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Old 6th February 2019, 7:09 PM   #16
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Yes, it is unlikely they will go after him to serve the warrant, but if they stop him for a ticket or some other thing, the warrant will pop up and they will have to bring him in. I don't know how big your community is. In a big city like Dallas, that is how it would work. However, if you're in a smaller municipality, maybe a plea to law enforcement might prompt them to go ahead and pick him up.

A bench warrant means he's already disobeyed the court and it gives the police the right to go break in his house if necessary to serve it. It's stronger than a plain warrant.

If I were you, I'd at least try pleading with the police to go serve him (or sheriff or whoever has the warrant).
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Old 6th February 2019, 7:12 PM   #17
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The county I live in has a FB page and shows the faces and last known addresses of anyone with an active warrant and even gives you a number to call if youíve seen them in your neighborhood.


He didnít even text the kids merry Christmas or anything or even happy thanksgiving because I remember my daughter making fun of him by saying ďI wonder how the stuffing is in prison.Ē
Ugh, sorry this is what your kids have to deal with .

I'm thinking law enforcement isn't super busy at the Jersey shore in February, so you might get lucky!
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Old 6th February 2019, 7:21 PM   #18
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Thank you and yes, heís not a nice person. My kids have no time for him and itís really a shame because theyíre terrific but after being hit in the face by him or being called a whore for wearing a bathing suit to a water park he took them to when she was 12 or being told heíd bring him for his driving test to get his license then not show up my kids are over him.

Oh, and he blocked my daughter on FB the day my mother died.
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Old 6th February 2019, 7:42 PM   #19
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Okay so Iím looking it up a child support bench warrant means your license gets suspended. Karma.

If youíre caught driving with a suspended license itís not only a $500 fine but the killer is you get 8 points on your license. I donít even want to think how much auto insurance will cost at that point. Ours is like some of the highest rates in the country already.

omg. This is really bad for him.
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Old 6th February 2019, 7:44 PM   #20
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Doing some quick googling, I think it's police who do it in Jersey Shore. If you ever know where he is, you could just try letting them know that sometime. Can't hurt to try. I'd do it during the day through the week when police departments have fewer calls.
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Old 6th February 2019, 9:03 PM   #21
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Iíve looked for him recently and canít find him around. He was staying at his GFs house in wildwood and had a trailer for his waverunners parked in the driveway there but thatís gone. He also would sometimes stay in this run down condo his GF bought for cheap but his car wasnít there the other day and neither was that flatbed trailer of his. Iím thinking he may have loaded up his crap and got the hell outta dodge.

The courts sent him three letters at last known addresses and none were returned. Thatís how they knew he got the notice to appear and she made a point to put that on the record.

I donít really run into him that often. Last time was in summer and I saw him in September on the side of the road one time buying blue claw crabs from a local stand. I only noticed him because of his Harley. I saw the bike first. It looked nice and caught my eye. He didnít see me though.

Sometimes heíd go past my house in the middle of the night, like 2 o clock in the morning, but he hasnít even done that in a while.

If I do see him Iíll definitely call cops now. Itís like the only way Iím gonna get my money. I just donít feel like heís around though.

My best hope is that his drivers license expires soon.
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Old 6th February 2019, 9:15 PM   #22
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The instances of this I've heard about often involved the suspect being spotted by someone he knows that is aware of the warrant and then drops a dime on him. They simply called the local police an said "he's sitting at the bar right now, 3 stools from the left."
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Old 6th February 2019, 10:01 PM   #23
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I'd say just call the police department and ask what their process is in a case like this. They will tell you. I have a feeling they will not actively seek him out, so if you spot him and call they may or may not come and it might take them hours.


Do you think he is collectible? I mean if he gets picked up and doesn't have the money, it really isn't going to help you out in the near future. If he has money and is collectible and you don't want to pay an attorney, I'd do some sleuthing on my own. Have someone he doesn't know try to add him on FB. Call his relatives and tell give them some kind of emergency story that you need to get in contact and because you received a large check from insurance in his name or something.


