Maybe a lame question, but...How do you know if a stripper is interested in you?

[Star Gazer]

You know what I mean.

 

Body language is 90% of all human communication. Of course she gets naked..... but what I am saying is this:

 

How does she look at you when you talk?

 

Does she play with her hair while you talk?

 

Does she touch you at all during conversation?

 

Basically, the same things you would examine with any woman.

 

Ummm... I've had STRAIGHT female strippers do this to ME to get MY money!

 

Strippers sell fantasies... fantasies that they want to be with YOU, that YOU are the ONE person in that entire place that they want to bed/be with/etc. They do all of the above things (and obviously a lot more) in order to sell that fantasy and get your money.

 

I would honestly think that the ONLY way you'd know a stripper was interested in you is if she flat out gave you her phone number or asked you to take her home. That's it. There are no other "signs" with a stripper. There just can't be...

[PussInHeels]

I probably would be hesitant to date a stripper myself. Not to say this stripper in question is any less favorable or any less worthy than another woman (there are all kinds of women who strip for different reasons); however, due to the nature of the often unpleasant work environment, it is more probable that a stripper would be more, oh I dunno, complicated than other women. Plus she's working anyways. You wouldn't ask a flight attendant out because she gave you an extra pillow and more peanuts than everyone else, right? Apply the same to strippers.

[riobikini]

re:

 

JackofHearts: " Maybe a lame question, but...How do you know if a stripper is interested in you?

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#1 -if it's *you* she keeps dancing in front of.

 

#2 -if you keep smiling and *she* keeps smiling -and you keep pulling money out of your wallet.

 

#3 -if she just happens to mention how "special" you are coinciding with something about her rent being wa-a-y past due.

 

#4 -if you keep showing up.

 

#5 -if you give her things like money, attention, money, attention, money...

 

#6 -if she offers to stop working if you'll "take care" of her.

 

#7 -if you are the kind of man she's really been looking for all her life: someone to share bad habits with, who'll believe all the things she says, and buy her "nice things".

 

#9 -if she gives you her phone number right away and calls you "Suga" on the fourth or fifth ring.

 

#10 -if she likes your friends even better than *you* do.

 

Is that clear enough?

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio

[JackofHearts]

Riobikini....LOL....I see what you're getting at. Although none of those things have happened, I like how you laid out that post.

[westernxer]

A stripper likes you when your wallet is thick.

[Porn_Guy]

i've known dudes who are totally ignorant who wasted thousands of dollars in strip clubs on particular girls they thought were interested in them. These fools became regulars and would drop a couple hunderd per night just so they could mononpolize her for a few hrs getting dances and talking. HAH aHAH a Hah H Aah H AhAAH

 

The strippers drive home in their leased Lexuses to go home to thier bad boy and have sex with him while her purse is loaded with ca$h. hah a haahaa

 

meanwhile their "customer" is at home spankin' the monkey and doesn't even have enought money to get a burritoe supreme from taco hell. ahah ahahahaha a h hah ahha

[sb129]

You know a stripper is into you if she gives you her number. This has happened to me four times, but granted I've been to strip clubs ALOT.

 

One woman was caught and she was fined for giving me her number. I didn't ask for it (I didn't ask any of them), but felt terrible none-the-less. Needless to say I didn't call.

 

Of the four I dated one. A fisety black one. She broke my nose on Valentines Day and that was the last stripper I've dated.

 

Why doesn't that surprise me BFR??

[Porn_Guy]

well B4R....many workers in the sex trades carry mulitple cell phones. one is for the personal lives and one for their "clients". for some funny reason they like to keep their two lives seperate.

[Asafan]

When she sucks your dick for free!

[CaliGuy]

i've known dudes who are totally ignorant who wasted thousands of dollars in strip clubs on particular girls they thought were interested in them. These fools became regulars and would drop a couple hunderd per night just so they could mononpolize her for a few hrs getting dances and talking. HAH aHAH a Hah H Aah H AhAAH

 

The strippers drive home in their leased Lexuses to go home to thier bad boy and have sex with him while her purse is loaded with ca$h. hah a haahaa

 

meanwhile their "customer" is at home spankin' the monkey and doesn't even have enought money to get a burritoe supreme from taco hell. ahah ahahahaha a h hah ahha

 

Alpha, I'm guessing you're speaking from personal experience?

[emmaUK]

ok im gonna be honest with you all.... b4 i had my daughter i used to be a stripper.. so i will tell u from an ex strippers opinion

 

all of the girls in the club want to make u feel good so you will part with your money.. some of them are better at it then others and know exactly wot to say and wot to do to make a guy feel comfortable enough to part with his cash.

its all part of the sales process... the better a stripper is at her job.. the more relaxed, comfortable, sexy, horney etc etc she will make the guy feel coz its then he is most likely to hand over big wads of cash

 

the ONLY way you can tell if she is interested in more is if she tells you.. .

dont even try to guess by body language etc etc coz the whole flirting process is part of the job

 

most places are very strict on meeting up with customers though so 99% of the girls do not want to put thier job on the line.

 

if u really wanna find out then ask her

[emmaUK]

and even if u dpo exchange numbers be wary.. coz she may try n keep up the cash gaining process when u r out of the club

[JackofHearts]

Thanks for your perspective EmmaUK. It's very valuable coming from someone who was in the business. I've found all that you say to be true. I just don't understand why this one girl that I refer to doesn't want to take any money from me.

