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:bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:Whoooo yay

 

So a potential cool job situation has come up!

 

My DREAM for the next 4 - 5 years is to study and work. I am not sure how much study VS work. I may study full time and work part time, or do the opposite and earn a lot more money, while still working towards my degree.

 

There is a place that is about 3 hours away, a rural small country town. A pub, with realllly nice owners, might want me to come and look after their young child occasionally while I also work behind the bar!

 

I get free rent and stuff and probably get free meals.

 

I would be on student allowance, 495 per week PLUS I would earn a few hundred per week.

 

I would be able to study, work in the job I love most (behind a bar is the menial job that I most love) and also being a nanny occasionally.

 

I love adventure and would love a change.

 

They are waiting to see if the current nanny is staying or leaving, but they think she will probably leave (fingers crossed) as she is very young and she misses her boyfriend who lives in another town.

 

FINGERS CROSSED.

 

I would save so much money, as I would be studying most of the time, and only have time to go for a jog most days, eat, and work.

 

It would be SOOOOOOOOOO cool to study while I have a secure job (your there for months at a time, so they do not get rid of you in hurry even if you suck, since it is a rural job they give you a chance unlike most places that next you cos there are 60 other people in line for the job)

 

Please with me luck!

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It would be good for you to get away and start things fresh...

 

Good luck.

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It would be good for you to get away and start things fresh...

 

Good luck.

 

I agree, but one question - if it's so remote, how will you continue in school while you're there? Is there a campus?

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I agree, but one question - if it's so remote, how will you continue in school while you're there? Is there a campus?

 

 

Online Uni.

 

I've done it before and it worked out fine.

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Online Uni.

 

I've done it before and it worked out fine.

 

Why did you stop?

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Why did you stop?

 

 

I have not stopped. I am at College.

 

I am only part time though because I need to get my academic writing up to par before, as I would rather do well than simply pass..

 

It has been a while, 15 years, since studying, although I did a brief stint in 09 and got high distinctions in all subjects.

 

I have the aptitude to do well, but I am just rusty, hence why I went part time at first and looked for work.

 

There is NO work here, I cannot even get a food serve job in the worst places - they want young people, teens or EARLY 20's.

 

By mid to late 20's, they don't hire you unless your a manager or senior staff member.

 

Trust me, I am stuffed if I do not get that job! There are really NO jobs for me here. I have looked hard. For 3 years.

 

................

 

There are other live in nanny positions around, and I am going to seek them out. I am GOOD with kids despite not wanting me own LOL, and would have to make up a fake reference about a past job, as I have never been a nanny before, but I have looked after kids in my own family who are difficult yet liked me.

 

I Know I can do a great job, as I have a lot of energy compassion and time for kids (since they are not my own and I can give them back lol)

 

I SO hope I can get this job, as she is not really looking for someone with extensive experience. Just someone with the legal documents for bar and gaming, and a willingless to work hard.

 

UGH

 

I NEED THIS JOB.

 

I HATE being so close to my precious dogs and to NOT be able to fcking see them.

 

Especially since one dog has had puppies, that are not in the walking and running stage where they are adorable.

 

I want to get the hell out of where I live to be honest, and I want a NEW start somewhere that is far away and remote.

 

I Just want to focus on college, move out and work in the remote area and WORK and save.

 

This job would literally be a dream come true - I would have a chance to get HEAPS of experience behind the bar, and hopefully work for years at a time and get a CAR and a NOSE JOB and TRAVEL.

 

I do not go out and party at all, even though my parents offer me money to do so.

 

I REALLY just want to work, study, and save! I ENJOY not going out, and just staying in and relaxing.

 

FINGERS CROSSED.

 

THIS is the best thing that would ever happen to me. Moving on from my ex, earning money, and studying.

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Can you get a therapist where you want to go?

 

I am concerned about your well being.

 

I've been following your posts since you came here. Many times some of us have urged you to seek professional help and you have ALWAYS said you are going to, and even that you ARE in therapy. But now I understand that you are not.

 

In fact, a geographical move might be a good thing for you in many ways. But a person cannot leave their problems behind. To trot out a hackneyed but useful cliche - wherever you go, there you are.

 

You talk a lot about needing to work on yourself. The best time to do it is NOW. Not when you find yourself in a relationship or in a situation where you'll need to act as a member of an unfamiliar family.

 

I'm hoping for the best for you.

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Well I am very secure with my own family - my mum talks to me every day and she IS over seas and always has been since I was 10. I still feel a lot of love and support without having physical contact with her. My dad too, but I obviously get along and talk a lot more with my mum.

 

I would be fine; I mean, Andrew was my security in real life, as were my dogs and now they are fcking gone.

 

It would be easier being well away from my dogs as I find it AWFULLY hard to not see them at all. I can't even think about it actually or I would go crazy.

