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Caught husband cheating and dont know how to get this out of my mind


loera

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I caught my husband cheating a month ago. I had suspected of him cheating for some time but could never prove it because he is so secretive. So, I purchased a voice recorder and finally caught him having a phone conversation with the OW.

 

Faced with the facts he admitted to it. But only because I confronted him with the facts. At first he tried denying the whole situation but then when I repeated every word he and the OW said to each other, he admitted to it.

 

I wanted to leave him but did not because I do not want our children to grow up with separated parents. However, I am not sure how much longer I can stay in this marriage because I cant stop thinking about him having a year long affair.

 

In addition, I think he is going through depression due to the breakup of the affair. He always looks sad and gets irritated and angry very easily. Furthermore, he comes up with all types of excuses at night to not have sex. He says that he doesnt want me to leave him but then he rejects me.

 

I am really trying to make this work but I am running out of reasons. All I do is cry and I feel like I am going crazy. I cant sleep at night and I cant stop thinking about the affair all day long. My self esteem is shot and all I want to do is lay in bed. Why did he do this to me? I dont understand.

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maybe you guys should seek counseling to see what is going on with him. I know exactly what you going through. My husband did that. You guys have to learn how to forgive each other and move forward. I understand you want to keep your family together but you have to think about your happiness. If he is not willing to move forward and you done all you can then you move forward. Being depressed crying all the time is no fun.

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I am in the same boat...I just can't prove it ..lmaybe u could help...I feel crazy ..but things r adding up...she had a hand print on her inner right thigh like pinky finger was close to knee her the pointer right up close to the u know..thing outside ..a look to be hickey on boob...I have not got any ..I mean any kind if loving it went from all the time to handjobs to nothing ..so wasn't my hands ..she would leave early for work come home late...she bought ..2yoga mats ..one grey and yellow..and a pink ...and was goin to goin a gym ...we have a gym and all tht in our resort type apt ..oh when she got this stuff ..she said she was stuck in traffic...

Some one would call with blocked call and just sit their ..she would take phone to bathroom and be their forever ...

Does any of this stuff sound similar to u ????

So as time went she called my fam in pa to see if I were to go visit ..well my aunt moved I with my parents cuz she is very sick so not a good time ...she tried to get me to rehab ...I drink but not a drunk ..just a stay at home dad for a dog ..so drink all day but not a drunk ...then she was so mean one fri ..she came home early ..I said hey she screammed leave me alone ...so I took a few walkers watched couple movies ..rode my bike ...was goin to cook dinner she flipped out ..I grabbed her arms yellin Wht is wrong snap out of this (dr changed her depression meds ) ...pit attacked me ..she called cops I got arrested ..so I flew to pa ...

She was also telling me for say a month before all of this to go out with whoever a girl a guy whoever ...and she wanted more time to herself ...

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