[Sevenmack]

Ah, dating strippers. Been there. Done that. Fun but not satisfying. In all honesty, you'd be better off expanding your dating opportunities through networking in business and what-have-you. The strip club is for fun, not for love.

 

As for her refusing the money? Perhaps she's into you and therefore afraid of taking the money because she will then see you as her 'john.' That's the problem of women being in the sex industry: When you sell your tail for money -- especially when you generally use sex to show affection for lovers -- all relationships become perverted. The stripper can't see her boyfriends and lovers as relationships, but as sources of commerce. That renders her damaged goods (not that the rest of us aren't).

[JackofHearts]

LOL....For the last time...I'm not looking to date a stripper!

[emmaUK]

so i cant understand.... why did u ask then??

wot r u looking for

[morrigan]

I just don't understand why this one girl that I refer to doesn't want to take any money from me.

 

If she does this a lot, she's either inexperienced about handling customers or thinks you're nice. Whatever the reason, it's not a smart move for her income wise. It's not charity work for needy men. It's a sales job, she has to chat and use body language in hopes of getting customers to become regulars. Some of the girls have great personas in the club. Ask her out--she's no stranger to it--and go from there.

 

I have a friend who worked in this business a long time, she's pretty much said the same things EmmaUK posted.

[clatan]

Ask her out? I couldn't do that. There's only been 2 girls I've ever asked out, and I'm just a mess in that situation....I start shaking and I feel like I'm going to throw up.

 

I understand what you're saying, but think about it this way...

 

This being a strip club, you've at least seen her half naked I assume? I see you mentioned that she returned you money to you, so I'm assuming you've gotten a table dance, if not a lap dance from her on at least one occassion? So you've asked her to shake her thong clad booty in your face, yet you're nervous about asking her on a simple date?! If there's more to this, please explain?!

[RecordProducer]

Some people have told you that she isn't really into you, that she just wants your money, and that might be the case. The other option was that she just wants someone to take care of her financially, which might as well be the case.

 

But there is this little possibility that she just might want to meet the right person (don't we all, if we haven't yet?) and rely on them. If she really likes you, you can make it work. I think a person with a bad past who became a stripper is just that - a person with a bad past. I don't think she is a slut. I think women who are cheaters and liars are worse catches than strippers. For them it's just a job, not a way of life, unless they are engaged in prostitution.

But I shouldn't really talk, cuz I did singing gigs and couldn't stand the guys who would approach me and ask for my phone number, etc. I had the freedom to ditch them and I still felt humiliated just by the fact that they were attracted to me and wanted to talk to me. For me that was worse than hell. I ignored them and they thought I was very rude.

 

My point is just that the mindset of a girl who can actually sit down and talk to the guests for money must be very different from mine. They must be immune to things like dignity and pride when they make it a goal to earn money like that.

[Porn_Guy]

I think a person with a bad past who became a stripper is just that - a person with a bad past. I don't think she is a slut. I think women who are cheaters and liars are worse catches than strippers. For them it's just a job, not a way of life, unless they are engaged in prostitution.

oh so then you wouldn't mind her babysitting your children?

[RecordProducer]

oh so then you wouldn't mind her babysitting your children?

Hm... you have a point - she is most likely screwed up emotionally and intellectually. I certainly have the prejudice that she wouldn't be reliable and honest enough for me to put my children's lives in her hands or even leave her alone in my house. If I were a man, I wouldn't date her either, unless I've known her for many years and she has proven to be a nice, honorable person. Prejudices are deadly, what can I say?

 

When I think of strippers, I imagine women who have come so low in their lives, that it has altered their self-respect and self-conscience into a form where they don't care about decency, they are ready to do anything to survive, and their moral values are flushed away. I believe that a person who has lost self-respect, can't respect others, because OTHERS have made her lead that kind of life, others have destroyed her happiness, self-esteem, and stamina. Very often, it's dignity that helps us sustain and endure life difficulties, because we have nothing else left.

[Star Gazer]

 

When I think of strippers, I imagine women who have come so low in their lives, that it has altered their self-respect and self-conscience into a form where they don't care about decency, they are ready to do anything to survive, and their moral values are flushed away. I believe that a person who has lost self-respect, can't respect others, because OTHERS have made her lead that kind of life, others have destroyed her happiness, self-esteem, and stamina. Very often, it's dignity that helps us sustain and endure life difficulties, because we have nothing else left.

 

I totally agree.

 

I once represented a strip club in a lawsuit involving a bar brawl where tons of people were injured... I had to go out and interview every single stripper working that evening. The life stories these girls volunteered completely changed my perception of strippers. They're not sluts (necessarily), they're just very sad girls who feel as though they have nothing left...

[Yamaha]

I disagree....they may consciously think the above but they're really looking for the abusive bad boy who will drink and do drugs with her and reinforce her total lack of self-esteem. The strippers are not looking for "nice guy" such as CaliGuy. They are looking for someone who will treat them even worse than they've already been treated in the past.

 

The strip clubs are full of "nice guy" and all the stripper do is take their money and the dumb nice guy goe home and masturbate to her image.....ha haha

 

Word....

They love a nice guy who they can talk to and pass their time at work. Many will conform to whoever their clientèle is as any good employee paying attention to their customer.

[Porn_Guy]

Word....

They love a nice guy who they can talk to and pass their time at work. Many will conform to whoever their clientèle is as any good employee paying attention to their customer.

ha ha I can see the proverbial "nice guy" at strip club emptying his wallet and worshiping the girls as Gods....all the while with love in their eyes. ha ahah ah ha