 

Without him with me, I still feel very secure having my mum to talk to, and knowing I Have two parents that love me.

I also have a best friend from years ago, and another good friend where I live PLUS other people I can always ring for support.

So yeah. I have mum and my best friend who I could call incessantly every night if I needed to. Plus others I talk to a lot.

 

As for therapy, I DID go back but I stopped going eventually, as I felt so happy living with Andrew. I had issues, but on the whole I WAS happy in general.

Little did I realise, I became so attached to Andrew that I stopped working on my own life; yes it was great having a loving partner to come home to and support me every day, but I forgot about the rest of my life to a large extent, EVEN THOUGH I did have dreams I knew I would fulfil one day. I just stopped trying as hard in life to achieve the things I need: regular friends, a job, and I should have started college sooner.

 

I should have known better. I can see with regular therapy I would have actually been far better off by now. I was happy and fairly functional, but I really needed help beyond what a non specialist could give me.

 

I am a happy and positive person who loves life, I am happy even while I am heart broken.

I can see that therapy would really help me maximise my happiness. For starters, it would enable me to be ready for the right guy when he comes along one day.

 

I am starting therapy next Wednesday and I plan to go once weekly; I am getting a new mental health care plan that offers 30 dollar sessions with a psychologist.

 

I just need to deal with my grief over losing Andrew and the dogs, and to develop ways to help me stay on track with fulfilling my goals in life, in addition to dealing with my unhealthy habits.

 

I am serious about getting therapy once a week initially for a good few months, and then I will still continue therapy only less often.

If I move, there are very good psychologist at my doctors who do phone therapy.

I would do the phone therapy twice a week to compensate for the lack of physical contact.

I have a lot to offer the world and I am in a degree that will lead me right into a average paid job, doing what I know I would be excellent at. I DO NOT want to stop myself from reaching this potential.

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My personal issues only tend to show themselves when I am in a relationship, a long term one.

 

If I AM lucky enough to get his job...... Well I am a very likable, agreeable, and easy going women. I can't see there being any problems settling in, I just have not worked for a long time consistently as there are NO jobs here.

 

I am a super hard worker in my jobs though and I have no issue working all day without a break, and into the night.

 

I MAY have to stick part time with college though if I am to be able to handle a lot of work IF I get the job.

 

A big IF.

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Here is how the job has gone down so far...

 

We talked for an hour on the phone; she is living in a small country town and enjoyed just chatting to me.

 

I stated that I was very interested.

 

She got back to me last night about the current nanny; asked if I was still interested in the job, said the current nanny seems like she is missing her b/f in another town and is very young and is likely to leave soon.

 

She responded with " wow you are still very keen, well give me some references and we will go from there"

 

" I have my c section with my next baby on ______ and we will see if the current nanny can stay an extra month before you come, or I have re opened the job again and there is an English girl (who lives way further away than I do) who could fill the space between the current nanny and YOU although it may not work.

 

......

 

 

To which I sent an email back saying " actually, I am available to start immediately, as I only have one more Uni assessment which I can submit online anyway"

 

" I have some references available for you right now"

 

.............................

 

 

Does it look promising? I am sure I will know by the end of the week as to whether the current nanny has GONE ( PLZ!!!! ) and I can begin over other applicants.

 

She has talked to me the longest out of other applicants, I have told her I really would love this opportunity, so yeah... FINGERS CROSSED.

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Well, I'm not a therapist but I have a piece of advice that I hope you will take to heart.

 

ONE DAY AT A TIME.

 

Live your life that way. Stop jumping into the future at every opportunity.

 

Your life is RIGHT NOW, TODAY. There is no guarantee about tomorrow or next year.

 

That is not meant to be discouraging. It's empowering.

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Of course of course...

 

I think most people need to think that way more often... Loads of "successful" people I come across are less happy than ME due to not being able to be grateful for what hey have right NOW; they always want more more more before they are "content"

 

I am happy with each day I do enjoy life a lot still, but yeah I do tend to get excited about things I realllllly want!

 

I just really want this job. I am prepared for rejection but I will be disappointed.

 

I will literally jump for joy if I can go up there and start ASAP.

 

In general though yes I will try to take your advice, thanks:)

 

 

 

 

................ But did the emails she sent sound promising?:)

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I'm not actually talking about your hopes for this job. Go for what you want, that's good.

 

It's all the non-stop self talk about:

 

the job you'll have when you finish your degree and the living you will earn and the studying and working as a nanny and bartending which you love more than anything else, and you are going to resolve all your issues so you will be able to have a great relationship, but you don't want to wait forever, or more than three months, so how can you get a casual sex relationship, but the guy needs to really like and respect you as a person, but you won't have sex, he just needs to cuddle,

 

Etc.

 

Do you understand?

 

If you want to work on getting that job, go for it. Then take care of business so you can go there and make it a successful experience for yourself.

