Jump to content

Satu's Journal

  • entries
  • comments
  • views

The Manic Defences of the Rebound.



Rebound relationships are fuelled by a desperate attempt to escape the pain caused by loss.


"Smallness, dependence, separateness, feeling you have injured your good object, are all fairly obvious to the eye and not easily denied if one is facing reality. But reality is pretty painful much of the time in childhood, even when you have an intact family that is living harmoniously. Most children naturally gravitate to wishful ideas, the most fundamental of all being the idea that there is magic, and you can have it and instantly erase all of the pains I just outlined.


Every area of life that lends itself to the possibility that there might be magic will be seized for the use as magic. If I put on mom’s bra, it will magically give me breasts and I can feed myself. If I pick up daddy’s cordless drill, I will be able to do anything he can do, maybe even marry mom and be her husband."


Source here.


A rebound relationship is used as a magic charm to evade pain.

  • Like 1

1 Comment

Recommended Comments

Hello dear I just verify your details from this site and I find it interesting and i would like to become your friend so that we can share ideas and thing together. You can mail me back on ([email protected]) if you don`t mind.

Link to comment
Add a comment...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Restore formatting

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

  • Create New...