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Old 7th March 2019, 11:10 PM   #16
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or for kicks don't mention it at all. Go home with him after the date, go down on him and then part way through, yell "oh sh*t, I need to run to my car, I forgot to take my antiviral!" and then see if alphamale is right.
You win... just laughed out loud. I needed that. Thanks!
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Old 7th March 2019, 11:19 PM   #17
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Good points crispytoast. I was thinking indeed he is a little rusty in dating although he has been dating in this year since divorce.

lol re: the bj + antiviral.

I did hug him though. He knew I had a hard day and I said I needed a hug... he gave me a super strong one. I also touched his arm sometimes. I mean how else could I show interest? ahh. Not used to this.

Thanks for the cute compliment
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Old 7th March 2019, 11:24 PM   #18
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Btw if he got interested in me in “that” way, wouldn’t he invite me for a regular date too? If he only invites me to concerts I will think we are indeed only concert buddies

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Maybe wait to see if he contacts you again and if the concert is getting close and he still hasn't, try asking him "hey were you still trying to see that concert" and see what he says.
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Old 7th March 2019, 11:28 PM   #19
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Btw if he got interested in me in “that” way, wouldn’t he invite me for a regular date too? If he only invites me to concerts I will think we are indeed only concert buddies
concerts ARE the best dates edgy
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Old 7th March 2019, 11:29 PM   #20
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Good point alpha. Honestly it was a perfect date despite the not kissing part.

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Old 8th March 2019, 12:05 AM   #21
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concerts ARE the best dates edgy
Strongly disagree. I love concerts but too loud to hear the person next to you.
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Old 8th March 2019, 1:04 AM   #22
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Edgygirl I'm having to say the same thing I said to you on another one of your threads: You're being a guy.
As a woman, you should just believe that every man you are attracted to will be attracted to you. And if he isn't now, he will be. (Assuming he's not already taken and his age is compatible.) It's not being conceited or thinking that men are easy. It's being trusting that men will recognize your goodness and your value.
So be patient, don't over think it. Let your feminine charm do its thing. It's not easy to find someone you really like, so don't spoil it with doubts.
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Old 8th March 2019, 2:37 AM   #23
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So maybe he thought I was contagious?
Were you contagious?? It would definitely put me off. Maybe he’s careful after his wife doing the dirty on him. I don’t think it’s a big deal if he doesn’t go for a first date kiss, given how you met and the fact he asked you for coffee after. Wait and see.
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Old 8th March 2019, 4:30 AM   #24
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Hey Gretchen I don’t think you said that in my threads. I guess I’m just used to men being attracted to me and demonstrating it. Do you think it’s okay for things to develop slowly? He reminds me of my college BF - it took one month going out with him until he finally kissed me and we were together for 3 years.

smiley1 to be honest I don’t know if I was as contagious as I shouldn’t have gone to a walk-in clinic nurse (lesson learned!). Went to my doctor and she’s redoing exams that were not done as needed. What do you think the coffee part has to do with it? That he showed interest in spending more time together after, and someone not interested wouldn’t do it?

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Were you contagious?? It would definitely put me off. Maybe he’s careful after his wife doing the dirty on him. I don’t think it’s a big deal if he doesn’t go for a first date kiss, given how you met and the fact he asked you for coffee after. Wait and see.
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Old 8th March 2019, 8:20 AM   #25
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edgy girl. I am a Protagonist on the Myers Briggs scale.
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Old 8th March 2019, 10:44 AM   #26
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edgy girl. I am a Protagonist on the Myers Briggs scale.
What does that mean Mysterio?
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...I mean how else could I show interest?
You could ask him out... Tell him there is a local art festival, art walk, or museum you are going to check out (this weekend), would he like to join you?? Something like this isn't too serious, make it a day date and see where it goes.

It would definitely show him you are interested in him, as you want to spend more time with him.
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Protagonist? Which type is that specifically. I know a lot about MB but never heard of it.

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Old 8th March 2019, 1:31 PM   #29
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Do you think it’s okay for things to develop slowly?
Absolutely. You have to let the idea of being with you mature in his mind. For that to happen you just be your lovely self, and he'll do the rest.
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Old 8th March 2019, 3:45 PM   #30
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You could ask him out... Tell him there is a local art festival, art walk, or museum you are going to check out (this weekend), would he like to join you?? Something like this isn't too serious, make it a day date and see where it goes.

It would definitely show him you are interested in him, as you want to spend more time with him.
I’m betting he knows she is interested. Sit back and see if he asks you out again and assume it’s a date again. I suspect he will ask again. Don’t fret so much if things don’t get physical ASAP, doesn’t mean he isn’t interested. If he wasn’t interested then he would have not offered coffee so he could get away quicker. Whether it’s friendship or romantic interest, really have to see how it plays out.
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