 

The rest of this is just maddening chaos in your head. And on your computer. And on LoveShack.

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Yes I understand.

 

I will tone it down:o

 

That is also me being incredibly nervous; you know the feeling you get when you REALLY want something? You have a lot to lose and will be really disappointed if say, they find someone else for the job?

 

VERY nervous, I will literally jump for joy if she confirms it end of this week.

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Good luck, Leigh! :)

 

It may be just paranoid me speaking, but I think it'd be good if you had a family member come with you the first time you settle into your new lodgings with this couple. I know that Aussie is generally safe, but, well, it may not be a good idea to be stuck in a rural place with no help to be gotten for miles, if anything is amiss with this couple. That's what I'd do, at least.

 

Unless you actually know these people, and it isn't just an ad on the internet?

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UGH she sent an email today

 

She may need someone to start late June, exactly when I leave for my trip!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

 

She said: if the current nanny leaves when I leave and she refuses to stay on, it may not work with me (as they need someone to start when the current nanny leaves)

 

She is not sure if the current nanny can STAY from the date I leave, and until I return. She is asking her on Thursday if she can stay on until I get back from my trip.

 

She did mention that she could possibly get an English tourist in between the time the current nanny leaves, up until I return.

 

Is that a good sign she alluded to trying to have it work in my favour?

 

..........

 

 

I wrote back with great references, selling myself and just wrote a really good response: that I would love the opportunity she has on offer as it really is the exact thing I want to be doing with my life. Then I kept it strictly to references and my past experiences which I made to sound really really impressive:D:D (this has gotten me jobs in the past when I used to work)

 

UGH.

 

I never wanted anything this badly in life, except my results that would get me into college!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I'll find out Thursday. And that is only if she likes my references enough.

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Good luck, Leigh! :)

 

It may be just paranoid me speaking, but I think it'd be good if you had a family member come with you the first time you settle into your new lodgings with this couple. I know that Aussie is generally safe, but, well, it may not be a good idea to be stuck in a rural place with no help to be gotten for miles, if anything is amiss with this couple. That's what I'd do, at least.

 

Unless you actually know these people, and it isn't just an ad on the internet?

 

 

Thanks.

 

The safety issue is the least of my worries. Knowing my luck with jobs, I probably WON'T get it. I NEVER tend to get things I really really want in life when it comes to work.

 

Although my parents have already stated that they would drive me there and check it all out with me.

 

I doubt I will get it, but I am SO hoping.

 

It is about time I get something I want so badly and that I know I would do a very good job at ( I am really good with looking after kids and have loads of experience, and I LOVE bar work)

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Well, fingers crossed for you, Leigh.

 

If you really want to go someplace, there are certainly jobs in tourism available in your country, though I don't know about right now because your tourist season is winding down.

 

My daughter got hired all the way from America to work at a fancy resort in Tasmania … They paid well too. It was remote and kind of boring for her but on the positive side, there was nothing to spend her money on so she managed to come back with enough to set herself up in a city here.

 

I think every other employee there was Australian.

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Well, fingers crossed for you, Leigh.

 

If you really want to go someplace, there are certainly jobs in tourism available in your country, though I don't know about right now because your tourist season is winding down.

 

My daughter got hired all the way from America to work at a fancy resort in Tasmania … They paid well too. It was remote and kind of boring for her but on the positive side, there was nothing to spend her money on so she managed to come back with enough to set herself up in a city here.

 

I think every other employee there was Australian.

 

I'm looking for that exact same scenario. I don't go out or throw money around anyway, and I am looking to work in either a live in nanny position, or in some situation where I live and work away from home.

 

I will have to start looking for some live in nanny positions in the state if NSW. There are sure to be families out there that are looking for a trustworthy, dedicated and pleasant women to be around, ( to look after their kids and for very little money)

 

You see, if I get student allowance, I would only need to earn very little in order for me to start saving towards my future. 200 a week even, for a live in situation where you're not paying rent, would still be 200 tbat I would save A WEEK ( on top of the 490 I get off the government for studying at least 3 subjects at uni)

 

How does all that sound?

 

I'll look at some positions tomorrow:)

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Just to clarify my goals:

 

In Aus you, and for my particular degree, full time studying consists of studying 3 - 4 subjects. 1 or 2 subjects is part time, and you don't get study allowance.

 

I can get over 400 a fortnight if I study full time. On top of that, I can earn extra money without the government taking any away.

 

The government takes away much of what u earn if you're on unemployment benefits and u work casually.

 

My best bet I have decided, is to study 3 subjects a d get student allowance, and to be a live in nanny so that I also get additional cash.

 

I would use student allowance to live, and get the extra 200 - 300 from my live in nanny position.

 

I would save up to 300 a week doing this.

 

I just needed to talk through the goals I have for this year.

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