Yeah I fantasise about having sex of some kind before I die...
I guess there is the myth of the well hung black man that stil persists to some degree, but I think it is more along the lines of men being into Asian women, that it's something exotic.
I don't fantasise about black guys in the way you mentioned in your post (I would if I'd met some super gorgeous guy and he happened to be black, then I would be imagining all sorts of things, but that would go for any guy).
The cuckold fetish is a throw back to racist views of interracial sex being taboo. Toss in a pinch of myth about the likely size of a man of color's penis for uhhhh, good measure .
And really, the exotic factor of dark skin is a geographical property. There is nothing exotic about men of color here in DC where I live. Caucasians are the minority here.
To nix certain skin colors entirely for sex partners is on the fringe of racism. Its one thing to have less attraction to a certain ethnicity, its another thing entirely to say you'd never, ever, no matter what other qualities a person has, not sleep with them due to skin color.
I personally don't fantasise about black men - I only find myself attracted to a certain type of light skinned, blue eyed man. I don't even particularly find brown eyes attractive in a white man; I like my men to be very fair.
Why is it on the fringe of racism if I'm not attracted to certain skin colours or features? As long as I treat everyone in society equally, why is it wrong to admit that I'm not physically attracted to some of them? If it's wrong to say I'm not attracted to black men, is it also wrong to say I'm not attracted to fat men, grey haired men, bald men, men with big noses, etc? It seems to me that I have to be somewhat discriminating in who I'm attracted to; obviously I'm not going to be attracted to everyone! Why is it ok to only be attracted to men with hair, but it isn't ok to only be attracted to men with white skin?
As an extension of that, if I'm going to have children with a man, I want children of my own ethnicity who look somewhat like me, therefore I only want to have a sexual and romantic relationship with a partner of my own ethnicity. Is it racist to prefer not to have mixed race children?
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