noforgiveness Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 You ladies seriously need help if you are going to taunt this woman.
yousaveme Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Not taunting.....You asked if I did anything wrong. NOPE. He liked everything
peacelove Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Yousaveme, Are you taunting someone? Peace
Freedom Now Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Nah, if the blanket is met with foul play he will know our dear Miss Polly is responsible and make life difficult for her, perhaps take her belongings and do away with them. The answer here is in the Kool Aid. A light dusting in a similar color as the blanket will make WS sweat in technicolor. If this is true: if Polly destroys the blanket and her beloved husband makes life miserable for her, she has some hard decisions to make. This marriage reeks of disrespect. At the very least, she needs to incorporate some tough love. He is disrespecting her to her face. And she deserves better than that.
Freedom Now Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I'm confused.... That's because YOUR brain got switched with Barbie's on Christmas morning. Remember???? :bunny: :bunny:
peacelove Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I know. You already said you were confused.
peacelove Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Now that's what I'm talking about. Thank you!!!!!!
peacelove Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Are you talking about Mr. Bigglesworth? Or Noforgiveness?
pureinheart Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 No counseling. Our marriage has been basically over. We only go on for the kids. He sleeps mainly on the sofa when he is home. Hey Polly, I am so sorry about your situation....it does sound as if the M is over....the best thing for you to do is to forget about them and think about YOU, get counceling for YOU. staying in this for the kids is not healthy for you, and what is not healthy for you is not healthy for them....
peacelove Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I think your eyes are acting up again yousaveme. That's some bad spelling.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Romeo, that is classic! Kool-aid is definately the answer! Polly, I can very much appreciate the situation that you are in, its a hard choice but an even harder row to hoe. I keep a list of why I've chosen the path I have and reread it on days when I can't even fathom what line of thinking led me to my decision. I do have boundries though - there will be NO rubbing of it in my face, do that and watch my head spin and get ready to clean pea soup off your shoes.
Buttaflyy Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Some of you guys are so disrespectful and childish. Polly, as it's been said. Your situation is not doing any good for your kids. They know and understand what is going on and are probably hurting because of it. You deserve respect and as a mom, you want to give your kids a better outlook on a healthy R. Hugs to you!
NearlyThere Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 My husband brought home a blanket. He didnt say a word about it. he put it on his favorite chair and there it sits. I have a feeling this came from HER. How do I know for sure? Polly - I said this before when you posted on this forum, you really are posting in the wrong place, you need to be on the infidelity forum and I dont mean that in a nasty or mean way. Post away on the OW/OM forum by all means, however most people on here will remember you calling them sick last time, so how much help you will get is debatable, so to move on, I have read alot of posts on the infidelity forum and there are some very good points about how you can empower yourself and feel better no matter what the outcome of your sitch. You sound like you have either just given up or dont know what to do next, you need to decide what YOU want to do. If you want to save your M, then get yourself an action plan together, fight dirty if you have to, pull out all the stops, do whatever it takes. But please do something, dont let him walk all over you, its not good for your self-esteem. On the other hand, if you want to get a D or you think he might pull a blinder and ask for one, be the equivalent of a boy scout, "be prepared". Ask people either on Infidelity or Separation/Divorce how to do this, how to be ready for D-day albeit, yours or his. Make sure you are not robbed blind and/or have evidence of the infidelity if/when it comes to it. I have seen the threads but a bit short of time to find all the links to show you, not that I dont want to. Take a look at these threads they might give you some food for thought. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t106880/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t105990/ And despite the fact that I am an OW, I do wish you all the best. As to the blanket itself, you have no way of knowing for sure but I would go for the kool-aid, I dont know what it is being in the UK, but it sounds like a good plan.
puddleofmud Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 For goodness sakes, this is YOUR home, even if you are just cohabitating for the children. If you don't want the "blanket" there then sit down w/ your H when the children are absent and tell him to REMOVE it or you will. If he doesn't like he can leave and stay gone. No more couch, no more blanket, no more of his crap! Is it plausible that he is pushing your buttons so you WILL throw him out? If so this probably won't be the last time he does something like this... Please do go to counseling just for you as it seems you may not be setting healthy boundaries for yourself--which is by no means an insult to you, but you need a plan as to how to work things out (get some control) in your own home. His behavior is avoidant, mean and just plain stupid. Though you may not be able to control that; through counseling you may be able to control your responses. Sadly it seems you are the only emotional asset for your children in the home so going to counseling may be of help for them as well. Best wishes to you and sorry you are having to put up with this.
puddleofmud Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 hmmm kind of funny. This sounds like yousaveme's mm's wife. Maybe you should do a search on yousaveme's posts. hmmm NF: that was just plain ugly of you! You may have no respect for certain posters but it would behoove you to have more respect for yourself! Do you have so much time as to just cause problems for others? Is that what life is about for you? I certainly hope not...
pureinheart Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Some of you guys are so disrespectful and childish. Polly, as it's been said. Your situation is not doing any good for your kids. They know and understand what is going on and are probably hurting because of it. You deserve respect and as a mom, you want to give your kids a better outlook on a healthy R. Hugs to you! Hey Buttaflyy....I checked back to a previous thread "My friend and her husband"....it was around Dec 7th, so is priddy recent....it'll give understanding as to the reaction from the ladies....
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