GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 But he was the one who said we were done and I responded to that with NC so why is he now trying to suck me back in? I am not sure about that I think it is because he does not want to explain to his wife. Because that is what MM do...he doesn't really need a reason...and let him come up with something on his own to tell his W...I think that you should stick to no contact, unless you want to continue the A...
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 But he was the one who said we were done and I responded to that with NC so why is he now trying to suck me back in? I am not sure about that I think it is because he does not want to explain to his wife. Because when you went NC you took the control away from him.
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 That make sense now so should I continue NC even though it is the holidays and his kids love playing with my kids. You don't think he wants me to talk to him because he is soley trying to keep things copestatic or because he thinks he can still get what he wants from me sexually?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 That make sense now so should I continue NC even though it is the holidays and his kids love playing with my kids. You don't think he wants me to talk to him because he is soley trying to keep things copestatic or because he thinks he can still get what he wants from me sexually? Stick to no contact, if you want to remain married...I am sure the kids will always like playing with each other, no matter the season...you need to decide what you want to do, then stick to it, no matter what he says or does...
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 You don't think he wants me to talk to him because he is soley trying to keep things copestatic or because he thinks he can still get what he wants from me sexually? I think thats EXACTLY why. He is testing the waters. Hoping that you have missed him enough to allow things to continue the way they were
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Why do we both do this power struggle? Snce we are both married we both have alot to lose so what is the point ? I still have alot of feelings for him and I think he knows I am strong enough to get over him. Does he not want me to get over him?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Why do we both do this power struggle? Snce we are both married we both have alot to lose so what is the point ? I still have alot of feelings for him and I think he knows I am strong enough to get over him. Does he not want me to get over him? Of course he doesn't want you to get over him...knowing that you are pining away for him boosts his ego...
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Does he not want me to get over him? DUH!!!!!!!!!!! Of course not!!!!!!!!! If he did he would have let you go the first time you tried NC.
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Bonehead you are funny, here is my second "but" why did he break it off last week. Was it in response to my breaking it of the day before. This sounds so High School!!
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Bonehead you are funny, here is my second "but" why did he break it off last week. Was it in response to my breaking it of the day before. This sounds so High School!! FF, I just saw the lightbulb come on above your head!!!!!!! YA GOT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 okay so where do I go from here? I am still not over him so maybe I should try to avoid him until I don't want anything from him?
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 okay so where do I go from here? I am still not over him so maybe I should try to avoid him until I don't want anything from him? whats this maybe cr*p????
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 are you being tough love on me? You know how hard NC was for just a week. Trying to avoid him was hard because he lives close to me. Can we go back to being friends without any benefits?
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 are you being tough love on me? You know how hard NC was for just a week. Trying to avoid him was hard because he lives close to me. Can we go back to being friends without any benefits? Do you still have feelings for him? Is he still trying to over step boundries you have placed??? Sounds like the answer to both of those is yes which makes the answer to your question NO!!!!!
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 are you being tough love on me? Nope, Im just an a*shole!!!!
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Okay so why does he still say he knows we both have alot to lose and he wants to be just friends? Oh I forgot to mention he tried to kiss me on the cheek and made references to his excitement if you know what I mean . He said of course I want you, but why can't we still talk and hang out with the kids. What do you make of all that? I don't think he is saying let's start from where we left off?
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 How can you be a A*hole if you help people for a living?
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Okay so why does he still say he knows we both have alot to lose and he wants to be just friends? Oh I forgot to mention he tried to kiss me on the cheek and made references to his excitement if you know what I mean . He said of course I want you, but why can't we still talk and hang out with the kids. What do you make of all that? I don't think he is saying let's start from where we left off? He tried to kiss you, talked about what you do to him. No he doesn't want to pick up where you left off, he wants to pick up in a horizontal position!!!!!!!
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I think he tried to kiss me because earlier I told him how much he hurt me by some of his e-mails. I really don't think he wants to start something again. Am i being naive?
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I think he tried to kiss me because earlier I told him how much he hurt me by some of his e-mails. I really don't think he wants to start something again. Am i being naive? YES!!!! You dont tell a woman that you have a history with that she excites you if all you want is friends!!!!!!!!!!
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Okay I get it. So now what do I do? Don't be anywhere near him!!
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Okay I get it. So now what do I do? Don't be anywhere near him!! EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
forbidden fruit Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Easier said than done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Easier said than done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I realize that. But you have to do that or you really will get pulled back in. He already knows you have a hard time sticking to NC and every time you break it it just gets that much harder the next time you try. And right now you are to the point where you will even take just friends just so you can be around him. He has already in his own little way ( Ok, most mens way ) let you know what his intentions are. So just friends will work into FWB.
forbidden fruit Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I am back and thinking what I am suppossed to do with my MM.Tomorrow is the day we are supposed to talk and everyone has talked me out of it. I know I shouldn't and part of me doesn't want to and part of me wants to so badly. I don't think I am done with this yet. I am not sure what I want . I do know I am not ready to have him completely out of my life. Am I just being weak.
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