been dating for 5 months. as soon as things are good, she gets mad at me for no apparent reason. typical drama queen. but the good times far out weigh the bad. we both love each other but i don't know how to keep going on with this. she pushes me away and then grabs me back. it's an emotional rollercoaster and i don't wanna give up on her yet. it feels like just when we're getting close she'll point out some occasion where she felt like i was neglecting her. what should i do?
Without knowing a whole lot about the situation or her, it sounds like she is a bit insecure to me. There's no magic wand you can wave to make that disappear over night unfortunately.
I don't know. How old are you two? Does she problems in other areas of her life? Issues with past relationships?
Some people are just plain difficult. High maintanence is sometimes the term
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but the good times far out weigh the bad
Maybe that answers your question. You have to decide if the relationship is worth the trouble though.
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it feels like just when we're getting close she'll point out some occasion where she felt like i was neglecting her
Not good, don't let her manipulate you like that. You might need to challenge her when she speaks like that. Point out that as you are there for her, how could she feel neglected?
Good luck with it
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she's 25 and i'm 28. we met at work but by no means do we even make see each other at work. our only time talking at work is through IM. this is my first time dealing with someone that's high maintenance. i'm sure she's probably gotten burned in her past but i just wannna know what i could do and if there's a chance that her high maintenance can be fulfilled once she has some faith in me.
it worries me because i'm a typical nice guy. and i'm assuming she's never really had a nice guy like me and it probably surprises her that i'm actually a nice guy. it seems as if she's always looking for something bad about me to get mad over.
she won't even admit that we're a couple. even though we act like one. what's the deal with having a title. if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck. i don't know. it's all confusing right now. any comments are appreciated.
RUN don't walk away from her and find someone a bit less into drama. She will eventually rip you to shreds emotionally and then split herself.
These kinds of women are great to hang out with short term and have fun with but that is all. She'll ask u for a commitment and when u give it to her she will back off herself.
alpha, good advice but there's a twist. she's the one that's not wanting a relationship. not that i'm forcing it upon her it's just that i need to know because she's spending a lot of time with me and will deny that we aren't anything even though we act like bf/gf.
plus what is the impact of her having pms right now?
oh man, please tell me it's just pms. but it's puts our relationship to the point of her being so upset with me that she just doesn't wanna deal with me anymore.
seriously, when the first week of the month rolls around. i try to be on my best behavior. i know it's lame of me to do that but why play with a grenade. i see it as if she were wearing a mask during this time. like crap will happen and when aunt flow passes by this mask comes off and life goes on as if it nothing happened.
God, I get so fu*cking tired of hearing how PMS is to blame every time a woman gets sideways emotionally. It’s like an automatic write off, “oh, don’t blame me, blame the PMS.”
I have to agree with Alpha on this one. Every damn time I have found one of those ‘high maintenance’ a.k.a ‘bitches’ in my life, they have always made me miserable and usually sooner than later.
Ok, I am a girl. First of all, PMS would only last for a few days at the most, not every freakin' day. It sounds to me like she has emotional problems, or she may not know what she wants right now, especailly since she is not even admitting to being in a relationship with you. Either way, I think you should back off for a little while and then see how she acts. Why don't you try to take some control? Don't fall for all her little excuses. Show her you aren't gonna be run over and then see if she straightens up. Believe me, it is so not worth the stress to be dealing with someone who is gonna treat you like that/ Maybe she will change.... she sounds like she has some issues though.
Originally posted by haywood
been dating for 5 months. as soon as things are good, she gets mad at me for no apparent reason. typical drama queen. but the good times far out weigh the bad. we both love each other but i don't know how to keep going on with this. she pushes me away and then grabs me back. it's an emotional rollercoaster and i don't wanna give up on her yet. it feels like just when we're getting close she'll point out some occasion where she felt like i was neglecting her. what should i do?
Talk to her about it. If she flips out laugh at her - don't fight with her. Then she may see how silly she really looks when she acts like that. You are not one of her former guys who she probably had good fights with. Try and have a rational conversation with her.
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