for stuff like that. Navagation systems, cell phones purses, anything in plain sight. That's what let's em know which car they wanna break into.
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Old 20th March 2018, 12:13 PM   #59
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Yes motion sensor cams. They come on like on alarm if your window were to be broken, but I don't know if someone merely touches your car. You need a mount like the kind people put their phone on. You can try it, let me just tell you, my window was broken and car burglarized one night I parked out on the street and what I had was an empty mount with nothing on it. The mount, my phone charger, my knife and handgun were stolen.

What I'm trying to tell you is the people who jack look for stuff like that. Navagation systems, cell phones purses, anything in plain sight. That's what let's em know which car they wanna break into.
Well thanks. Im not a criminal so I don't know these things lol I am just a woman trying to mind my own damned business and do what I can in the world.

I do think my car has an alarm that will honk the horn if anyone breaks into it. . .I will have to look in the manual.

I really like my apartment complex and don't want to move. aside from this lady bringing the hood here, everything else is quite pleasant.

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Oh yes. and after I told the manager and she took a picture, a new larger sign with my parking # was posted in my space. So something got done about it.
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