If you have a little money and the trade off of catching him is worth it, you could hire a private investigator. Even if he is of the grid they will find out places he worked, when he worked there, bills he paid and when he paid and what address they were sent to. You can do the same things they would do if you weren't afraid to pay in the mud a bit.
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Old 6th February 2019, 10:33 PM   #24
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Thanks. I know where he last worked. He was hired as some hot shot for Kelley Blue Book at Cox Industries. The only reason I know this is because he gives me insurance cards for the kids and it was their plan. He cancelled their insurance last July though and never sent any new cards.

If he was in rehab he may have lost his job. I think heís on heroin or cocaine or something. I donít know for sure though. Itís just a guess. But if he is he wonít have much of anything for long because whatever he does he does in a really big way.

Ugh, I hate him. Heís the only person I ever knew that I actually hate. Most people have at least some redeeming qualities but he honestly has none. Not one.

We got divorced a long time ago, over 13 years ago, so Iím not sure if his family would let him rot in jail. They may come up with the money for him but who knows? They may be as glad to be rid of him as I was and be happy to let him stay there.

The only thing that makes me think heíll hang out around here is his grandparents. Theyíre up in age and he was always very close to them. But if heís on drugs Iím not sure any of thatíll matter to him.
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Old 7th February 2019, 5:13 AM   #25
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A bench warrant in most states is merely a contempt of court or court order issue. It means the police will only arrest him for it if they encounter him for some other reason. They will not go to the house...unless it is some special action where they get a grant to round up deadbeat parents..etc. They will not act on a tip, they will make no effort to find him.

Also, say if he has a warrant in county or city X, and he gets encountered out of state or away for county or city x, he may or may not be released anyway since the county or city that issued the bench has to send 1 or 2 officers to travel to go get him. If he is out of state, most likely he may be released. These laws vary from city to city, county to county, state to state, so your results may vary.
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No advice as I have no clue what a bench warrant is. Not an ideal situation for you or your kids - sorry you're having to go through it, and to still be somewhat party to your ex's drama.
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They will not go to the house...unless it is some special action where they get a grant to round up deadbeat parents..etc. They will not act on a tip, they will make no effort to find him.
When Joe Arpaio was sheriff, he used to do an annual "round up" of deadbeat Dads. I always thought it was more for "public relations" and the news cameras.

https://www.azfamily.com/sheriff-s-d...7060400cd.html
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Old 7th February 2019, 9:05 AM   #28
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Okay, thanks guys. In case I wasn’t clear, the exH owes me a bunch of money for child support. He didn’t show to the court hearing. The hearing officer issued a warrant and stated that for him to be released he’ll have to pay what he owes.

Will they send a sheriffs officer out?

I figure someone had to have this happen to them or know somebody this happened to, right?
Pretty sure they don’t have child support debtors prison in NJ.

The warrant was issued to get your Ex back in court. They may send an officer to his address one time to attempt to arrest him. The warrant will be entered in the criminal data base and if/when he comes across law enforcement.

The bench warrant may have been issued without bond. That means he will be in jail maybe a few days until court. People in jail do not earn money and lose their jobs. The court will release him rather quickly. It is likely his drivers license will also be suspended until he pays.

I would not be expecting money anytime soon.
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Bench warrant means if he is stopped, he will he held on that warrant and brought before the issuing judge.

I doubt theyíll seek him out.
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Old 7th February 2019, 10:39 AM   #30
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He didnít have the warrant issued for not paying. He had the warrant issued for failure to appear at a court hearing.

On the copy of order that I received it has the box checked for bench warrant issued for failure to appear with full arrears (money he owes me) as purge.

So he wonít be arrested for non-payment. Heíll be arrested for not showing to court for non-payment, if that makes sense. He disrespected the court and wasted their time. Thatís what theyíll arrest him for but indirectly Iíll get paid if he ever wants to get out since theyíre the terms of his release.

Heís not a very nice guy. Heís been arrested for assaulting a police officer before. That was when we were married and the State of New Jersey took away his professional license for that.

I may go the private investigator route. Unless heís very smart, which I donít think he is considering how easy it was for me to murder him in the divorce that he never even saw coming, he shouldnít be too hard to find.

But if heís had any brush with the law Iím sure he hasnít made a good impression. There may be some out there who will come across his name and would love to go out of their way to try and nail this bastard.

And if he was high on drugs that would be a really bad impression heíd be making. Thatís when all his really crazy crap comes out.
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